Yebo, izinsuku zegolide zidlula, futhi umyeni onothando kakhulu uba ngumuntu ovamile. Kodwa lona wesifazane uhlelwe kahle kangangokuthi udinga ukunakekelwa nsuku zonke, njalo ngomzuzu. Imvelo yakhe isolisa futhi inomhawu. Umfazi uqala ukukhathazeka ngokuthi umyeni wakhe uwile othandweni, wathola omunye, akafuni ukuba naye futhi. Umyeni naye ukholelwa ukuthi umkakhe ufuna okuningi: udinga ukusebenza, akakwazi ukudansa usuku lonke ngaphambi kwakhe, futhi ngokujwayelekile, akanaso isimo sengqondo.
Indlela yokugcina isithakazelo somyeni wakhe?
Ngaphambi kokuzibuza, nokuthi unakekele kanjani umyeni wakho, kungcono ukuzibuza ukuthi ungayilahlekelwa kanjani. Unganiki ukuphila komndeni ukukhahlela ngaphakathi kwendlela. Yebo-ke, umfazi upheka ukudla, ukudla izingubo zokugqoka, abahlengikazi abantwana, kodwa akakhohlwa umzuzu ukuthi naye ungowesifazane.
Omunye akufanele avumele indoda ukuba ilahlekelwe inzalo. Akufanele avuke ekuseni, njengokungathi uyazi ukuthi uzokwenzani nokuzwa. Uma umshayeli omdala ebiza, ungayiphenduli ngokuzikhukhumeza futhi uphinde ukhuphuke ngokushesha, ungathulisa futhi udlale ngothando. Uma ukuziphatha komyeni kukhathazeka, ungakhuluma ngale ndlela ngale ndlela, ngobumnene, njengowesifazane, kodwa ngokucacile.
Ungabuyiselwa kanjani inzalo?
Kodwa kuthiwani uma indoda isivele ilahlekelwe intshisekelo? Indlela engcono kakhulu yokumenza ahlale eqaphele, engaqondakali, elula kakhulu - udinga ukuhlala uqobo. Lokhu kuyokwanela ukuthi akazwa ukuthi unomkakhe 100%. Uzoba nomuzwa wokuthi ingxenye ethile yemvelo yakhe ayiyona eyakhe, kodwa umuntu ngokwemvelo ungumhloli wamazwe kanye nomnqobi.
Abesifazane abaningi emva kweminyaka eminingi bemishado baqala ukuzwa ukuthi umyeni ulahlekelwe yisithakazelo sakhe socansi. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi indoda ithanda amehlo akhe. Kumele uzibheke esibukweni. Kudingeka sikhumbule ukuthi ubuhlobo buqala kanjani. Khona-ke umfazi wesikhathi esizayo wagcwala amehlo, wayethandana nomuntu okhethiwe, wamkhathaza kancane, wayethanda kakhulu, wakhetha izingubo zokugqoka nezingubo zangaphansi.
Zonke lezi zinto ezizobuyela emndenini akukaze ziphuze futhi umyeni njengento encane encane, evula umlomo wakhe, uzobuka umkakhe, ngoba uyamthanda, futhi inzalo-ibhizinisi elitholile.