Umlingani ofanelekayo uyaphupho labesifazane bonke. Noma kunjalo, empilweni kaningi kakhulu kukhona abantu abahlangabezana nazo zonke izidingo zethu, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kufika ukuqaphela ukuthi akukho kubo, kodwa kithi. Ungathola kanjani umlingani ohle, uma ngezinye izikhathi ungazi ukuthi yini oyifunayo?
Isithombe somlingani onokuhle okuhle
Ukuze uthole umlingani omuhle wokuphila, udinga ukwazi ukuthi yini oyifunayo. Kufana nokuthenga: uma nje uhamba ngothenga, ngaphandle kwecebo elicacile, cishe uzothola lokho okudingayo. Futhi uma unquma ukuthi udinga izingubo ezibomvu, uzobe ulalele kuphela izingubo ezibomvu futhi uthole kalula lokho okufunayo.
Yiqiniso, nomlingani ofanele uzoba nzima nakakhulu, ngoba zonke izici zobuntu bokubukeka komuntu ngokushesha aziqondi. Kodwa ukwazi ukuthi yini oyifunayo, okungenani, ungasula kalula labo ongabazi.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, zenzele isithombe somlingani ofanelekayo kuwo. Kumele udalule konke okubalulekile kuwe. Isibonelo, amagama akho abathandayo abathandayo, izici zokubukeka, izimpawu zodiac ezikufanele, ukuthi yini okufanele abe ngumlutha, ukuthi yini okufanele ulalele, lapho uya khona. Vele ubhale uhlu lwe "taboos": isibonelo, uma umuntu elele, uzimisele ukukhaphela noma ukuphuza, futhi awuwuthandi kakhulu, kulula ukulahla ngokushesha inketho enjalo. Uma udinga umlingani omuhle wocansi, kufanelekile ukuphawula imingcele yawo kwezocansi (emva kwakho konke, akuwona wonke umuntu ongahle asebenze ngezocansi kanye nezinto).
Ngakho-ke, uzobe ubala ngokucacile mayelana nokuthi ubani ofuna ukubona eduze kwakho, futhi wonke umuntu obonakala empilweni yakho uzobonakala kalula ngokuthi "inketho" noma "hhayi okukhethwa kukho."
Ukuthola umlingani ophelele
Ungakwazi ukuhlangana nomlingani omuhle noma kuphi. Noma kunjalo, uma impilo yakho iyindlela yomsebenzi, futhi usebenza ku
Ukuheha umuntu ofanelekayo kungaba noma yikuphi, kodwa udinga ukubheka ubuhlakani kuwo wonke umzuzu wokuphila kwakho nendawo okumele ube kuyo. Vakashela izindawo zokuthenga, ama-cinema, amathilomu lapho abantu abaneminyaka abanesithakazelo abaya khona. Zama ukuba kaningi emgwaqweni futhi ungalahli abantu obaziyo ekubandleni. Emva kwakho konke, lo muntu ongahleliwe cishe ungumlingani omuhle kuwe.