Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi manje kufaneka ukuba ngumsizi, noma kuyisijeziso sikaNkulunkulu, okuyinto okunzima ukulwa nayo futhi ayikwazi ukuqedwa nganoma iyiphi indlela. Mhlawumbe, kubantu abathile, ukukhathazeka kuyindlela yokuzivikela, isimiso esiyingqayizivele sokuziphatha. Noma kunjalo, ukugxeka kungcono noma kubi, yilokho okudingeka sikuqonde.
Abantu ngabantu
Ukucabangela noma ukugxekwa ngokuvamile kubonakala njengengqondo engacacile, engenangqondo futhi ehloniphayo emigomweni yokuziphatha komphakathi, amasiko noma abantu abanomqondo wokuphakama.
Kuyini "indoda engamanga" okusho abaningi akuyona imfihlo. Wonke umuntu unakho ukuqonda kwakhe kokugxeka kanye nesimo sengqondo esibi noma esiqondile esiye sathuthukisa esimweni esinjalo. Ngokwalo, lesi senzakalo asikwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi sibi noma sihle. "Isimo sethu sengqondo, ukuhlolwa kwethu okuzithobayo, kwenza kube" okubi "noma" okuhle ".
Emphilweni yanamuhla, ukugxeka kunelungelo lokuba khona. Ngoba abaningi kuyindlela yokuzivikela ekuhlukumezeni nokungabi nabulungisa kwezwe elizungezile, okuyinto, ozovumelana nayo, ekhona emphakathini wethu.
Imicabango yocansi "zahazhivayut" ekhanda ngamunye wethu. Isifiso sokuphula noma yimiphi imigomo kanye nemigomo, njengombuso, ihlala engqondweni yethu. Ngokwempela, singathumela "esibhakabhakeni ngemuva kwenkanyezi" sonke esidlangalaleni, noma umuntu othize, futhi ngisho nokuzihlola njengabahlakaniphileyo futhi abahluke kakhulu.
Ukuhleka kwamahlaya kunomunye ukubonakaliswa komuntu onobugovu, okudinga ikhono. Ukuzijabulisa kufanele kubangele abanye bajabule futhi bahleke. Kodwa-ke, ama-cynics abadume kakhulu akwazi ukuhleka, kodwa aphumele umxhumanisi ngamahlaya akhethekile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udinga ukujwayela futhi ufunde ukuqonda lezi "chips", noma uzilahle ukukhulumisana nabantu abanocansi - gcina izinzwa zakho.
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Ekuboneni kokuqala, indoda engumngcwabo ishukumisela ukuzethemba, ukuheha ulaka, ubulili kanye nobulili. Lokhu, okwamanje, kube yisikhathi kuze kube yilapho isimo sengqondo sakhe sengqondo sithinta wena. Khona-ke qaphela, kuzodingeka ulwe noma uzinikele futhi uhlazeke ngokuhlazeka. Amadoda angama-cynical avame ukufana okufanayo - ngemuva kwamahlombe abo okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu bokuthandana nomuntu wesifazane, ukuthengiswa kwabangane, ukungabi nabulungisa kumuntu wabo. Ukuhluleka okunjalo okushiya imivimbo, ngisho nezibazi ezinhliziyweni, izizathu zokubheka okusebenza njengesizathu sokubonisa ukukhathazeka komuntu.
Amacikithi abesilisa athambekele ekuthandeni ubudlelwano obukhululekile obusekelwe ocansini nasemizwa. Imizwa, ikakhulukazi uthando, bayabuza, bangakholwa. Ngakho, okungenani bathi. Indoda enamahlaya isengozini kakhulu futhi ayitholakali, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokhu kungavumelana kanjani nalokhu. Ukubonisa ngaphandle amandla akhe nokuqina kwakhe, ufihla umphefumulo wakhe ngokucophelela, ukuze, ngesikhathi sesishiyagalolunye, umuntu angaphamuki lapho. Yebo, futhi kwenzeka ...
Mayelana neyethu, mayelana nentombazane
Owesifazane onamahlaya, njengendoda, angazibonakalisa ngale ndlela lapho edinga ukuvikelwa. Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, ukugxeka owesifazane kuyingxenye ebalulekile yesithombe se-lady-bitch. Lesi samanje manje sesithandwa kakhulu phakathi kwesigamu esihle sabantu. Amamagazini, izincwadi, imithombo ehlukahlukene ye-intanethi imane igcwele ulwazi mayelana nendlela nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ukuze ube yi-bitch. Emphakathini wanamuhla, ukuba i-bitch ihlonishwe, futhi yinto yobuciko bonke. I-Bitch akuyona owesifazane oyisimo esibucayi, kodwa owesifazane oqinile futhi ozimele. Futhi okulungile, ukuchotshoza okungenasisekelo akusho.
Ingabe kunengqondo ukucabangela umbuzo wokuthi ungabhubhisa kanjani ukukhathazeka, lapho abaningi bewumkhuba wokuphila. Kunoma yikuphi, ungaqeda ukukhathazeka uma ucabangisisa futhi uhlaziya impilo yakho, isipiliyoni sobuhlobo obudlule. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi uphukile, wesaba, uthethelelwe futhi uvumele ukuhamba kuzo zonke izinto ezingathandeki ezenza ube nesibindi futhi ungenalo. Ungathanda kuphela abantu emva kokuzithanda wena. Ukuthuka kwabanye kubandakanya nawe. Zithethelele amaphutha futhi uphonsa - lokhu nakho nakho. Uma uba nomusa, ngendlela emangalisayo konke kuguqulwa.