Ukufakela phambili ekufundeni kwengqondo - ukuthi kuyini, ukuzivocavoca, izibonelo

Ukumisa kabusha kuyindlela engokomfanekiso yokubeka "isithombe esakhiweni esisha", esakhiwe nguRichard Bendler noJohn Grinder. Noma yikuphi inkinga, isimo noma inkinga isekelwe emithonjeni enhle, ukuphindaphinda kusiza ukucubungula futhi ubone ukuthi kwenzekani esimweni esisha.

Kuyini ukuhlehlisa?

Ukumisa kabusha kuyisethi yamasu kwi-psychology enhle yesimanje, i- NLP , okusho ukuhlelwa kabusha noma ukucubungula kabusha umbono, ukuziphatha, ukucabanga, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukuqeda ukuziphatha okulimazayo (ukukhathazeka, neurotic, dependent). Indlela yokumisa kabusha isetshenziswa kabanzi kwezobuchwepheshe bebhizinisi, esiza ukuletha inhlangano entsha ezingeni lentuthuko.

Izinhlobo zokumisa kabusha

Ukumisa kabusha komuntu kwenziwa ngosizo lwamasu okukhuluma, ithonya legama nokungena ekhadini lamanani omuntu lishintsha umbono wakhe ngezimfanelo zakhe, isimo esibi esiye sakha. Kunezinhlobo ezimbili zokurhola kabusha:

1. Ukumisa kabusha umongo . Ukwamukelwa, ukusiza ukubona ukuziphatha, isimo, ikhwalithi ngokunikeza incazelo entsha, isibonelo, lapho ukuziphatha okungafuneki, umkhuba wamukelekile, futhi lapho kungenjalo. Ukushintsha umongo, indlela yokushintsha kokuqukethwe.
2. Ukumisa kabusha okuqukethwe . Isitatimende noma umyalezo unikezwa incazelo ehlukile ngokugxila kwenye ingxenye yalokho okuqukethwe. Ukusebenza kwalolu hlobo lokumisa kabusha kuncike ngokugcwele ekuqondeni ukuthi yini equkethe inkinga efunwa ngokuqondile.

Ukumisa kabusha ku-Psychology

I-psychotherapy enokuziphatha futhi enhle - ukuhlehlisa kabusha kusetshenziselwa ukushintsha umbono womuntu bese ufaka amaphuzu ombukiso amasha. Isazi sezengqondo sinikeza ukubuka umuntu ngesimo sabo, sibuza ukuthi ucabange ukuthi isimo siyisithombe, ongabheka ngokusihlela ngezakhiwo ezihlukene. Ukuvuselelwa kwengqondo - imiphumela yokwelapha:

• ukuvuselelwa kobunikazi beklayenti;
• ukubandakanyeka kwento yokudala;
• kunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo;
• ukwakheka kweminye indlela yokuziphatha esikhundleni se-neurotic.

Ukumisa kabusha ekuphatheni

Ukugxila enhlanganweni yanamuhla kuyishintsha kuhlaka oluhlelekile kunalo futhi esikhathini esizayo njengalokhu lungakhula. Imiphumela emihle yokusebenzisa ukuhlehlisa kabusha ekuphathweni:

• kusiza abaholi bamazinga ahlukene ukuhlanganisa imikhuba yokuphatha engcono;
• ukuheha ochwepheshe abakhulu;
• kushukumise abasebenzi ukuba benze umsebenzi wekhwalithi;
• ichaza amandla okusebenza;
• yakha umbono omusha nesifiso sokushintsha, umuzwa wokuthembeka enhlanganweni.

Ukumisa kabusha ekuthengiseni

Kuyini ukubuyiselwa kabusha kokuthengiswa kwaziwa kumthengisi ophumelelayo. Umthengi ngesikhathi esifanayo ubona izinzuzo zayo, kumthengisi - kuyindlela yokuphinde abone izimpahla futhi azishukumisele emiphumeleni emisha ekuthengiseni. Izinketho zokumisa kabusha:

• Ukugcizelela izinzuzo ("akukho isaphulelo somkhiqizo, kodwa esitolo sethu amanani aphansi kakhulu kulo mkhiqizo");
• Imibuzo ehlukile - umdayisi udonsela ukunakwa komthengi ekufanelekeni kwezimpahla, amasevisi (kungani ukhokhela umkhiqizo, uma ungathenga umkhiqizo ofanayo ngentengo engabizi kanye nokusebenza okuhle).

I-reframing technique

Ukunciphisa izinyathelo eziyisithupha - inqubo ecatshangwa yonke indawo ku-NLP, isiza ukusebenza nanoma iyiphi inkinga ngokufaka izinyathelo eziyisithupha. Umkhuba wokwenza okulula nokuvame ukwenziwa ezingeni elingenalutho. Imiphumela emihle kusuka kumkhuba:

• ukuthuthukisa ukuziphatha okusha, okukhiqizayo okukhiqizayo;
• umuntu uqala ukubona amathuba amasha lapho angawavumeli ngaphambilini;
• Ukubuyekezwa kabusha kwemicimbi kususa ukukhathazeka, kukuvumela ukuthi ubuke impilo ngokuqiniseka.

6 isinyathelo sokumisa kabusha

Isinyathelo esithandathu sokumisa kabusha, ukukwenziwa kobuchwepheshe:

1. Amazwi nokulinganisa kwenkinga, njengoba kubonakala. Isibonelo, ungathatha umkhuba ongafuneki noma ukuziphatha futhi uyibeke ngencwadi, inombolo noma umbala.
2. Ukusungulwa koxhumana naye ngengxenye yomuntu (engazi lutho) ophethe umkhuba. Ungabuza: "Ngifuna ukuxhumana nengxenye yami engabangela umkhuba." Kubalulekile ukucacisa okushiwo ukuxhumana, ukuthi kuzoba yini, izimpendulo "yebo" no "cha" noma ukuzwa emzimbeni.
3. Ukunqunywa kwenhloso enhle. Lapha libuza ukuthi le ngxenye izosiza ukuthola ukuthi yini efuna ukuzifeza yona ngokwayo ngokuziphatha okungafuneki noma umkhuba . Uma impendulo ingu "yebo," ungaqhubeka nokubuza imibuzo: "Uma ngabe unezinye izindlela eziphumelelayo ezifanayo zokuthola injongo, ungathanda ukuzizama? Uma impendulo inguye, kubalulekile ukuzibuza: "Ngikholelwa yini ukuthi ingqondo yami enganaki kahle inenhloso enhle, ngisho noma ingafuni ukungitshela manje?"
4. Isikhalo esiyingxenye yokudala. Ngaphandle kwengxenye eyenza ukuziphatha okungadingeki, kukhona ukudala. Kubalulekile ukubuza ukuziphatha kokuqala, ukulawula ukuxhumana ngenhloso enhle yokudala. Uma impendulo ingu "yebo", umuntu uphendukela engxenyeni yokudala nesicelo sokwenza okungenani izinhlobo ezintathu zokuziphatha eziwusizo nokubika lokhu ekulawuleni ukuziphatha okungathandeki.
5. Ukuhlelwa kwesivumelwano. Buza iyunithi yakho yokulawula ukuziphatha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ifuna ukusebenzisa inhlobo yamafomu amasha. Impendulo ngu "yebo" - okungazi lutho kuthathe enye indawo, uma "cha", ungasho le ngxenye ukuthi ingasebenzisa indlela endala, kodwa okokuqala ake uyizame ezintsha.
6. Hlola ubungane bemvelo. Buza ukungabi nalutho uma kunezinye izingxenye eziphikisanayo noma ezifuna ukujoyina izinhlobo ezintsha zokuziphatha. Ukuthula kuyisibonakaliso sesivumelwano.

Ukuvuselela umzimba

Ukuzivocavoca ngezansi kungenziwa kokubili eqenjini futhi ngokuzimela. Ukumisa kabusha - ukuzivocavoca okusebenzayo:

1. "Enye i-epithet." Ukuzivocavoca eqenjini labantu abangu-3 kuya kwangu-4. Esikhathini sephepha elibhalwe okungenani izimfanelo ezingu-20 (owaziwayo, oqhekekile, ozikhukhumezayo, ohahayo, oyisilo). Inhloso yeqembu ukuthola okuphambene ngokuphindaphinda ikhwalithi ngayinye, isibonelo: glutton - i-gourmet, inothando ukudla okumnandi, nolwazi ekudleni.
2. "Nami nginguye ...". Ukuzivocavoca kuyasiza ekuhlaziyweni okuzimele. Emaphepheni wephepha udinga ukubhala okungenani izimfanelo zakho ezingu-10, okubonakala sengathi ziphutha, isibonelo: "Nginguye ... ovila / othembela / ozwelayo / othukuthele." Bhala enye entsha ngesici esihle esibhekene nesitatimende ngasinye (faka izimfanelo kwenye ifreyimu). Hlaziya ukuthi yini eshintshiwe ekuboneni.

Ukumisa kabusha - izibonelo

Ngomuntu ngamunye ezimweni ezehlukene ungathola ukulungiswa kwakho siqu, okusebenza kwabanye, abanye abakwazi ukunamathela. Ukumisa kabusha okuhle kunenzelwe ukuthi umuntu owake waphelelwa amandla, umqondo wokuntuleka kwamathemba ushintshe iphuzu lokubuka futhi uqala ukuqonda ukuthi konke okwenzeka kuye kunengqondo. Izibonelo zokumisa kabusha emisebenzini yabachwepheshe be-NLP:

1. Umholi uyadinga kakhulu futhi ekhethekile, (umongo ongalungile). Umongo oncomekayo: konke kucacile futhi kucacile, wazi ukuthi yini okufanele ukwenze, ufunde ngokushesha futhi udumise njalo ufanelwe.
2. Ukungabi nokukhula komsebenzi (umongo ongalungile). Ukunciphisa okuhle: ukuphathwa okuncane nokubika kubaholi, akukho ukuthembela kwabanye, asikho isidingo sokuqeda izingxabano, izinkinga nokuhlala isikhathi eside.
3. Izingane ezikhala kakhulu, ezingenalutho (umongo ongalungile). Ukumisa kabusha isimo ngendlela enhle: izingane zikhululekile kunoma yiziphi izinkimbinkimbi, zijabule futhi ziziveza ngokwazo (abazali bahlonishwa - kubalulekile ukuthi izingane ziziphathe ngokwemvelo nangokuzijabulisa).

Ukumisa kabusha - izincwadi

U-Bendler Richard "Ukumisa kabusha: Ubuntu bokuqondisa ngosizo lwezinkulumo zokukhuluma" - le ncwadi, ebhaliwe ngokubambisana noJohn Grinder, ingabhekwa ngokufanele njengeNombolo 1 yokunciphisa incwadi. Azikho izincwadi eziningi eziqeda lesi sihloko kuze kube yimanje,

1. "Ukumisa kabusha: i-NLP kanye nokuguqulwa kwencazelo" nguRichard Bandler . Incwadi kaR. R. Bendler ekuqaleni, kulabo abangathandi ukufunda ekuqaleni.
2. "Indlela yokuguqula inkinga ibe yimpumelelo noma ivuselele isimo" Bulletin NLP № 26. AA. I-Pligin . Izindlela eziwusizo zokunqoba izimo ezibucayi.
3. "Izinhlangano zokuqeda kabusha. Ubuciko, ukukhetha nokuhola "nguLee D. Bolman, uTerrence E. Dil . Le ncwadi inikeza amathuluzi abaholi abangaletha ngayo ibhizinisi labo ezingeni elifanele, banqobe le nkinga.
4. "I-NLP-ukubuyisa kabusha. Ungashintsha kanjani iqiniso empeleni . " Umfundi wokumisa kabusha, okubandakanya imisebenzi yabasebenzi abadumile be-NLP.