Ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka kuyajwayelekile kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi kungaki imicabango emibi eholela ekuqotheni nasekuphekeni - ungabala. Izazi zengqondo zithi ukucindezeleka kwesikhashana kuyasiza umzimba, njengoba uvuselela amandla ayo, kodwa unomphela - uyingozi, njengoba kuholela ekucindezelekeni neminye imiphumela emibi. Indlela yokukhipha imicabango emibi nokuthi yisiphi iseluleko isazi sezengqondo esinganikeza ngalokhu - kulesi sihloko.
Ngingawususa kanjani ukuhlukumeza okubi?
Nazi ezinye zezindlela eziphumelelayo:
- Uma kukhona ukwesaba ukuthi okuthile okwesabekayo kuzokwenzeka, isibonelo, ukufa komuntu othandekayo ogulayo, ungazama ukuzinika isikhathi esithile noma ungasho isikhathi esithile okufanele siphile ngaphandle kokukhathazeka noma ukuzwa. Njengoba esesinde ngokuthula ngesinye isigaba futhi ngaphandle kokulinda ukufa, ukubeka okulandelayo, njll.
- Abantu abaningi banesithakazelo sokuqeda imicabango emibi ngaphambi kokulala, ngoba bavame ukunqoba umuntu ngalesi sikhathi. Kukhona indlela elula, futhi ithi iScarlett O'Hara edumile: "Ngizocabanga ngakho kusasa." Lokhu kusho ukuthi zonke izinkinga ezikhona kufanele zihlehliswe kuze kube usuku olulandelayo, kodwa manje sekuyisikhathi sokulala.
- Labo abanesithakazelo sokuqeda ukucindezeleka okukhulu nokucabanga okubi,
singakutshela ukuthi usebenzise inqubo yokulwa. Isibonelo, ukukhathazeka ngokuthi umyeni wakhe uthola kancane, uqiniseke ukuthi wenza konke okuzungeze indlu futhi uchitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane. - Ukuqinisekiswa okunamandla kakhulu emsebenzini, okukhulunywe ngaye uL. Hay okwenzekayo. Owesifazane wayengeke abe mnandi empilweni yakhe, kodwa akazange adikibale. Wayezijwayele ukuthi wayehlakaniphile kakhulu, enhle kunazo zonke futhi enenjabulo kakhulu. Ukwandisa ukusebenza kwezitatimende ezinjalo kungaba, uma ubhala ephepheni bese uzilungisela ezindaweni ezivelele ezungeze indlu. Imicabango iyinhlangano futhi lokhu kufanele kukhunjulwe.