Intsha - I-Psychology

Sonke siyazi ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukubhekana nengane ekukhuleni. Bobabili abafana namantombazane bahluleka ukulawula, bangabe besabela emazwini futhi bashukunyiswa kakhulu yiziphi izizathu. Nakuba umama nobaba bebhekene nesikhathi esinzima ngalesi sikhathi, kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi yisikhathi esinzima kunazo zonke ingane, ngoba ayikwazi ukulawula imizwelo yakhe nezinye izenzo. Kulesi sihloko, sizokutshela ukuthi yiziphi izici ezitholakala ebusheni ngokwezengqondo.

Inkinga yokukhula kwengqondo kwengqondo

Ingane ngayinye, njengoba ekhula, ibhekene nezinguquko ezihlukahlukene zomzimba nezomuntu siqu. Kusukela eminyakeni engaba ngu-11 ubudala, abafana namantombazane banezinkinga eziningi ezingokwengqondo, okuholela ekuthuthukiseni inkinga enkulu.

Isizathu sezinkimbinkimbi ezinjalo sisekuveleni okungafani phakathi kwezinkomba ezahlukene. Abafana namantombazane phakathi nalesi sikhathi badinga ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, futhi noma yikuphi ukuziphatha okungenandaba nokungalungile kwabazali, abangane noma abantu abangabazi nje kungabangela ukuthuthukiswa kokucindezeleka okukhulu.

Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, izinkinga ezibaluleke kakhulu ingane okufanele zizinqobe ekukhuleni zilandelayo:

• Ukuzwela okungavamile ukuthi abanye abantu bahlolisise kanjani ukubukeka kwentsha;
• ukuziqhenya okwedlulele, ukukholelwa ukuthi ungakwazi ukubhekana nanoma yiluphi umsebenzi ngaphandle kosizo olungaphandle;
• izigwebo ezibukhali nezihlukanisayo kubantu abazungezile;
• zonke izinhlobo "zokudlulela" - ukubekezela nokulalela kanye nobudlova nokunganaki, amahloni angamahle ahlangene nokuhlambalaza nokuthunga njalonjalo;
• ukuqedela ukuphika igunya labazali nabanye abantu abadala;
• ukudalwa kwezithombe nokuqokwa kwamuntu ongajwayelekile, isibonelo, "izinkanyezi" zebhizinisi lokubonisa.

Ukuhlukana kwengqondo yezingane ekukhuleni kubafana namantombazane

Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo yobudala besikhathi eside, ukukhula kwentsha kanye nokudala kwabantwana bobulili bobabili kunzima. Kodwa-ke, kunemibono ethile okufanele uyiqaphele lapho ukhuluma nengane yakho, isibonelo:

• abafana balalela ngokucophelela imiyalo yabadala kunamantombazane. Uma lezi zinsizwa ezimweni eziningi ziqala ukulandela izingane ezindala, amantombazane aziqinisekisile kuphela ngokwabo;
• amantombazane azwela kakhulu izinguquko ekubukeni kwawo nokuhlola okungalungile kwabanye;
• abafana abasebancane bavame ukuveza amakhono ayingqayizivele, abazama ngakho konke ukukhombisa abanye. Amantombazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, alahlekelwa amakhono anjalo, uma esebancane babe nendawo yokuba khona.

Naphezu kokuba abazali abaningi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwenzalo yabo belahlekile futhi abazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani, kufanele bahlale bezolile kuzo zonke izimo futhi bazame ukubeka ingcindezi enganeni. Khumbula ukuthi indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho ilukhuni kakhulu kunakho, ngoba uzoba nesikhathi esiyinkimbinkimbi nesikhathi eside okudingayo ukuze usinde.

Njengomthetho, eneminyaka engu-16-17 le nkinga iqala ukwehla, futhi ubuningi bezinkinga buyeke. Yiba nesineke, futhi ngemva kwesikhashana uzobona ukuthi kulula ukuxhumana nomuntu wakho osekhulile.