Ingabe ubuke wazikhethela: ukubonga umuntu onokuthi "ngiyabonga" noma ucele usizo?
Ngokwenani elikhulu lezesayensi zesayensi, umuntu uthola injabulo enkulu (emazingeni okuziphatha nangokwenyama, ikakhulukazi ebuhlotsheni obuseduze), enikela ngaphandle kokuthola. Kodwa kunzima ukubonga lapho engenamandla ngenxa yobunzima esibhekene nazo zonke izinsuku. Sonke sifuna ukuba ngcono. Ngakho ake sishintshe impilo yethu kusuka ezincane.
Ngokwezifundo ezenziwa eNyuvesi yaseWarwick eNgilandi, ukubonga okulula ukusiza ukuvimbela ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka.
2. UProfesa we-Psychology of the College of Humanities and Natural Sciences, uNathan Deuoll, uphonsela umbono wokuthi abantu abathokozelayo abahlukumezi kakhulu, futhi abakwazi ukuzikhandla kalula.
3. Ngokwenziwe ososayensi eYunivesithi yaseKent, eU.SA, umkhuba wokubonga wenza abantu bajabule.
Kungabonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene, isibonelo, abahlanganyeli ekuhlolweni okungaqondakali bavusa umoya wabo ngokuthumela izincwadi zokubonga kubantu abayeke uphawu oluhle empilweni yabo. Ngakho, ngesikhathi esizayo, lapho kudabukisayo, kungcono ukubhala incwadi kumuntu omthokoza kakhulu.
4. Ukubonga kufanele kubonakaliswe ngezindlela ezahlukene, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzoba isimiso esingeke silethe injabulo.
5. Idatha yocwaningo lwesayensi iqinisekisa iqiniso lokuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izici zobuntu, noma yikuphi ukubonga kunomthelela omuhle esimweni somqondo womuntu jikelele.
6. Umuntu othokozelayo uyabonga ngakho konke futhi ulungele ukusiza noma ubani, ngisho nomuntu ongaziwayo.
7. Ngo-2014, isihloko esivela lapho sasiphathelene nobungane: inkulumo evamile "Kwakumnandi ukuhlangabezana" kungaholela ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside.
8. Ukubukwa kokubonga kwandisa izinga le-hypothalamus, elidlala indima ebalulekile ekulawuleni imisebenzi ephakeme, njengememori nesimo somzwelo, futhi ngaleyo ndlela iqhaza ekwakheni izici ezihlukahlukene zokuziphatha kwabantu.
9. Abantu abathokozelayo akuzona nje abahlukumezayo kuphela, kepha futhi banokuzizwa kakhulu ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zabanye.
10. Ngokomphumela wocwaningo, ososayensi baphetha ngokuthi abantu abathokozelayo bavame ukungenela imidlalo.
11. Kusekelwe ngokwesayensi ukuthi ukwazisa kwandisa ukuzethemba, njengoba kunciphisa isidingo sokuqhathaniswa nabanye.
12. Futhi kunesandla sokulala isikhathi eside somsindo.
13. Uzohleka, kepha abantu abathokozelayo banamafutha angama-25% ngaphansi kwesilinganiso sokubonga.
14. Izazi zengqondo zithi kuyasiza kakhulu ukugcina idayari yokubonga - lokhu kuyindlela enhle yokubuyisela amandla engqondo.
15. Kuthiwa izingane ezithokozile zizuza imiphumela emihle ekuqeqeshweni.
16. Izifundo zibonise ukuthembela ngokulinganayo kokubonga kanye nokungabikho kwezifo zenhliziyo.
17. Njengoba kushiwo ekuqaleni kwalesi sihloko, ukubonga akuthinti nje kuphela umzimba, kodwa futhi nokuziphatha komuntu. Abantu abaye babhekana nokuphazamiseka kokuphila okuqinile, bathi baphikisana, ngokwengxenye, ngenxa yombongi wokubonga komuntu ngomusa nokunakekelwa kwabo.
18. Imfihlo yokuziphatha ngokobulili nokukhangisa kufanele futhi ibonge.
19. Umqondo wokubonga uyindlela enhle yokwenza ubuchopho.
Abantu abathokozelayo baphumelela emsebenzini. Bavame ukufeza imigomo yabo.
21. Uma umuntu ebonga lokho anakho, futhi engafuni ukuthola konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, lokhu kunomthelela omuhle empilweni yakhe yezezimali.
22. Ukubonga - kubonga nokubonga e-Afrika - kusiza ukuqeda imizwa yesizungu nokuqinisa ubuhlobo.
Umkhuba wokubonga uphinde ulayishe ubuchopho bethu futhi ubeke ukucabanga okuhle.
24. Kunzima ukukholelwa, kepha umuzwa wokubonga uthinta ngisho nokucindezela komzimba nokuzivikela komuntu.
25. Ukubonga kusakazeka! Ngokuvamile, ngomqondo omuhle wegama. Yabelana ngokubonga kwakho, futhi ngeke abuyele kuwe ngokuphindaphindiwe!