Bonke abazali bentsha besaba ukuthi ingane yabo ingaxhumana nenkampani embi. Kodwa awukwazi ukuhlukanisa ingane yakho emphakathini, ngakho-ke ukuze usize abazali abathintekayo kulesi sihloko, sizocabangela ukuthi kungani lokhu kungenzeka nokuthi kufanele kwenziwe kanjani esimweni esinjalo.
Kungani intsha ingena ezinkampanini ezimbi?
Ukuqonda ukuthi yini eshukumisa intsha, ngisho nasemndenini ojabulayo, lapho beqala ukwephula i-oda lomphakathi, beqa esikoleni, behlukumeza, bahlakulela imikhuba emibi? Izazi zengqondo zeluleka abazali ukuba baqale ukuqaphela ukuthi izingane zabo kule minyaka azizona izingane nhlobo, kodwa akuzona abantu abadala. Ngakho-ke, ukuba nesithakazelo enkampanini embi, angakwazi ngezizathu ezilandelayo:
- funa ukuthembeka - kule minyaka, ukuxhumana noontanga kuyisenzo sokuqala, futhi kaningi ukuqina nokugunyazwa ngabantu ababi;
- kusuka kumqondo wokuphikisana, owakhiwa kakhulu entsheni, angifuni ukuthanda wonke umuntu;
- befisa ukuthandwa - emva kokuba bonke abantu abadumile kakhulu esikoleni yibo abaphula umthetho, yingakho kukhanga intsha;
- ngenxa yelukuluku - ukungabi nolwazi kolwazi nenkululeko kubangela isithakazelo nesifiso sokuthola ukuthi yini ( ukubhema , ukuthola, ukulwa);
- ukucinga indawo yomuntu emphakathini isifiso semvelo sokwamukelwa emphakathini, izenzo eziningi ezimbi zenziwa "nje yenkampani", kanye nentsha engakaze izimisele umgomo wayo empilweni izama ukuyithola ngecala nephutha.
Kuthiwani uma ingane ingabangane "nababi"?
Qaphela
Baqashwe ngezinkinga zabo zokusebenza nezinkinga zasemakhaya, abazali bachitha isikhathi esincane nezingane zabo ezikhulile futhi ngakho-ke bavame ukungabi nesikhathi lapho ingane yabo iqala ukujwayela inkampani embi. Lokhu kungenqunywa uma: ulalela omunye umculo, umvimbela ukuba angene ekamelweni lakhe, akugweme, futhi lapho ehlangana naye unesihluku futhi efihla amehlo akhe, eba esikoleni noma ahambe kancane. Ikakhulukazi kuyadingeka ukuba uqaphele lapho abantu abasha bevela embuthanweni wabangane abasha.
Inkulumo enenhliziyo kuya kwenhliziyo
Ukuqaphela izinguquko ekuziphatheni kwengane, kubalulekile ukukhuluma naye, kodwa le ngxoxo kufanele ihlelwe ngokuvumelana nemithetho elandelayo:
- ukukhuluma kangcono endaweni ekhululekile - ku-cafe noma kumvelo;
- uma unengxabano, yenza ingqondo yakho bese uqala ukukhuluma emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, lapho ubuhlobo bukhula;
- Ungalazi ukuziphatha, ungawunaki lutho;
- unike isibonelo esibonelweni sakho, ubuze umbono wakhe ngalesi simo.
Ngokucophelela kuyadingeka ukuthi ukhulume ngabangane abasha obabheka njengabakufanelekile, chaza, ukuthi yini ngempela oyihlelayo. Khumbula ukuthi umbono wokuqala ukhohlisayo, ungaxhumeli amalebula kwabaselula, zama ukufunda kabanzi mayelana nalaba bahlobo.
Sebenza nabanye abazali
Ukujwayela ngemindeni yengane yakho kuzokusiza ukuthi ufunde kabanzi mayelana nabangane bakhe, kodwa futhi nesibonelo somunye umndeni, ukufakazela ukulinganisa kwezicelo zakho, kodwa lokhu kufanele uvumelane nabanye abazali mayelana nezidingo ezifanelwe, isibonelo: ukuhamba kuze kube yisikhathi esithile.
Yibani umngane wakhe
Qala ukuchitha isikhathi esengeziwe nengane yakho, funda indlela yokuxhumana , thola ukuhlanganyela okuthakazelisayo, futhi:
- ngokuvamile uxhumana naye;
- ungatsheli izimfihlo zakhe, ngisho nezihlobo;
- Ungamthobezi noma umthuke;
- ukunciphisa kancane futhi kaningi ukuchaza ukuthi kungani kubi futhi ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukwenza;
- Ungagcini inkululeko yakhe, bonisa ukuthi uyamethemba;
- cela ukuthethelelwa uma unecala.
Shintsha ukuziphatha kwakho
Ukuze ukhulume ngengozi yento ethile, kumele uqale ube yisibonelo kuye: ukulahla imikhuba emibi, ungafungi, wenze umsebenzi wesikole. Esikhundleni sokumangalelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, kungcono ukumvikele ekuhlaseleni abanye abantu, bese uqhuba ingxoxo, kungani kwenzeka.
Thatha isikhathi
Thola okunye okungahleliwe usebenzisa isikhathi samahhala: bhala phansi kwesigaba sezemidlalo noma umbuthano, uthenge inja noma ibhayisikili.
Woza ekusizeni ngesikhathi
Uma isimo sisekude kakhulu futhi ingane isengozini yokuphepha kanye nokuphepha kwayo, kubalulekile ukuphazamisa ukuxhumana okuyingozi kakhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nangentando yakhe.
Uma uvumela ingane yakho ukuba izwe ukuthi uyamthanda futhi iyayiqhenya ngaye, khona-ke izinkinga nezifiso zayo uzoza kuwe, abazali bayo, hhayi enkampanini engashadile.