Ngenxa yesimo samanje emphakathini, iningi loomama kufanele linakekele ingane futhi likhuliswe kuze kube yiminyaka emithathu nangaphezulu. Ngesikhathi obaba bematasa bethola imali yokondla imindeni yabo. Ngakho-ke, ingane ichitha nomama cishe sonke isikhathi, ejwayele umphakathi wakhe. Ngakho-ke, akumangalisi ukuthi uma unomzali cishe isikhathi esigcwele, umntwana usekulungele ukuba nje eduze kwakhe. Futhi lapho umuntu engaziwa efika, omncane uthola ukhathazekile kumama wakhe. Kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi umama uzodinga ukuba engekho ebhizinisini ngaphandle kwengane yakhe ethandekayo. Futhi-ke kwenzeka njalo ukuthi umfana omncane, ejwayele ukungavumi ukuhamba ngonina okwesikhashana, ugoqa ama-nannies (ugogo, ungan noma umalume) bonke abahlaziyi kanye namahlazo, befuna ukubuya komzali othandekayo. Ngokwemvelo, lo wesifazane ufuna ingane ukuba ikhule ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, eyomvumela ukuthi ashiye unomphela ukuxazulula izinkinga ezihlukahlukene, ngisho noma elula, isibonelo, hamba ihora noma amabili endaweni yokudla. Ngakho-ke, abantu abaningi babuza ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukushintsha isimo. Yilokhu okuzoxoxwa ngakho.
Ukwesaba "abangaziwayo" - kuvelaphi?
Kusukela ekuzalweni, usana luzibonakalisa ngokuphelele nonina, luzicabangela olulodwa nalo lonke. Kodwa izinyanga eziyisikhombisa kuya kweziyisishiyagalombili ncamashi ubudala lapho izingane-izingane ziqala ukusebenza indlela yokwahlukanisa abantu abazungezile zibe ngokuthi "zabo" futhi "abangabazi". Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ingane ayiqondiswa ngephutha ngombono womama, okusho ukuthi, umbono wakhe siqu, okungukuthi, enembile.
Ngokuthuthukiswa okujwayelekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, i-crumb iqala ukukhula futhi kancane kancane yandisa isiyingi sabangane. Kodwa uma inkinga enjalo ihlala endala, abazali kufanele bacabangisise ngokujulile. Iqiniso liwukuthi uma ingane ingavumeli ukuba umama ahambe kancane, lokhu kuvame ukuhambisana nezizathu eziningana:
- ukucindezeleka kwengqondo nokungavikeleki;
- ukubonakala kwama-phobias of nature ehlukile;
- ukungazinzi kwemvelo yomndeni (isibonelo, ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali, umkhwekazi noma uninazala);
- ushintshe esikhundleni somntwana, uma okwesikhathi eside wayesebenzela abantu;
- Ukuzihlonipha okuncane enganeni, lapho ekhona unina, uzizwa eqiniseka kakhulu.
Kuthiwani uma ingane ingamvumeli ukuba ahambe ngomzuzu?
Uma umama wakho "ehlonipha" umama wakhe ngenxa yokuthi uhlala naye isikhathi eside, kunconywa ukuthi izihlobo noma abangane bomndeni bamenyiwe kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze phambi komzali ingane isetshenziswe emphakathini omusha futhi ibone isimo sengqondo esihle somama ngokuqondene nezivakashi.
Njengoba ukhula, i-crumb izojwayela abantu abasha futhi ihlale nayo isikhathi esithile nenkampani. Kodwa sidinga ukuncika kumama kancane kancane - shiya okokuqala imizuzu embalwa yedwa nomuntu omusha, bese uhamba imizuzu engu-10, imizuzu engu-30 noma ihora. I-Karapuzam kusukela eminyakeni engu-2-3 iphakanyiswa ukuba ichaze injongo yokushiya umama nokuthi uzobuya maduzane, ngisho nokuthembisa okumnandi noma ithoyizi lapho efika.
Ngokuvamile, ngezimbili, ngokuphindaphindiwe kusukela eminyakeni emithathu, isidalwa esincane sibonisa inhlanhla yokuzibusa - isifiso sokugqoka, ukudla, ukuya endlini yangasese, ukudlala nokuhlala ngaphandle komama, kubandakanya.
Uma inkinga ihlala nengane yengane yasenkulisa, ochwepheshe batusa ukuthi uxhumane ne-neurologist. Iqiniso liwukuthi, isibonelo, izinsana ezinomshini wokucindezeleka
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kutuswa ukuthi udlala ufihle futhi ufune umama wakho ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngenxa yalesi mdlalo, ingane ifunda ukuchitha isikhathi esincane ngaphandle komama nhlobo - ayikwesabeki, ngoba isabonakala.
Kodwa isixazululo sezinkinga nokuwohloka kwesimo sengqondo emndenini noma ukubonakala kwe-phobias yiyona eyimfanelo yengqondo kwengane yengane.
Khumbula, ukuncibilika kokunamathela okuqinile nomama kufanele kube kancane kancane, ukwehlukana okubukhali kuyoholela ekucindezelekeni nasekuvinjweni kwengane.