Ingabe ngidinga imfundo eyengeziwe kumfazi wanamuhla?

Kuvela ukuthi unayo noma cha, kodwa abantu baphila ngenxa yokufaniswa kwamaphupho abo. Kulabo abaye bahlala isikhathi esithile futhi bengakwazi ukufinyelela okufisa, izinto ezimbi kakhulu zingenzeka, kuze kube sekuzibulala. Kwenzekani kulabo abaye bazuza ngokugcwele noma okuyingxenye yabo? Kungabonakala, nansi injabulo, bukhoma futhi ujabulele umphumela. Kodwa ukuphazamiseka kokuphila kulele ngokuqondile ukuthi umuntu oye wafika ezindaweni zakhe eziphakeme, akajabuli, ngoba akukho ndawo ongayenza futhi ayikho isidingo.

Kuleli qophelo, umuntu omdala unethuba lokuba ingane nenganezi futhi "udale" imigomo emisha bese ubeka izintambo ezintsha. Ngalesi sigaba, lapho amaphupho amasha eseqalile kakade, imfundo eyengeziwe, njengenoma yini enye, ingasiza futhi isondelane nokunqotshwa kwekusasa. Lokhu kuyinto ehlukile ngokuphelele yokuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubi kakhulu uma ukucabanga okunjalo kungenzeki.

Uma kunesidingo semfundo?

Ukungathembeki

Cabanga ngendaba yokungaphumeleli ngokuphelele amaphupho ayisisekelo. Owesifazane okhulile, ophakathi kweminyaka engama-30 no-40 ubudala, unabantwana, washada, usebenza emisebenzini ehlukene engafundile: umdayisi, umdayisi, umshini wokuhlaziyelisa, umgcini wendlu. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi njengomama owenziwe (okuyinto ebaluleke kunazo zonke owesifazane), akazange akhule ibe ngumuntu, akazwa ukuthi ukwaneliseka kwengqondo noma ngokwezimali ngomsebenzi wakhe. Ngesinye isikhathi, ukhetho luzofika ngaphambi kwakhe - noma ukuhlala nokuphila ("akukho okuhle okuphuma kimi, ngizofundisa amadodakazi ami ukuthi angabi yiziphukuphuku"), noma ukushiya indawo yoduduzo bese uqala ukubhukuda ngokuya kwamanje. Ingabe kufanelekile ukugcizelela ukuthi ngisho noma sekusheshayo, ngemuva kokuqeda izifundo ezithile zobuchwepheshe azitholi isikhundla esifanele, ubuntu bayo buzoqala ukuthuthukisa kusukela ngesikhathi sokwenza isinqumo sokushintsha impilo.

Isibongo

Izivakashi ezivamile zezinhlobo zonke zezifundo zihluke kakhulu kowesifazane owedlule, onakho konke ekuphileni, kuhlanganise nesikhathi esiningi samahhala. Ukuya emasiloni omuhle kakade kunesithukuthezi, akekho ozokhuluma naye, umyeni wami uhlale esebenza, akukho lutho oluphathelene nomqondo wakhe. Ngakho bazibhalela phansi izifundo zokuthunga nezokuthunga (bayazi isimo), ngesiNgisi (ngoba bayazi konke), ngesiFulentshi (ngoba sithandana), nasezifundweni zangaphakathi zokwakha (ukwakha umklamo omusha wendlu yabo). Yiqiniso, lokhu intshiseko yolwazi kuyadumiseka, kodwa ezimweni eziningi ukushiseka kukwanele kuphela kumakilasi ambalwa okuqala.

Ingozi: indlela yokufunda ukuba i-dvoechnitsy?

Ngesizathu esisodwa noma esinye, uma usuwele umngcele we-alma mater wakho omusha, okwakho kusengozini. Uma uqala ukwenza into entsha futhi ingakaze ibe khona, izifundo ziqala njalo ngama-deuces. Kodwa kuyinto eyodwa uma uthola eyodwa, uhlezi nama-pigtails esikhwameni sesikole esivela kumfundisi owesabekayo futhi oqinile, futhi nakwezinye, ekukhuleni, ngolulwimi olukhaliphile, ngisho nangomfundisi omncane kunokuba uzobe ukhona. Lapha kungenakwenzeka ukuveza ikhono lakhe, nokuphikisana nezindlela zokufundisa, ngokujwayelekile, uziqhenya ngokushiya futhi uhlale ungabikho imali ekhokhelwa ukufundiswa. Kulesi simo, into eyinhloko ukujwayela iqiniso elibi ukuthi lapha uqala futhi wonke umuntu ozungezile uyena omusha. Uma kubonakala sengathi uhlekehleka, usuke uyisiphukuphuku kunabo bonke abantu, ubhekwa njenge-slobber - qaphela ukuthi wonke umuntu akanandaba nhlobo, kanti abanye, njengawe, bacabanga ukuthi bangayithola kanjani imali eyengeziwe ngemali yabo. Okwenzile noma okushiwo akulungile, iningi ngeke liphawule.

Ngamagama, kuyasiza ukutadisha okungenani ngoba lapho ubuchopho beka ukuthola umthwalo, siqala ukukhula buthule. Njengemisipha ephikisiwe, ubuchopho, njengoba kungenalusizo, kuyoba ukugcwalisa okujwayelekile kwekhanda, ngesisindo. Futhi ekudinga ukufunda okuthile okusha kuminyaka engakajwayelekile ejwayelekile emphakathini wethu, uzothuthela ezingeni elisha lokuphila futhi ngokuqinisekile uzowina.