Uma ufunda lesi sihloko, mhlawumbe nina, njengabazali, niyazi kahle umuzwa lapho ingane yakho esekhulile eminyakeni engu-11-12 ngokungazelelwe iphela ukuqondakala nokuphathwa. Awusakwazi ukuthi amagama akho noma izenzo zakho zizolingana naye, futhi yiziphi okuzokucasula, futhi wena ngokwakho uvame ukucasula. Kubonakala sengathi kuyaqondakala ukuthi lokhu kuyindlela yokuqala ukukhula kakhulu, inkulumo ethi "yobudala besikhathi eside" iyaziwa kuwo wonke umuntu. Yilokho okwenzeka ngempela ngalesi sikhathi ekhanda nomphefumulo wengane ethandekayo, nokuthi indlela yokuziphathelana nabazali umbuzo ovulekile.
I-psychology yezingane kanye ne-psychology yezingane ezisencane zihluke kakhulu komunye nomunye. Ingane ingakapheli izinguquko ezinjalo zomzimba ezisheshayo eziwela "kwentsha".
I-Psychology yesimanje sesimanje
Ukuzikhethela kwengqondo yezingane ezisencane, okokuqala, kuqondiswa lezi zinguquko zomzimba, noma, ngokulula, ngokuvuthwa ngokocansi. Futhi i-psychology yobudala yamantombazane kanye nabafana abasha akufani kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuthi emantombazaneni zonke izinqubo zenzeka kancane kancane. Ngokomzimba, abafana namantombazane baqala ukuhluka ngokuphindaphindiwe, kodwa izinkinga zengqondo zivamile futhi azixhomeki kobulili. Ukusuka lapho i-pimple ekhaleni ivela khona, izinguquko ezibunjwa zomzimba eziqine kakhulu imicabango yengxenye ehlukile zikude nazo zonke "izinsalela" ingane engenazinkinga okufanele ibhekane nayo izolo. I-psychic ayikwazi neze ukubhekana nazo zonke lezi zenzakalo ezintsha, futhi kunenkinga engokomqondo ephathelene nengqondo. Izimpawu zalo zimi kanje:
- ukungaqiniseki ngokwabo, ukubukeka kwabo, ukukhathazeka okuqinile ngemibono yabanye;
- "Maximalism engumusha" - inhlawulo yezigwebo, ukuziqhenya;
- umehluko ekuziphatheni nasebunzini be-psyche: inhlanganisela yokulalela nokunganaki, amahloni nokuzikhukhumeza, ukuzibandakanya nokuzihlukanisa, ukuphupha nokuphuka, njll;
- isifiso sokuthola ulwazi oluphezulu ngesihloko sentshisekelo ngokushintsha okusheshayo kwezinto ezithakazelisayo, ezingahlelekile.
Ngokuvame ukukhula, izingane zivame ukuphikisana nabazali bazo ukuze zivikele abantu abadala nokuzimela. Kodwa ukungabikho kokuzimela komuntu osemusha kuyabangela ukuba abazali bavimbele kakhulu imizamo yengane yokufeza "ukulingana" nabantu abadala. Kodwa-ke, ukuqina, ukugxeka nokukhathalela kuyindlela edingeka ukuba ihlakaniphe kakhulu lapho usebenzisana nentsha. Uma kungenjalo, kungadingeka ukuthi uthole ukuthi kungaba kanjani umzali wengane enzima.
I-Psychology yezingane ezinzima ezinzima
Njengomthetho, intsha enzima ibheka labo abanezimfanelo ezimbi eziqondene nabo ekuziphatheni kwabo: ukuhlukumezeka, inkohlakalo, ukukhohlisa, ukukhwabanisa, njll. Izibalo zibonisa ukuthi "kunzima" yilabo abasha abakhule emindenini yezidakayo, abazali abanezinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo, abahlala esimweni esinamandla esingokwengqondo. Kodwa-ke, akukho mndeni obonakala sengathi uhloniphekile ngenxa yokuthi ingane iyoba yinkinga enzima - lokhu kungenzeka uma abazali, isibonelo, behluke kakhulu kumntwana noma, ngokuphambene, baqondise isinyathelo ngasinye. Singasho ukuthi noma yikuphi ukungathí sina ekuziphatheni kwabazali kuholele ekutheni intsha ibuhlungu kakhulu ekuhluphekeni kweminyaka yakhe
I-psychology yokuthuthukiswa nokukhuliswa kwentsha iyisayensi yonke, futhi abazali kufanele bakuthathe ngokungathí sina lokhu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ekhulayo - kulula noma "nzima," khumbula ukuthi uhlangabezana nesikhathi esinzima empilweni yakhe, zama ukumqonda, futhi ungayinaki iseluleko sabaqeqeshi - othisha nabachwepheshe bezengqondo. Inhlanhla nesivumelwane emndenini!