Kubuhlungu njalo ukusinda ushintsho lomuntu othandekayo nomthandekayo. Ngokuyinhloko, iqiniso lokuvukela umbuso litholakala ngempela ngengozi futhi hhayi nakancane ngesikhathi. Lesi sihloko sizosiza umfazi ophangiwe ukuba aphendule umbuzo owamkhathazayo - ukuthi yini okufanele akwenze uma umyeni eshintshile ukuze angaphinde alahlekelwe isithunzi sakhe futhi asindise umndeni.
Izolo kwakukhona ubusuku obuhle, lapho kwenziwa khona izinhlelo, indlela yokuchitha ngempelasonto, konke kwakunjengokuvamile, futhi namuhla ukukhala kwezinyembezi kugeleza, isimo esesabekayo esithathwa ngokuphindaphindiwe yi-hysteria nokuhlukunyezwa. Ekhanda lami kunemibuzo ejwayelekile: "Kanjani?", "Kungani umyeni washintsha?". Ngemva kokufunda mayelana nokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe, noma yikuphi owesifazane olahlekelwa yilapho ithuba lokuhlola ngokwanele isimo.
Ngokuphelelwa yithemba, ubuhlungu, ukufutheka, usuqonda ekuthandeni ukuthi uyamthanda ngempela umyeni wakho futhi akafuni ukulahlekelwa yiyo, naphezu kwencazelo ephelele? Kulokhu, ungakwenza, njengoba kunconywa kuwo wonke omagazini besifazane: zenzele wena, uthenge izingubo zangaphansi ze-sexy, uphinde ube mnandi kakhulu, ukuze aqonde ukuthi uluphi uhlobo lwedayimane ahlala nalo.
Iningi labesifazane, ngemva kokufunda ngokukhonjwa komuntu othandekayo, abaqondi ukuthi yini okufanele yenze uma umyeni eshintsha futhi ekugcineni akhetha amaqhinga anjalo: bahlala bemphonsa emangcwabeni, bafuna ukuqedwa kobuhlobo, hlola iposi, ifoni, izingubo, bahlele njalo kusihlwa ukucwaninga nokunye. Futhi hhayi ngenxa yokuthi benza izinto ezihleliwe, kodwa ngoba abakwazi nje. Konke lokhu akunakwenzeka ukusiza ukuphendula lo mbuzo - ukuthi kungani indoda ingashintsha, futhi ekugcineni ubuyisele noma uyigcine, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, kubangele ukuphindaphinda, uzokuzwa uzwela kuphela futhi udele. Futhi wena, uzothola owesifazane owanele ube ngowesifazane onamahloni ophethe izindebe ezithuthumelayo namahlo abo abomvu.
Okubaluleke kunazo zonke ukuziphatha okulungile ngemuva kokuthola ukuhlukunyezwa. Ikakhulukazi akulula, uma kungazelelwe umyeni ushintshe ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Nokho, lapho uhlolwa, uzoba nethuba lokubuyisela othandekayo wakho. Ngakho-ke, imithetho eyisisekelo.
Ungenzi sengathi uyisisulu
Ngokuvamile sizama ukudlala indima yesisulu lapho umyeni eshintsha, kodwa akahambanga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwakukhona isizathu esikhulu sokuzisola - ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe! Khumbula, leli qhinga aliphumelelanga, uma ufuna ukubuyisa umyeni wakho, ngoba uhlale ebeka icala ngenxa yalokho akwenzile, ngeke akubekezelele isikhathi eside, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uzoya kulowo ongathandi amanga nezinyembezi.
Ungabheke ubufakazi obusha bokungathembeki komyeni wakhe
Uma unesifiso sokufunda i-imeyili yakhe, noma ukugibela efonini yakhe, udinga ukuwuqeda ngokushesha, ngoba kuyingozi kakhulu futhi kuzokwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile. Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi uzoqonda lapho isikhathi esilandelayo umyeni wakho efuna ukushintsha, futhi uzokwazi ukuthi benzeni. Ungazakhohlisi. Uma umyeni ehola izenzo zakho, umqondo wecala lakhe uzoba yingozi.
Ungahlanganyeli ebuhlotsheni bomuntu siqu nenkosikazi yakho nomyeni wakho
Kunoma yikuphi isimo, ungabheka imihlangano nendoda yomyeni wakhe, ngoba lokhu ngeke kuholele emphumela omuhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuqinisekile uzokutshela konke ngomyeni wakho, ozomsekela kamuva. Kungcono ukuqoqa lonke ulwazi mayelana nenkosikazi yakho futhi uqaphele izenzakalo.
Akudingekile ukuphindisela ngokuphindaphindiwe okufanayo
Abesifazane abaningi ekufuneni impendulo yombuzo - ukuthi benzeni uma umyeni eshintsha, unquma ukuthi uma bemenza umhawu, bayokubuyisela. Ukuzivocavoca kubonisa ukuthi lokhu akunjalo. Uma uzenzele isinqumo esinjalo, unikeza umyeni wakho ukuthi aqonde ukuthi awunandaba nokukhwabanisa kwakhe, futhi awunaki ukuzithokozisa ohlangothini. Musa ukweluleka engozini ngakho.
Hlaziya impilo yakho
Kungenzeka ukuthi uzwile ngalezi zikhathi izikhathi eziningi, njengoba umyeni wakho ekopela kuwe, khona-ke kukhona okungahambi kahle nawe. Cabanga ngokucophelela, nini lapho ugcine ujabulela indoda yakho ngendlela yezocansi, uhlele imini yothando noma udansa umdanso okhulayo? Sekuyisikhathi sokuthola lezo zinkinga lapho kwenziwa amaphutha, futhi kubalulekile ukuzilungisa. Khona-ke umbuzo wokuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma umyeni eshintsha, uzothuthuka ngokwayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubuhlungu kanjani ukukhaphela othandekayo, kufanele uhlale uhlakaniphile futhi unamandla, ikakhulukazi uma uzama ukulondoloza umndeni.