Kuyamangalisa ukuthi iso lomuntu lingabona imibala ngezindlela ezahlukene! Lokhu, kuvela, kuxhomeke esimweni sesimiso sezinzwa nangamakhono wamehlo ngokwawo. Phela, umbala othize uyisakazo esivamile esinomvuthwandaba nobude abathile. Ake sizame ukuhlukanisa incazelo yembala obomvu ekuziphatheni kwengqondo.
Okubomvu kuyigugu
I-psychology yombala obomvu iqinisekisa ukuthi isilwane sisebenzisa inani elikhulu lamandla ekuboneni lo mthunzi! Ubizwa ngokuthi "imibala" eshisayo. Amagugu alo mthunzi ahlaselwa ngezindlela ezahlukene, lokhu kuncike esimweni. Kusuka emoyeni wesifiso esibucayi kuya ekufuneni okuphansi ...
Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi umbala obomvu uchazwa njengokuzithemba ngokwakho nakuwe ngokwakho. Njengokubonakaliswa kwamakhono abo namandla, njengokulungele isinyathelo esinqunyiwe. Kodwa kumangaza ukuthi umbala obomvu unolunye uhlangothi lwemali. Akubona wonke umuntu owazi ukuthi izenzo ezibomvu emzimbeni obuthakathaka ngokuvamile zidala ukukhathala ngokomzimba nangokwesaba.
Isenzo esimvu
Ngakho-ke umbala obomvu usebenza ebuchosheni, okwenyusa imvamisa yokuphefumula futhi ukwandise ukushaya komuntu ngisho nomuntu onempilo ngokuphelele. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi lo mlando udlala indima ebalulekile. Isibonelo, umuntu oneminyaka yobudala angachaza ngokuqondile intombazane, thola umbono wokuqala, egqoke obomvu. Ngokusekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho, uzocabanga ukuthi intombazane enobungcweti futhi ibhekisela kubameleli bomsebenzi wasendulo. Kodwa siyaqonda ukuthi, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kuyinqaba.
Okubomvu kuyincazelo kwengqondo
Incazelo engokomfanekiso yembala obomvu ekuqaleni yayihunyushwe njengomlilo nokuqhuma. Ngakho-ke, izazi zengqondo, zicabangela lesi sici sombono womuntu, welule abantu ngengqondo engazinzile ukuthi bangazungezi nge-shades obomvu, bangagqoke izingubo ezibomvu. Sicela ucabangele lokhu uma ukhetha iphepha lodonga egumbini lezingane noma ekamelweni lokulala.
Uma uthanda umbala obomvu, ungasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi ungumlindi wangempela, umholi ozelwe! Uyaziwa ngokukhuthazela nokubekezela, yilokho okusebenzisa ukufeza imigomo yakho. Uyazi ngokucacile imigomo nezifiso zakho, ngakho-ke akukho okukuvimbela ekutholeni lokho okukhulelwe.
Ngeshwa, isihluku kanye nesifiso, ukuthambekela kobudlova emzimbeni kukhona ezinye izincazelo zombala obomvu. Kodwa asikhethi ukukhetha umbala owodwa oyintandokazi, njengombuso, sithanda amaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngakho-ke, ungakhathazeki, abanye bangalingani. Ukuvumelana, khumbula, kufanele kube nokuvumelana kukho konke. Ungathathi umbala owodwa, ujabulele imibala ehlukene nemibala. Zihle kakhulu nje!
Ngendlela, wake wake waphawula ukuthi ngesikhathi esisodwa uthandana nombala othize, bese ungasondeli kuwo, akukujabulisi? Iqiniso lezesayensi ukuthi uma ufuna ukubuka umbala othize, khona-ke ulahlekelwa lokho akuphetha. Okusho ukuthi, ufuna ukuvuselela amandla alo mbala, inani lawo. Mhlawumbe empilweni yakho okwamanje kuyisikhathi esihle kangaka, umzimba wakho udinga ukuphumula nokuthula.
Uma ufuna ukuheha, uzigqoke. Awuboni, ngokuqinisekile, ungahlali! Ukujabulisa umcabango wabantu, obomvu - kuyodingeka. Ukukhanyisa okubomvu nokubomvu, ilineni yomlilo kuyokwenza into yabo.