Kukhona umbono wokuthi indoda ephuzile yabiza leyo ntombazane ekhathalela futhi engamkhathaleli, abaningi balabo abaphuzile kulezi zinyoni bahlukunyezwa yizingcingo "ngaphansi kwezindiza," bafuna ukwazi ukuthi yini eyenza ukuthi bayenze futhi bayiphathe kanjani. Uma umuntu ebiza udakwa, kusho ukuthini ngokusho kwengqondo - kulesi sihloko.
Kungani umuntu ebiza kuphela lapho ephuza?
Uma umuntu onesizotha engenaso isifiso esinjalo futhi ngokuvamile, owesifazane akaziboneli futhi angamhlangabezi esimweni esivamile, kodwa uzwa kuphela izwi "emabhentshini adakiwe", bese sekuyisikhathi sokuzindla. Cishe, indoda ayiyithandi futhi ayimhloniphi, uma ingakwazi ukuvuka ngocingo ebusuku bese yenza ukuba ilalele. Utshwala kwenza umuntu akhululwe futhi abe nesibindi, asuse wonke ama-brake futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe ngosuku olulandelayo indoda izwa ingakhululekile futhi izisola ngalokho akwenzile. Labo abazibuza ukuthi kungani indoda ibiza kuphela udakiwe, ungaphendula ukuthi izizathu zalokho zingase zihluke: uzizwa enesizungu, ufuna ukukhuluma futhi ethemba ukuthi ekupheleni kwebhulethi uzobe ezwela futhi alalele.
Ngezinye izikhathi ufuna ukuthola okuthile, kodwa kunoma yikuphi ukuthi uyaqiniseka ukuthi bayothatha umamukeli ekugcineni, ngoba nabo bafuna ukukhuluma ngesici esibucayi, beqede ubuhlobo noma bebelokhu balinde umlingani ukuchaza ngothando. Yebo, ngaphansi kokuthwala utshwala, indoda ikulungele ukumemeza ngakwesokudla futhi ishiya ngemizwa yakhe, kodwa noma ukukholwa kuye, ukunquma kuphela owesifazane. Uma lokhu kuba yinye yezimpikiswano ezinzima, ungazisola nje kuphela, ngoba othandana naye othandana naye akabizi kuphela ukuthi udakiwe, kodwa futhi uyaza, futhi wenza ukuphila kwansuku zonke konke okufanele kwenziwe kumthandi - ukukhathalela, ukukhathalela, uchitha isikhathi nabathandekayo bakhe futhi uhlela ikusasa. Uma umuntu ebiza udakwa, ecasulayo ngokukhuluma nganoma yini bese elala esidlangalaleni esilandelayo, khona-ke singaphumelela ngokuphepha empilweni yakhe futhi singenalo lutho lokulindela.