Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda imizwa yakho, kanye nemizwa yangempela yomuntu othandekayo. Izimpendulo zemibuzo ebalulekile zingatholakala ngokuqagela "Kuyini enhliziyweni?". Sebenzisa kuphela ezimweni ezikhethekile, uma kukhona okuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela. Uma umuntu eqagela ngenxa yokuzijabulisa, ke ubale ulwazi oluyiqiniso alufanelekile.
Ukuhlukaniswa "Yini enhliziyweni yomuntu?"
Lokhu ukubhula kukuvumela ukuba uqonde ukuthi yimiphi imizwa nemizwelo empeleni ehlangenwe ngumthandi noma umngane oseduze. Kuye, kufanele usebenzise ipaki elivamile lamakhadi, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi alizange lisetshenziswe ngaphambi komdlalo. Izindlela ezethuliwe zokubikezela okulula nokuzilawula zizokwazi kubantu ababengakaze baqagele ngaphambili. Ukuze uhambise inhlanhla emakhadini enhliziyweni, kubalulekile ukugubha kahle iphothi, bese uhambisa ingxenye yayo ngesandla sakho sobunxele. Khipha amakhadi ayisithupha bese uwabeka phambi kwakho, bese uqhubeka nokuhunyushwa:
- inombolo yekhadi 1 - imicabango yangempela yekhethiwe;
- inombolo yekhadi 2 - kwenzekani enhliziyweni yomlingani;
- inombolo yekhadi 3 - ichaza izenzakalo ezizokwenzeka kumuntu esikhathini esizayo esiseduze;
- inombolo yekhadi 4 - izifiso zomuntu okhethiwe;
- inombolo yekhadi 5 - ikuvumela ukuthi uqonde ukuthi uyiphi indlela yokwesaba umuntu anayo;
- inombolo yekhadi 6 - incazelo yesimo jikelele sezinto.
Ukuqagela "Kuyini enhliziyweni yakho ethandekayo?" Ayikwazi ukwenza njalo, ikakhulukazi uma ulwazi olwamukelwe lungathandwa, ngoba amakhadi azokhuluma amanga.
Ukuqagela "Kwakungubani? Kuzokwenzekani? Kunokuba inhliziyo izolahla? ยป
Ngoba lokhu ukubhula kusetshenziselwa ipaki lokudlala amakhadi. Okokuqala udinga ukukhetha ikhadi elizokwenza umuntu abe nenhlanhla. Kuzoba yinkosi noma inkosikazi, futhi kufanele ukhethe ukukhetha, ukugxila ocansini lakho siqu. Umbala wekhadi kufanele ukhethwe ngokusho kombala wezinwele:
- ukuphakama - ama-brunettes;
- izimpethu - ama-blondes;
- amakilabhu - ama-shatens;
- amathangamu avuliwe.
Susa ikhadi elikhethiwe kusuka emgodini, hlanganisa amakhadi asele kahle bese ususa ingxenye yakho. Beka phambi kwakho umugqa olinganiselwe wamakhadi amahlanu, ususe phezulu kusuka emgodini. Emva kwalokho, uphinde ususe ingxenye yedokodo kuwe, bese ubeka amanye amakhadi amahlanu ngaphezulu kokuqamba amanga. Phinda inqubo kathathu izikhathi eziningi, ngaphambi kokuba ungabi nezinqwaba ezinhlanu zamakhadi amathathu ngamunye. Ekupheleni, susa ikhadi lokugcina bese ulibeka eceleni ngaphansi komugqa oqondile. Emva kwalokhu, ungaqhubeka nokuhumusha, usuka kwesobunxele kuya kwesokudla:
- faka inombolo 1 - imicabango nemicabango yakhe;
- inqwaba inombolo 2 - yini enhliziyweni;
- faka inombolo 3 - yendlu;
- inqwaba inombolo 4 - eyedlule;
- faka inombolo 5 - ikusasa;
- ikhadi lokugcina - elizosiza ukwehlisa inhliziyo.