Lapho abazali bedalula izinombolo ezingekho ezinomthelela kakhulu zomlingiswa ezinganeni zabo, zithi: "Ubani owazalwa?" Lapho izingane ezinama-cliche zikhula, imvelo yazo iqala ukulenga elinye ilebula - uhlamvu olubi. Kodwa uma sikholelwa ukuthi umhlaba uthola imibala kuphela ngenxa yokuthi siyipenda ngomzwelo wethu, ingabe umlingiswa angabeka noma omuhle?
Kungenzeka ukukhuluma ngokungapheli ngokuthi isiphi isici esibi, ngoba ngamunye wethu unelolu hlu lwakhe lwezimfanelo ezimbi kunazo zonke ezihlangene naye kumuntu omubi.
Kodwa kaningi, abantu abanalo le ndawo bajwayele ukuqhuma kokuhlukunyezwa, kusukela kunoma yikuphi "ukuhlaziywa kwemibono" kudlulela kumbono wokuxabana, ukuhlambalaza nokukhamuluka. Abakwazanga ukukhulunywa nabo, bayesaba nje - ukuthi bangazibikezela kanjani lapho ukuqhuma okulandelayo kwenzeka.
Ngokwengqondo
Izazi zengqondo eziqonda lesi simo, hhayi nje zanikeza incazelo yalokho okusho ukuthi uhlamvu olubi, kodwa futhi lwembula imbangela yalokho okwenzekayo. Njengoba kuvele ukuthi "ukuzalwa" okuqondile akuyona ingozi. Yiqiniso, ingane ayizalwanga ngesimo esibi, okusolakala ukuthi sisakazwa izakhi zofuzo, kodwa siyayithatha inqubo yokukhula nentuthuko.
Ngakho-ke, abantwana ababenelungelo lokuzalwa emindenini engasebenzi, lapho abazali behlala behlambalaza, bexabana, beqonda ubudlelwane, futhi ekugcineni bahlukana, bayoba ngabanikazi bomlingiswa omubi.
Okokuqala, isizathu siwukuthi lapho usencane, lapho isimiso sezinzwa sisakhula, ingane ayinakukwazi ukungaboni kahle. Uzifaka enhliziyweni, okuhlangenwe nakho futhi zivutha kakhulu izinzwa zakhe.
Esikhathini esizayo, isimiso sezinzwa ezinjalo esiphelelwe amandla sizozibonakalisa ekungeneni, ukuhlukumezeka, ukungqubuzana komuntu.
Okwesibili, izingane zizama ukuthola ukuthi ubani ozolahlwa. Futhi abazali abahlukanisile (noma abangahlukanisi) bavusa yonke into, bamise ingane ngezindaba "Lokho ubaba wakho akubi futhi akulungile. Ngeke ube njalo lapho ukhula? " Ekugcineni, omunye wabazali emehlweni omntwana uyisicala, futhi ingane ifihlile ukuhlambalaza okukhulu okuyoba yinkimbinkimbi yokuphila kwayo yonke impilo.
Futhi, okwesithathu, izingane eziseduzane nabangane ziziphatha njengezi "zibonelo" zazo
Ngokuvamile abazali, abaqapheli ukuthi banecala, baxhaphaza ubuchopho babo ukuthi bangaqonda kanjani isimo esibi somntwana. Kodwa eqinisweni, lo mlingiswa ngeke abonakale uma kwakungewona imizamo yabo ukuthola ukuthi ubani onecala endlini.
Ukulwa nomuntu omubi ongayenza. Kudingeka ufunde ukuphumula, ukuya esikoleni sokuqeqeshwa kwengqondo, amakilasi eqembu, ukusilisa , ukuzithokozisa, futhi ngaleyo ndlela uba usizo lwabanye abantu.