Kuze kube manje, ubulili emva komshado kubonakala, kaningi kunalokho, njengenganekwane, noma, njengokunye okungajwayelekile, kunokuba kube umcimbi wangempela. Imithetho eminingi yabesifazane isuka esikhathini esedlule, lapho igcina ubumsulwa kubathandekayo babo kanye nomuntu oyedwa wokuphila. Futhi akufanelekile ezweni lanamuhla ukuziphatha komuntu owayevame kakhulu eNkathini Ephakathi lapho efuna ukushada ngemva kobusuku obulodwa bokufutheka nothando.
Esikhundleni salokho okushiwo ngenhla, kunenqwaba yezindlela ongayithola ngazo ukuthi abalingani bavumelana kanjani embhedeni (ubumnene, i-horoscope, iqembu legazi kanye nobukhulu). Izingqikithi zobulili ziyaqhubeka zithandwa njengabangane, abangane, emsebenzini, ngisho nasezikoleni. Ngakho-ke, umqondo wokuthi kukhona ubulili emva komshado, ngokuphindaphindiwe kuthatha uhlobo lwehlaya noma uhlobo oluthile lwezinganekwane.
Kodwa-ke, kunabantu abanemibono ephikisanayo ngokuphathelene nobusuku bomshado balabo abasanda kushada, uma kuqhathaniswa nokuvunywa okwakamuva. Futhi uhambelane nesimiso sokuthi ngemva komshado bazoba nobulili bokuqala empilweni yabo. Futhi kunabantu abaningi abanjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, zakha imiphakathi, izinhlangano zabantu abafana nomqondo (isibonelo, inhlangano yamaKatolika "Ukuhamba kwezinhliziyo ezihlanzekile").
Kunezinzuzo eziningi ezithinta ubulili emva komshado. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi owesifazane owayengatholakali kumuntu wakhe ngaphambi komshado, umyeni wakhe uthatha umlingani wakhe ngokujulile. Ngakho, izinhloso zakhe zihlanzekile ngempela, uma ephikisana novivinyo olunjalo, okungewona amandla wonke umuntu, kodwa kuphela kumuntu onamandla amakhulu. Uzohlale ehlonipha umkakhe, kodwa ithuba elincane lokuthi uzomshiya.
Izinzuzo zocansi emva komshado
Ngakho-ke, ake sicabangele ubungane obuseduze bomshado ovela eceleni:
- Ubulili emva komshado akusiyo nje ngomusa, kodwa futhi liyakwazi ukulondoloza isikhathi sokuphila kwe-romance kanye ne-candy-bouquet period.
- Ukuya ocansini emva komshado kusiza ukuvikela ukuphikisana okungahle kwenzeke ukuthi umlingani angashiya owesifazane ngemuva kokumthatha. Ikakhulukazi le nzuzo izothola ukufaniswa kwalabo besifazane abaphupha ngendandatho yokubambisana ngomunwe.
- Ubuhlobo bokuqala obuseduze kwabashadayo bavuselela isithakazelo sabo socansi.
- Ukuya ocansini emva komshado kusiza ukuqinisa ingokomoya lobuhlobo bakho, kuletha abalingani ndawonye futhi kuyinto guarantor ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho banezikhwepha ezinhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunenkolelo yokuthi uma indoda nowesifazane besuka ebuhlotsheni obuseduze ngaphambi komshado, kubasiza ukuba bakhe izinhlelo ezicacile zekusasa.
- Futhi, ubulili obunjalo buyindlela yokuqinisekisa ubuhlobo beqiniso, amandla, ukwethembeka kwemizwa yabalingani ngokuphathelene nomunye nomunye. Ubulili kuphela emva komshado kuyisibonakaliso sokuhlonipha umlingani wakhe.
Futhi, ngeke kube okungcono ukuhlola ubulili ngaphambi komshado, okuzokwenza kube lula ukuthi kungani ubulili emva komshado bunethonya elikhulu empilweni yomshado.
- Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi imibhangqwana esebenze ubulili ngaphambi komshado ihlukana kaningi kunelabo abakhetha ukuhlala behlanzekile ngaphambi komshado.
- Ubulili ngaphambi komshado - indlela ethile yezimayini. Phela, imibhangqwana elala ocansini, ivame ukugwema inkinga. Ngokuvamile, esikhundleni sokubuka ngqo ebusweni bakhe, bakhetha ukwenza ucansi.
- Ubulili ngaphambi komshado abuhlukanisi uthando oluvela othandweni. Uma kuvela ukuthi isisekelo sothando akuyona into kodwa engokomzimba
injabulo, imizwa yabalingani ibuthakathaka futhi igcinwa kuphela nobuhlobo bobulili.
Uhlu lwezinzuzo zobulili emva komshado kanye nokungalungile kobuhlobo obuseduze ngaphambi komshado bungabuye buqhubeke isikhathi eside. Futhi zonke izintombi zinelungelo lokunquma ukuthi uzogcina yini ubumsulwa noma, enqaba izimfundiso zasendulo, zizinikele kumthandi wakhe ngaphambi kokuba axhumeke naye ngomshado. Wonke umuntu unomthwalo wempilo yakhe, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi izinqumo kufanele zenziwe ngokucophelela. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ungachithi isikhathi kuzixhumanisi ezingenalutho.