Isigubhu esiyinkimbinkimbi lapho abesifazane basimanje bahlala khona, ukucindezeleka nesifiso sokwenza konke ngesikhathi, kungabangela ukuba zonke izifiso zethu zibe zero. Abamele abaningi bezocansi ezifanele ekuphishekeleni izinto ezibonakalayo kanye nemisebenzi abacabangi ukuthi lo mncintiswano awunamkhawulo futhi uma kunjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuwayeka. Yiqiniso, lezi zici nazo zithinta impilo yocansi yowesifazane.
Ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwa ochwepheshe baseBrithani, abesifazane abangu-15% bahlupheka ngenxa yokuthi abafuni ubulili. Ekuqaleni, abakunaki lokhu, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inkinga iqala ukukhuluma ngokwayo. Uma owesifazane engenaso isifiso sokulala naye, akajabuli inqubo. Futhi ukunganeliseki ngokocansi kuthinta umzimba wethu kude nendlela engcono kakhulu.
Abesifazane abawela esimweni esinjalo, baqale ukuzibuza umbuzo othi "Kungani ngingathandi ucansi?". Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukukhomba isizathu sangempela sokuba ungafuni ucansi, bese uzama ukususa. Cabanga ngezimo ezivame kakhulu.
- "Angifuni umyeni wami - kufanele ngenzeni?". Isimo esifanayo singakhula ngisho nasebudlelwaneni obuqinile bomndeni. Uma ubudlelwano phakathi kwabashadile buhlala behlonipha futhi bengazethembi, futhi awufuni ukuhlanganyela ocansini, kudingeka uthathe isinqumo ngokuphuthumayo okufanele ukwenze. Ukuphila ngokobulili kungashintsha ngokuphawulekayo lapho uthando lushiywa esikhathini esedlule futhi abashadile bajwayele kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, lo wesifazane ufuna ukuhlangenwe nakho okuqhakazile nokukhathazeka, njengalabo abhekana nabo ekuqaleni kobuhlobo nomyeni wakhe. Kodwa imvelo ihlelwa ngendlela yokuthi uthando aluhlali kuze kube phakade - le mizwa idlula isikhathi kanye nobuhlobo kuya esiteji esisha sokuthuthukiswa. Kulokhu, ukungabi nesifiso sobulili kuvame ukubangelwa yisici sengqondo. Ukubuyela ebuhlotsheni bobulili, ukukhanya kwangaphambili kungaqedela ukucubungula nokukwamukela ukuhlelwa kwezinto ezintsha ngumfazi. Ochwepheshe batusa ukuba baqale kabusha izinsuku zothando, izipho kanye nezinkathazo komunye nomunye, ngesonto ngalinye ukunikeza usuku, okuzobekwa ngalo umbhangqwana komunye nomunye. Futhi, ukuhamba okuhlangene kuyasiza kakhulu.
- "Angifuni ukulala nomyeni wami emva kokubeletha - kufanele ngenzeni?". Ukubeletha kuyisigaba esibalulekile futhi esibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwabesifazane bonke. Ukuzalwa kwengane kungashintsha kakhulu umama omncane. Ngokuvamile, lezi zinguquko zithinta impilo yezocansi phakathi kwabazali abasha. Isizinda se-hormonal sowesifazane asizinzile, ngakho-ke uma ngemuva kokuzalwa isifiso sobulili sanyamalala noma, ngokuphambene, kukhona isifiso sobulili - lokhu kuvamile. Enye into, uma ngemuva kokuzalwa akufuni ubulili isikhathi eside -
kusuka ezinyangeni ezingu-6. Kulesi simo, kufanele ucabange ngokuphumula nokulala okuphelele. Ngokuvamile ukukhathala okubangela ukunganaki. - "Angifuni ucansi - ukulahla ngokuphelele isenzo socansi." Isifiso socansi emzimbeni wesifazane uhlangana ne-testosterone ye-hormone, eyenziwa ngama-ovari. Uma i-testosterone ikhiqizwa kakhulu, isifiso esinamandla sokulala nobulili siyabonakala kubantu besifazane. Ukukhiqizwa kwe-testosterone kwabesifazane, njengamadoda, kunciphisa ngeminyaka. Futhi, ukuvimbela ukubeletha ngomlomo kunomphumela omubi ekukhiqizeni amahomoni kwabesifazane. Ngokusho kocwaningo lwamuva, kuqinisekiswe ukuthi ukuphathwa kwabo kwesikhathi eside kukhuthaza ukukhiqizwa kwezinto ezisegazini ezingatholakali ngokuphelele testosterone. Futhi uma izinga lesisempilo lesifiso socansi lingabonakali, ngabe kanjani ukuqonda ukuthi ufuna ucansi? Ngakho-ke, uma isifiso sokulala nobulili silahlekile, kufanele usheshe ukuyeka ukuthatha amaphilisi okulawula ukubeletha.
Wonke owesifazane kufanele aziqonde yena futhi abone inkinga eholela ekusweleni kwesifiso socansi. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukulungisa isimo ngokwakho, kufanele uxhumane nochwepheshe.