Kungani ungabhapathizi intombazane yokuqala?

Esikhathini samasiko kunezinombolo eziningi zezibonakaliso, abantu abaningi abangalindeleki ngokulandela. Mayelana nokubhapathizwa, ikakhulukazi, kunezinkolelo eziningi, ngakho abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi kungani kungenakwenzeka ukubhapathiza intombazane yokuqala . Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuthi lokhu kuvezwa kubhekisela ocansini wesifazane kuphela, okusho ukuthi amadoda angakhohlwa ngokuphepha ngakho. Nakuba ubulili besilisa futhi bunzima kakhulu ezinkolelweni ezihlukahlukene. Impendulo yombuzo othi kungani owesifazane engakwazi ukubhapathizwa intombazane yokuqala yiqiniso lokuthi unkulunkulukazi osolakala ukuthi uthatha ikusasa ekutholeni injabulo emshadweni, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi intombazane ngeke ishade.

Ngokuphambene nalokho, kunenye inkolelo yokuthi, okokuqala, ekubeni unkulunkulukazi, owesifazane esikhathini esizayo uzothola injabulo yakhe futhi ngokuqinisekile uyohola umndeni wakhe.

Kukhona esinye isibonakaliso esichaza ukuthi kungani kungenakwenzeka ukubhapathiza intombazane yokuqala enganeni engashadile. Uma ukholwa nguye, ingane ingayithola ikusasa lomama ozayo, okusho ukuthi kufanelekile ukukhetha owesifazane ojabulayo nowesifazane oshadile kule ndima.

Inkolelo-ze noma iqiniso?

Kuyiqiniso kangakanani lezi zimpawu, ukwahlulela kuphela kulabo abaqondiswa yibo, kodwa kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi enkolweni, ebuKristwini, akukho ukuvinjelwa kulowo obhapathizo. Kodwa ukwenqaba ukumema abazali ukuba babe ngunkulunkulu, okokuqala, kungabathuka kakhulu, futhi okwesibili, ngaso sonke isikhathi kwakubhekwa njengesihlazo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho okushiwo kakade, kwakukhona esinye isibonakaliso esiyinkimbinkimbi sase-English esichaza ukuthi kungani intombazane ingakwazi ukubhapathiza intombazane yokuqala. ENgilandi yasendulo yayikholelwa ukuthi intombazane yokuqala ebhapathiziwe ithatha umfana wesibili yonke imifino yakhe, ilahla isilevu namadevu. Manje inkolelo enjalo iyobangela ukumamatheka nje, futhi ngalezo zinsuku abantu abasha babhekwa njengabakhonzi bakaDeveli.

Njengoba ubona, noma yisiphi isibonakaliso singokoqobo kuphela ngesikhathi salo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kusukela ngaphandle kubonakala kungenangqondo futhi kungenangqondo. Kodwa ukukholelwa noma cha - wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena.