Sonke sasike sadlula ubunzima bokukhula. Kodwa kuphela ngokuba ngabazali, singaqonda ngokugcwele umthwalo ogcwele wale nkathi yokuphila. Omunye ukwesaba ukuthi ingane yakhe ingangeni enkampanini embi, omunye uyethusa ukuhlukumeza ngokweqile noma, ngokuphambene, ukuziphatha okungenandaba nokungane. Kuhlangenwe nakho kwezingane ezisenza sikwazi ukungena ekujuleni kwengqondo yabantwana, bese sifuna izindlela zokuxazulula izinkinga zabo. Kodwa-ke, ungamangali uma ingane ilahla usizo lwakho: ekukhusheni, zonke izeluleko, ikakhulukazi kubantu abadala, zibonakala "ngendlela enonya."
Ukuze usize intsha ukuthi inqobe ubunzima, umuntu kufanele agcine engqondweni yezimo ezihlukahlukene zengqondo zobuntu bakhe ngalesi sikhathi. Ake sithole ukuthi iziphi ezingokomqondo nezingokomzwelo zentsha kungaba nokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka.
Izici zengqondo zentsha
Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi isimo sengqondo sabantwana abaneminyaka engu-11-15 engadlulela kaningi. Lokhu kungenxa yokuvuselelwa kwe-hormonal yomzimba wengane, esele isilungiselela ukuba umuntu omdala. Futhi akukho okumangalisa ukuthi lezi zinguquko zithinta i-psyche - lena yindawo esengozini kakhulu, "isithende" se-Achilles "kwanoma yimuphi umuntu. Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa lezi zindlela ezilandelayo zesimo sengqondo sengqondo sabasha:
- umsebenzi - ukungabi namandla;
- ukuthatha - ukunganakwa;
- injabulo - ukuvimbela;
- ukungezwani - ukukhululwa;
- ukwesaba kuyinjabulo;
- ukuzimisela - ukudideka;
- ithemba lizobhujiswa;
- ukukhathazeka - ukuthula;
- ukuzethemba kungukungabaza.
Naphezu kokuthi lezi zinqubo zengqondo zihlukile, ezinganeni zingashintsha futhi zishintshe isikhathi esifushane. Njengoba kukhulunywe ngenhla, kubangelwa isiphepho se-hormonal futhi kungaba yisici sezingane ezinempilo enhle, enempilo. Manje angakwazi ukuxoxa nawe ngendlela enobungane, futhi emizuzwini emibili - vala ngaphakathi kwakho noma uhlele uhlazo bese ushiya, ugoqa umnyango. Futhi ngisho nalokhu akuyona imbangela yokukhathazeka, kodwa kuphela ukuhluka okuvamile.
Kodwa-ke, lezo zimo ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwengane kule minyaka, zibambe iqhaza ekwakheni izakhiwo ezihambelanayo zomlingisi (ukuphakama okuphakeme noma okuphansi, ukukhathazeka noma ukujabula, ukuzethemba noma ukungathembeki, njll), futhi lokhu kuzothinta impilo yakhe yonke yesikhathi esizayo.
Izindlela zokulawula kanye nokuzithiba kwezingqondo zengqondo ekukhuleni
Iseluleko esivame kakhulu kubazali bomuntu osemusha ukuthi umane "usinde", ubekezele ngalesi sikhathi. Ngempela, ingane ephilile ngokwengqondo iyakwazi ukunqoba ubunzima obuvela kuye. Abazali kufanele bazwele kuphela ukuziphatha kwakhe futhi bangabi naye okuqinile kunokuba kuvamile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kulula ukuphatha ingane yakho yokukhula, kuzoba lula ngokwakha ubudlelwane nawe. Buyekeza izimiso zakho ebuhlotsheni "umzali-ingane", uxhumane naye uma kungenjalo ngokwemigomo elinganayo, okungenani njengokulingana nawe. Khumbula ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi ingane isengozini kakhulu, ngisho noma ingayibonisi. Futhi kufanele azi ukuthi abazali bahlale behlangothini lwakhe, ukuthi akayena wedwa futhi uma kunoma yikuphi izinkinga uzofika kuye
Uma kunesidingo, unganqikazi ukufuna izeluleko zengqondo yezokwelapha ezigxile ezinkingeni zezingane, futhi uma kwenzeka izinkinga ezingathí sina, ku-psychiatrist ofanelekile.
Bazali abathandekayo! Ungakhohlwa ukuthi udinga ukusungula ubuhlobo obethembayo nengane yakho, kusukela ekuqaleni kwasekuqaleni. Lokhu kuzokugwema izinkinga eziningi esikhathini sokuqala.