Indlela yokutshela intsha mayelana nobulili?
Yiqiniso, okokuqala, ingxoxo kufanele ifinyeleleke futhi itholakale. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungisa ingane ngenxa yenguquko ezokwenzeka naye ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ukunakekelwa kumele kuhokhwe kulezi zindlela ezilandelayo:
- tshela mayelana nokuya esikhathini, imikhiqizo yokuhlanzeka;
- chaza ukuthi yikuphi ukwakhiwa, ukungcoliswa kwelanga;
- ukukhuluma ngalezo zinguquko njengokukhula kwamabele emantombazaneni, ukubukeka kwezinwele zokushicilela, indlela izwi labafana eliphuka ngayo;
- chaza ukuthi ubulili buvela kanjani;
- qaphela inkinga yezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi ;
- khuluma ngokukhulelwa kanye nezindlela zokukhulelwa ;
- uxwayisa ngokumelene neziphambeko.
Ngokuvamile izingxoxo ezinjalo ziqhutshwa ngezigaba eziningana, kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abazali bahlanganyele. Isihloko sobulili phakathi kwentsha yanamuhla sinzima kakhulu, ngakho-ke akuvumelekile ukuba ingane ithole lolu lwazi emithonjeni engabaza. Uma abazali bengenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ezinye izikhathi zingachazwa, manje manje kukhona ukukhethwa okukhulu kwezincwadi ezifanele ezihloselwe imfundo yocansi. Lezi zincwadi namamagazini aklanyelwe izingane ezinamaqembu ahlukene angafunda kanye nengane, ephendula imibuzo ephakama.
Yini engenakwenziwa ekukhulumisaneni ngocansi nezingane ezisencane kanye nezingane?
Engxoxweni udinga ukulandela imithetho ethile:
- Awukwazi ukumangaza ingane ngokubuza imibuzo ngezihloko ezithandanayo noma amahloni, ukuze ungaboni ukuzethemba;
- Ungesabi futhi ugxile kumaphuzu angalungile, njengoba lokhu kungabangela isimo sengqondo esibi ngokuphathelene nobulili futhi kubangele izinkinga ezingokwengqondo;
- ungayigwemeli ngalesi sihloko, ngoba imibuzo mayelana nobulili empilweni yezingane ezisencane kanye nezingane ezincane zidlala indima ebalulekile, ngoba ingane engakaneliseki ukwazi kwakhe nomama nobaba izoya ukufuna izimpendulo zenye imithombo;
- Ungenzi inkulumo njengenkulumo futhi ekugcineni ubuze uchungechunge lwemibuzo, uhlole izinto ezifundwayo, ngoba lokhu kungabangela ingane ukuthi ingasakwazi ukukhuluma nenkulumo enjalo
isihloko esibucayi nabazali.
Ingxoxo kufanele ibe yinto eyimfihlo, ngakho kamuva ingane enombuzo ngaphandle kokungabaza eya kubazali. Izingxoxo ezinjalo zingasindisa kusukela ekucaleni kwezocansi. Phela, omama abaningi bakhathazekile ngombuzo wokuthi kungani izingane zenza ucansi. Esinye sezizathu ukucindezela kontanga, kanye nombono wokuthi ukuziphatha komzimba ngokocansi kuphakamisa isithombe futhi kwenza kube okuvuthiwe. Futhi lokhu kungenxa yokuntula kolwazi lomgomo ingane okufanele iyenze emndenini, hhayi kubangani noma kwi-intanethi.