Ngimangele, sibukela ingane idlala ngothando nomama, iphoqa abafundi ekilasini, othisha abahlabayo. Izingane zidonsa izinwele zayo ngokungenakukhetha, zishaye izibhamu zakhe, kanye nezibhamu. Abazali bazindla ngokuthi kungani ingane ilaka. Yini eyabangela ukuthi kamuva nje umntwana ozolile futhi othandekayo uphenduka ngokuzumayo abe teaser. Futhi umbuzo obaluleke kunawo wonke okhathazayo iningi labazali: yini okufanele yenze uma ingane ilaka?
Uphi ukuhlukunyezwa okuvela emntwaneni?
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuthi kwenzeke ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane kubangelwa ubudlelwano obungalungile phakathi kwabazali nengane. Emndenini onjalo, njengomthetho, ingane ayinakekelwa ngokwanele. Ucasula abazali bakhe, ngoba uphazamisa njalo, udideka ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakhe. Ingane iyathukuthele, idangele ngenxa yalesi simo sengqondo. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa engavikelekile nabantu abakubo ababaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni. Futhi-ke ingane izama ukuheha yena, nakuba kusetshenziswa ukuhlukunyezwa. Yiqiniso, abazali bazokhamuluka, bamcasule, kodwa into esemqoka ukuqaphela! Ngakho-ke, ukuziphatha komntwana okuhlukumezayo kuyindlela yokuzivikela.
Ngokuvamile imbangela yokuziphatha enobudlova yisitayela sokukhulisisa, lapho cishe konke kuvunyelwe ingane. Izingane ezinjalo azijwayele igama elithi "akunakwenzeka" ngakho-ke azi imingcele yalokho okuvumelekile.
Esinye sezimbangela zokuhlukunyezwa kwengane ukuphazanyiswa kobuchopho ngenxa yezinkinga ngesikhathi sokubeletha noma ukuhlukunyezwa.
Ukuya esikoleni esisha noma enkulisa, isikole esinonya noma abasebenzisa inkulisa singasiza ekukhuleni kokuziphatha kwengane yakho.
Ukusebenza nezingane ezinonya
Kuyacaca ukuthi ngokubonakaliswa kokuhlukunyezwa kwengane enkulisa noma esikoleni, othisha noma othisha bazothatha izinyathelo. Noma kunjalo, ukubaluleka okuyinhloko ukungenela kwabazali. Izincomo ezilandelayo zizosiza ingane:
- Ngenkathi ukuziphatha okunonya kwezingane, abazali njalo kudingeka bahlale bezolile. Uma uzizwa uthukuthele futhi uthukuthele, vala amehlo akho bese ubala kuyishumi. Ungaphenduli "ukuphindaphinda" nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ungabeki isandla sakho phezu kwengane futhi ungabeki ukukhala. Njengoba kuyaziwa, lapho kungekho mpendulo, ukuhlukumezeka kuphelile.
- Ingane kufanele iqiniseke ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe kuyingozi kuphela, okokuqala, kuye: izingane azifuni ukuba abangane naye, abantu abadala baqala ukumphatha kabi. Ngezinye izikhathi ukufaniswa kwezigameko zezihlobo zengane ngeke kuphazamise. Ngakho-ke, udade okhubazekile angabonisa ukuhlupheka nokukhala izinhlungu, lapho umzalwane osolwa ngokumshaya.
- Phakathi nokubonakaliswa kokuhlukunyezwa kwengane, abazali bangazama ukucima ukuthukuthela kwentukuthelo. Ukuqondisa kabusha izinyathelo zengane kunento engapheli: makabeke izinyawo emhlabathini, shaya umcamelo.
- Uma ingane iziphatha kabi, zama ukumphazamisa, ucele ukugcwalisa noma yisiphi isicelo sakho (isibonelo, ukuletha ingilazi, ifoni, ipeni). Noma, ngokuzumayo, mdumise, uthi uziphatha kahle, wenza okuthile okulungile. Umzali onothando uhlale enokuthile okudumisa ingane ethandekayo!
- Zama ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nengane yakho. Ngokuvamile uthi uyamthanda, ngoba unomntwana onjalo omuhle futhi onomusa.
Dlala nayo imidlalo efaka isandla ekuqothuleni ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane. Isibonelo, cela ukudweba izilwane ezimbili. Vumela ingane ibonise isilwane esibi esibi, simnike igama elibi bese simtshela ngezenzo zakhe ezimbi. Khona-ke ake ingane idwebe isilo esihle nesomusa ngegama elihle. Vumela ingane ichaze izenzo ezinhle zalesi silwane.
Izenzo ezinjalo ezilula, kanye nokubekezela kwakho nokukhuthazela nothando lomntanakho kuzosiza ukunqoba ukuhlukunyezwa. Uma ukuziphatha okubi komntwana kungumphumela wokuzalwa kwezinsana, kuxoxisana ne-neurologist yengane.