Ngokuvamile, amahloni ezinganeni aqala ukwakha eneminyaka emithathu. Kodwa abazali abazi ukuthi bangasiza kanjani ingane enamahloni. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi bona ngokwabo bavusa lo mkhuba uhlamvu ngokungazi. Ngemuva kwalokho, njengoba sinesimo seSoviet post, izingane ezincane ezingalaleli ziyesabisa uBabay, amaphoyisa kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo zamalume abesabekayo futhi azicabangi ngemiphumela ngokwabo. Futhi izingane zihluke ngokuphelele, futhi zibona izindaba ezimbi kakhulu. Othile ezingeni elingenakuqondisisa uqala ukwakha isimo sengqondo esibi ngomuntu ongaziwayo, ukwesaba ukuthi owezizwe uzokwenza okuthile ngokumelene nengane. Kukhona ukwesaba ukuthi kancane kancane iminyaka iguqula ibe yedwa. Ingane icabanga ukuthi uma ingabonakali, ngeke ilalelwe yona.
Kodwa, njengoba ekhula, kanye nehloni, umntwana unesidingo sokukhulumisana, kodwa akakwazi ukuwuqaphela, futhi kukhona umjikelezo ononya - ingane ifuna ukuxhumana, futhi uma ifika ekugcineni, inamahloni futhi ithule.
Izincomo kubazali bezizingane ezinamahloni:
- Vimbela noma yikuphi ukuzama kwabanye (kufaka phakathi othisha enkulisa) ukuxhashaza ingane yakho;
- cabanga ngesimo sakho sengqondo kumntwana. Awudingi kakhulu kuye? Usabela kanjani lapho unamahloni wengane yakho? Ungamhleki usulu ngenxa yobuthakathaka? Uyawuqhathanisa nabanye, ukhululekile kakhulu? Shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kokuqala okwenzekayo;
- ungalokothi ubize ingane enamahloni emehlweni;
- kaningi ushiye ingane yakho yedwa nezingane ezingajwayelekile ezingaphansi kwakhe;
- Nika ingane engxenyeni yezemidlalo, ngoba ukuphishekela okusebenzayo kunomthelela ekwandeni ukuzethemba;
- Ungayinaki ukulungiswa kobuciko benhloni ngosizo lwe-psychologist yengane enhle.
Futhi khumbula ukuthi inkinga ayishiyi ngokwayo, kodwa, ngokuphambene, iyancipha ngobudala. Ngakho-ke, bheka umuntu osebenza nabantwana abanamahloni, uyazi futhi uyaqonda izici zokuxhumana phakathi kwabantwana abanamahloni. Yithanda ingane yakho njengoba ikhona futhi imsize afunde indlela yokuxhumana nabanye.