Lapho uqala ukuphola, konke kwakungcono: ukuthandana okuhle, ukuhamba ngothando, konke ukuphila kwakubonakala sengathi kuyintandokazi, ngoba uhlangane nesikhulu sangempela! Wayengumuntu ohlakaniphile futhi enomusa, futhi kusukela emhlanganweni wokuqala uzizwa ukuthi le ndodana inezinhloso ezijulile. Kodwa-ke, emva komshado, konke kwashintsha: manje akayena isikhulu, kodwa u-scoundrel, futhi akayona insizwa enesihawu ehlonipha noma yikuphi ukukhetha kwenkosikazi yakhe, kodwa umhlukumezi wasekhaya oboshiwe umkakhe ngezinsimbi ze-ego yakhe, okusho ukuthi uyalibiza: akunakwenzeka ukuyibeka, ungagcini umbhede ngaphandle kwalokho, cabanga ngendlela engishilo ngayo, ungahambi kubangani bakho, uzikhiphe ekhaya bese ukhohlwa ngakho konke okungathinti umndeni.
Ungaphila nomyeni wakho ungumshiqela?
Uhlukumezi emndenini kuyinkinga enkulu, ngoba kulokhu umlingani wakhe uhlale ehlushwa ukuthobeka nokucindezeleka kokuziphatha. Indima yomcindezeli ingadlalwa futhi owesifazane onamandla nakwezenhlalo kunomuntu, kodwa ngokuvamile abahlukumezi emndenini bangamadoda. Ukuhlala nomuntu ohlukumezayo akuwona umsebenzi olula, kodwa uma udinga ukulondoloza umndeni, ungazama ukuhambisana naye, futhi uma lokho kungakusizi, kuzodingeka uqoqe izikhwama.
- Indlela yokukhuluma nomashiqela? Kuye kungcono ukungakhulumi: noma ukuthula noma ukuhleleka. Thola isikhundla esiqinile kunoma yisiphi isimo, futhi, kusukela kuso, ncike ku-quibbles yakhe. Ngageza izingubo kabi, kodwa akuhambisani naye? - masizihlanze yena. Ungavumeli abangani bakhe ku-cafe? - kahle, vumela isixuku sabesifazane besifike endlini yakho lapho efuna ubumfihlo nokuthula. Mbeke esimweni esibucayi esingokwengqondo, njengoba nje akwenzile.
- Indlela yokuziphathanisa nomashiqela? Indlela yakho yokuziphatha kufanele ibe nzima nakakhulu kunayo. Awusona intombazane encane engakwazi ukuphendula ngezwi elihlambalazayo noma isenzo, kodwa ubuntu obuqinisiwe obungamvumeli ukuba azidelele. Funda ukugcina izithembiso zakho, ubukele ukungaphumeleli nokuhlambalaza. Masizizwe enkundleni yakho izinyanga ezimbalwa, bese uhlala phansi ndawonye futhi uvumelana. Umsebenzi wakho ukuphula ubuntu bakhe, njengoba ethanda ukukwenza nawe.
Kuthiwani uma unomyeni wesibindi?
Ngeshwa, kubalulekile ukulwa nomyeni onjalo kuphela ngezindlela ezifanayo azisebenzisayo. Yiba nengqondo futhi ukopishe izenzo zakhe, amagama, indlela yokuziphatha. Abesilisa banomsebenzi wesikole, futhi uma, ngokwesibonelo, uma ejwayele ukutadisha ngokucophelela umphumela womsebenzi wakho, bese uphuthuma ngesikhathi esizayo ukudlala uphenyo loke: ingabe isilenge siyanyanyiswa ngendlela efanele? Futhi emva kwalokho, uhlele ikhonsathi ngezimpikiswano, uhlobo luni lwezandla ezingenalutho analo, ukuthi luhlobo luni lomuntu "ubaba" wakhe, ukuthi akazange afundise indodana yakhe kumsebenzi womuntu, njll.
Kodwa-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulahla indoda yowashicileli, sebenzisa izimfanelo zakho ezinamandla kakhulu ukuze ukwazi ukumletha emkhawulweni lapho ebona ukuthi uziphatha kabi.
Indlela yokubalekela kumashiqela womyeni wakhe?
Uma ingazange ishintshe, futhi yonke imizamo yenzelwe ukuthi ibenze okuningi, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuba ihlukane. Noma kunjalo, lokhu nakho akulula, ngoba abahlukumezi bavinjelwe kakhulu futhi bacabange abathandekayo babo njengomuntu onjengezigqila zesikhathi eside, okufanele abe njalo futhi esilungele ukulwa.
Ngakho-ke, ungamlahla kanjani umyeni wesibindi:
- Ungazami ukumjabulisa, ngenhloso kubangele ukuphikisana;
- ukunganaki lokho akuthandayo kuwe, uziphathe ngokuzikhukhumeza futhi uhlale ethule;
- uthi ungamthandi;
- ukuqoqa izinto, ukuthatha izingane nefayela ukuze uthole isehlukaniso, ngaphambi kokuthola umsebenzi nokuqoqa izindlu.
Indlela yokuqaphela umshicileli?
Ukuze ungalokothi uthathe umshayeli wengozi, qaphela isimo somuntu nomsebenzi wakhe:
- Phakathi kwabantu basezempi lapho kukhona abahlukumezi, ikakhulukazi labo abangenalo isikhundla esiphakeme: laba bantu balalela lo msebenzi konke ukuphila kwabo, futhi akumangalisi ukuthi ekhaya bazofuna ukuba ngabaholi. Noma kunjalo, phakathi kwalaba bantu ngezinye izikhathi kukhona namalungu emindeni emangalisayo, abashadile abathembekile nabathembekile abangeke bashiye esimweni esinzima, abamesabi umsebenzi ongcolile futhi bahlakaniphile kakhulu.
- Uma insizwa emhlanganweni wokuqala iphikelela ukuthi unqabe okuthile (isibonelo, kusuka emkhakheni omubi) futhi uzama ukunciphisa - lokho kusho ukuthi ungumuntu ohlukumezayo.
- Ngisho noma umuntu ekwazi ukugubha kahle ukuthambekela kwakhe okucindezelayo, ungabona "imikhuba" ekhona kakade emhlanganweni wokuqala: isibonelo, isinqumo ukuthi i-movie yokubukela noma indlela yokuya enkundleni ye-tyrant yikuzikhethela yona ukuze ikhombise ukuphatha kwayo.
Umbono wobudlelwane nomshushisi uncike ekutheni owesifazane uzokwazi kanjani ukuvikela amalungelo akhe futhi afakazele ukuthi igama lakhe alonalo lokugcina. Thatha isibonelo kusuka kumakati: ezithambile, amapayipi athambile azisho ukungavikeleki, ngoba zifihlekile, ezihlale zikulungele ukujezisa umenzi wobugebengu.