Uma uhlangana nomuntu okwenza uzizwe uzikhethele, futhi uthemba ukuthi inyunyana yakho iyoba iphakade, impilo ihambisana nomzwelo. Kubonakala sengathi konke kuyamangalisa futhi kuzohlale kunjalo. Nokho, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuziphatha komngane wakho womshado noma othandekayo kuphela kuyashintsha; Okokuqala uyazibheka "izinsimbi eziphazamisayo" noma aziboni ngempela. Ngemva kwesikhashana, iqiniso liyaziwa: umuntu othandekayo wakho uzinikezele.
Ukuphila kwakho kugxila kumsila, mhlawumbe ufuna ukuthi lowo muntu abe nobuhlungu obufanayo nokuhlazeka okuzizwayo. Ubuhlungu bungaba namandla kangangokuthi ulahlekelwa ubuntu bakho okwesikhashana, uyeke ukuba ngokwakho. Kungaba nemibuzo eminingi, ukuzama ukuqonda okwenzekile. Njengomthetho, wonke umuntu unombono wakhe mayelana nezimbangela zalokho okwenzekile.
Kodwa-ke, esimweni sokudideka nokucindezeleka, wonke umuntu ukhohlwa ukuthi esimweni izidingo ezijulile noma ezingaziwayo zomlingani wazo zadlala indima ebalulekile. Futhi uma ukhumbule ngalokhu, khona-ke kufika isiteji lapho umbhangqwana ungahlola ukuthi ubuhlobo bawo bukhona kanjani, amandla okushintsha kanye nesifiso sabo sokushintsha. Kancane kancane kukhona amandla kanye nethuba lokuthethelelwa. Akunandaba ukuthi unquma ukuhlala noma ukuhamba-kunoma ikuphi, udinga ukulungisa ukuhlukaniswa ngokomzwelo kubantu ngokujwayelekile kanye nomlingani wakho ngokukhethekile. Ukuthethelela kubaluleke kakhulu.
Indlela yokusinda ukukhawulwa komuntu othandekayo?
- Yamukela imizwa yakho . Esikhathini somoya ovunguzayo ongena kuwo, ngesikhathi esifanayo kukhona intukuthelo, ukwesaba nokuzwa kokulahlekelwa. I-Real "roller coaster". Thatha ikhefu, zinike isikhathi sokuphumula futhi uqaphele ukuthi awuhambi kahle. Abanye bazizwa ubuhlungu kanye nokudideka okufanayo lapho bezwa ngokukhonjwa kwabathandekayo babo, kodwa basinda. Okuhlangenwe nakho kuyisenzo esivamile esihlangenwe nakho esibuhlungu. Uzizwa kabi kakhulu ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bulahlekelwe ubuqotho. Kuyabuhlungu ukulahlekelwa ukukholelwa ukuthi uyabalulekile. Kungase kubonakale sengathi kuyinto engavamile, kodwa ngesikhathi nje lapho sibona ubuhlungu bethu, kuba buthakathaka kakhulu.
- Ungavumeli umzwelo ungaphezu kwakho . Buka ukuthi imicabango yakho nemizwelo yakho iphuma kanjani ekulawuleni. Manje kuyoba nesilingo sokupheqa izikhathi eziyinkulungwane ekhanda lakho, njengoba umuntu wakho othandekayo ekuqamba amanga kuwe, imininingwane yokukhaphela nezenzakalo zangaphambilini.
- Mhlawumbe unquma ukuya emsebenzini noma ukuzilibazisa . Lokhu kuzosiza ukubhekana nomqondo wokukhathazeka nokungabi nalutho, kodwa njengoba ufuna ngempela ukukhohlwa ukukhishwa komuntu othandekayo, kuzodingeka uhlehlise, umelane nobuhlungu futhi unqume ukuthi uzokwenzani ngokulandelayo.
- Zibuze: "Ngizohamba noma ngihlale?" . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthatha isinqumo, isinqumo kufanele silinganiswe. Akukhathaleki ukuthi imizwa yakho iqinile kangakanani. Ngokulandelayo, ungazisola izenzo zakho zokuphuthuma ngokushesha.
- Khipha isifundo kule ndaba . Abaningi besifazane (namadoda) bathambekele ekusola umlingani wabo kuzo zonke izinkinga zomnyunyana. Akekho ofuna ukuqaphela ingxenye yabo yecala, ikakhulukazi, ukukwenza ngobuqotho. Akekho ocabanga ngezimbangela zangempela zalokho okwenzekile, kulula kakhulu
unikeze inguqulo elula futhi uvumele ukuphelelwa yithemba noma ukoma wokuphindisela.
Awukwazi ukushintsha okukwenzekile kuwe, kodwa kufanele uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo yokuthi ungayisingatha kanjani isimo manje.
Kunezinyathelo ezimbili eziyingozi zokuphutha. Okokuqala ukuhlala ndawonye futhi ungalokothi ukhumbule futhi ungacabangi ukuthi kungani ukukhwabanzeka kwenzeka. Esesibili ukuzama ngisho nakakhulu ukuze kungabi khona futhi. Ngicabanga ukuthi akudingekile ukusho ukuthi lokhu kuyindlela engalungile ebonisa ukungabi nalutho okuphelele kothando nokuzihlonipha wena.
Kunezindlela ezimbili ezisebenzayo. Yamukela okwenzekile, futhi usebenze ndawonye ukuze uthuthukise ubuhlobo bakho. Okwesibili ukhetha ukuhlehlisa futhi uqale impilo yomuntu ngamunye.
Kule nkathi kufanele ucabange ukuthi ungamthethelela kanjani ngempela ukukhishwa komuntu othandekayo.
Kodwa yiyona imbangela yangempela yokukhaphela okuzosiza kokubili ukwenza isinqumo esifanele: hlalani ndawonye noma niyeke omunye nomunye. Futhi ukuthethelelwa nokwamukelwa komunye nomunye okungavulwa amehlo akho nomlingani wakho.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ukukhonjwa komuntu othandekayo, ungakhohlwa into eyodwa. Ukuvala intukuthelo yezwe namadoda (noma abesifazane) - akusho "ukusinda." Yamukela okwenzekile, sibhekane nayo futhi uvulekele ezenzakalweni ezintsha zenjabulo - lokho ukuthethelela kwangempela kanye nokuphila okugculisayo okulindele kuwe.