Eqinisweni, kunezindlela eziningi zokushayela umfana onobuqili. Zonke zingahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili: idatha yangaphandle nezenzo. Ngaphansi kwedatha yangaphandle, sisho ukuthi ungamshayela kanjani umfana onobuhle ngokubukeka, ukumomotheka, i-miniskirt. Kodwa ungakwazi futhi ukunqoba umfana ngokumanga kwawo, kuthinta futhi kuphazamise. Zonke lezi zindlela, ngokuqinisekile, zithinta isimo sengqondo nemvelo yendodana oyithandayo, kodwa kunezindlela ezijwayelekile ezizoshiya noma ubani ongathandanga.
Indlela yokushayela noma yimuphi umfana oyisimanga?
- Mhlawumbe isikhali sensikazi esibaluleke kunazo zonke ukumomotheka nesamehlo. Cabanga intombazane edabukisayo enamehlo aphelile. Ungamshayela kanjani umfana oyisimanga? Kungenzeka ukuthi, nganoma iyiphi indlela. Uma intombazane impela ifuna ukuphuma phakathi kobulili obuhle, amehlo akhe kufanele ahlale ekhanya! Okungenani, lo mfana akufanele abone kuzo usizi nokunganaki. Okufanayo kusebenza kumomotheka. Uma ngabe intombazane ivame ukumomotheka, khona-ke iyobhekwa njengenjabulo futhi emnandi ekukhulumisaneni nomuntu, futhi lokhu kuyindlela yezindlela ezithembekile zokushayela umuntu othandekayo ukuba ahlaziye.
- Isici esilandelayo esibalulekile saso sonke intombazane kufanele sibe ukunambitheka kwayo okuyingqayizivele. Ukuzikhethela kubalulekile ukuthi ungaqhubeki ekuthambekeni kokugcina kwefashini (nakuba kubalulekile futhi ukulalela kubo), futhi uqhubeke nokuzimela. Ukuthatha iphunga, udinga ukuthola iphunga lakho, ukuze athande wena uqobo, ukuze akhombise ngaphakathi kwakho.
- Kunezindlela eziningi nezindlela eziningi zokushayela ubusuku obumangalisa. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele unqume izingxenye eziyinkimbinkimbi zomuntu wakho, futhi ubange lezo zindawo. Ungabuza umfana ngokuqondile ukuthi ukumanga kwakho kumnika injabulo enkulu kakhulu, futhi ungayichaza ngokuhlangenwe nakho, ukumanga nje yonke indawo futhi ubukele ukusabela.
- Sula uhlangothi oluseduze lokuphila kwakho. Sebenzisa kule njongo amasu ahlukahlukene. Dlala izindima ezihlukene, zama ngezembatho zangaphansi kanye namathoyizi. Ngisho nokushintshwa okuyisisekelo kokuma nokuhlala okujwayelekile kungakabhekwa njengento ehlukahlukene. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ake umfana azi ukuthi nawe uyayithanda, ukuthi uyamthanda ngempela, futhi ungamthandi.
- Kukholelwa ukuthi lo mfana angadluliswa ngamazwi. Kodwa lo mkhono awutholakali kuwo wonke intombazane. Emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yalokhu udinga ukuba nezwi elilodwa lezwi, i-erudition ephakeme, umuzwa wokuhlekisa. Futhi zonke lezi zingxenye azivami ukuhlanganisa umuntu oyedwa. Kodwa futhi ungaphelelwa ithemba, ungakwazi njalo ukushayela ucansi lwakho ngokuncoma kwakho nokudumisa. Amantombazane athande uma adunyiswa futhi adunyiswa yibo, futhi umsebenzi wentombazane ukuwusebenzisa ngobuchule.
- Yiba ngowesifazane. Okusho ukuthi, zama ukugcizelela ukuthi imvelo ikuphi. Gqoka izithende nemikhankaso emifushane, ugcizelele umthamo wezintambo. Futhi ungazicabangeli, into esemqoka akusiyo enkulu kangakanani isifuba sakho, kepha ungayifaka kanjani. Phela, ungafihla amabele amakhulu futhi amahle ngaphansi kwesandla esidala sikagogo, noma unganikeza encane ukuze abafana bagijime.
- Futhi uyakhumbula ukuthi umama wakho wathi kuwe: "Indlela eya enhliziyweni yomuntu ilele esiswini"? Leli qiniso lisasebenza. Ngesichibiyelo kuphela sokuthi ikhono lomuntu kuphela lokupheka okumnandi akwanele, kodwa njengokungeza kwezinye izici, kufanele kube. Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje kulula kakhulu ukufunda ukupheka kahle. Ama-supermarket anezinqwaba zemikhiqizo ehlukahlukene, eziningi zezinhlelo zokuphelela kuthelevishini, futhi kuyi-intanethi kunamawebhusayithi anezigaba ezinyathelo nezinyathelo nezithombe zobuciko obuhle kakhulu.
Sebenzisa amandla akho ngokugcwele amandla, futhi akudingeki ukuthi ufune izindlela zokushayela umfana onobuqili. Khona-ke abafana ngokwabo kuzodingeka bafune ukhiye wenhliziyo yakho.