Ukuphazamiseka kwemvelo yukuthi sonke sifuna inkululeko, futhi sivame ukuyiyeka ngokuzithandela, siphika umthwalo wethu wemfanelo ngalokho okwenzekayo ekuphileni kwethu. Lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi i-psychology yesisulu.
Ukulahla umthwalo wemfanelo kanye ne-psychology yokuziphatha kwesisulu, njengombuso, kwenzeka ezinhlotsheni ezimbili:
- umuzwa wokuphelelwa yithemba nokuthi umuntu uyisisulu sezimo ezithile;
- ukucaphuna kubika abanye, ngoba, ngokusho kwesisulu, yibo abanye okumelwe bamenze ajabule futhi aphumelele.
Yiqiniso, ngokuvamile sizama ukwenza indima yesisulu ukuze sikwenze kube lula kakhulu ukuba siphile. Isibonelo, sifihle ngemuva kwesimo sezulu esibi, uma singafuni ukuya ekuqeqeshweni, wenqaba ukugeza izitsha, ngoba ihlupha i-eczema, njll. Kodwa-ke, kuvame ukuthi kwenzeke ukuthi thina ngokwethu sibheka izinkinga, senza izizathu zokungafuni ukufuna okuthile. Kanjani?
Wake wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani abantu abayizinkulungwane behamba emgwaqweni, futhi omunye ukhetha isikhwama somuntu. Ingozi ikhetha kanjani abantu? Noma ingabe thina ngokwethu sisenza ingozi?
Indima yecala lokuhlukunyezwa elifanelekile ekucwaningweni kwengqondo isigaba esithile - "ukunqoba" (okuvela egameni lesiNgisi elithi "isisulu" - "isisulu.") Lesi sayensi sisiza ekuboneni ukuthi isimo somuntu siba yisisulu sobugebengu, ngoba ngaso sonke isikhathi kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwesisulu kanye necala, ngisho nasezingeni elingazi lutho.
Isibonelo, owesifazane ongenake ngokwanele umyeni wakhe udlwengulwa. Emva kwalokhu, umyeni uhlangana naye futhi uhamba naye, uyamnakekela. Ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini, ukubambezeleka kweholo kanye nokweba kwekhredithi, njengombhalo wokugcina ochungechungeni olude lokuhluleka kwezezimali. Izibonelo zobuningi. Futhi kuzo zonke zazo, ukujikeleza ngokuzungezile, ungathola ubuhlobo obuseduze.
Indlela yokubhekana ne-psychology yesisulu?
Uma uvame ukuhluleka, ama-cafés athola amatafula amabi kakhulu, futhi abathengisi balinganisa izimpahla ezimbi, sekuyisikhathi sokucabangela ukuthi ungayilahla kanjani ingqondo yesisulu, aze adlulisele inhlanhla kwezinye izikali. Noma kunjalo, udinga ukuqala ngezinto ezincane.
Okokuqala, zama ukuqonda, unomuzwa wokuthi uhlale unelungelo lokuzikhethela. Ukuthi akusiyo ukuthi uhlulekile, kodwa lokho ngaphambili (ngesizathu esithile), awuzange uvumele ukukhetha. Esikhathini esilandelayo, lapho umdayisi eyokulinganisa i-kilogram yokubola esikhundleni sezithelo zokunisela umlomo, njengalokhu ku-counter, udinga ukuthatha indawo yezimpahla. Uma wenqaba, shiya. Okukhethile ukuthatha okungcono kakhulu. Kulungile kanjalo
Enye iphoyinti, engafanele inganakwa - gcina umhlane wakho uqonde. Ukumiswa kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba kuyisignali kwabanye abantu mayelana nezinga lakho lokuzethemba. Awufuni ukwenza isithombe sokuhluleka.
Uma i-psychology yesisulu ikuhole ezinkingeni ezinkulu, kungcono ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe ukuze kukusize uqonde izimpande zendima enjalo yomphakathi. Lokhu kuyisinqumo sakho futhi isinyathelo sokuqala ekuqondeni kwengqondo yomuntu okhululekile.