Ngokuqinisekile uye wabheka ngokuphindaphindiwe emashalofini incwadi ethi "NLP for Dummies" noma "Izimfihlo ze-NLP", kanye nabanye abaningi abakhuluma ngezinhlamvu ezintathu ezingaqondakali esembozweni. Abalobi bezincwadi ezinjalo bathembisa ukuthi bonke abafundi bezinkolelo bafunde amagama, bafundise ukushintsha noma yikuphi isimo esiqondisweni sabo. Kuyathakazelisa, kuyiqiniso yini ukuthi amasu e-NLP ayisimangaliso kangaka noma ingenye i-dummy ekhangisiwe kakhulu?
Ubuchwepheshe be-NLP empilweni
Uhlelo lwe-Neuro-linguistic (NLP) luyinkimbinkimbi yezindlela nezindlela ezehlukene ezivumela ukuxazulula izinkinga ezihlukahlukene. Lezi ziqondiso zengqondo zithokoze kakhulu, umuntu angasho ngisho nokuthi ikhula, kodwa seyivele ibonakala kahle. Amasu e-NLP angasetshenziselwa kokubili ukuphathwa kwengqondo nokuthuthukisa ukusebenza komuntu siqu. Ekuqaleni, lobu buchwepheshe busetshenziselwa ukusiza abanye abantu, futhi kuphela lapho basebenzisa khona ukukhangisa, ukwandisa ukuthengisa. Ngokwenza njalo, amasu e-NLP alandelayo asetshenziswa kakhulu:
- Ukushintsha kwezinkolelo. Omunye wemithetho esemqoka ye-NLP yukuthi kubalulekile ukucabangela zonke izimo (imizwa, imicabango) ephathelene nanoma yisiphi isimo. Kodwa asizitholi ngaso sonke isikhathi le mithetho futhi sinake kuphela okubi, ngenxa yalokho, sithola umqondo wokuthi ayikho indlela yokuphuma kweso simo. Futhi uma isimo sinendawo yokuphinda, siyabona ukuthi sinikezwe ithemba lakhe. Ukuze ushintshe inkolelo kubalulekile ukucubungula isimo, ukuthola amaqiniso amaningi amahle ngangokunokwenzeka, nazo zonke izinto ezimbi okufanele zibuzwe. Ungaphinda ubuye noma yisiphi isitatimende esihle, uqiniseke ngokuphelele kuso. Ukuzivocavoca kuzosebenza uma uchitha okungenani inyanga kukho.
- I-Anchoring. Okuyinhloko ukuxhumanisa okuhle (ngezinhloso ezithile ezingalungile) ngesenzo esithile. Ngokwesibonelo, ngandlela-thile wachitha ngempelasonto ejabulisayo edolobheni. Esihambelwaneni esilandelayo uzolindela okuthile okujabulisayo futhi uma kwenzeka lokhu, kungenzeka ukuthi uma ucabanga ngale ndawo nokuvakashela lapho, uzothola imizwa emihle kakhulu. Ukuze usebenzise le nqubo ngokuzikhandla, udinga ukugxila futhi uvuse umuzwa ofuna ukuwafunda ukuzwa ngokuzenzakalelayo. Njengoba uguqule ukuguqulwa okudingekayo, i-pinch (uhlangothi, uqale) izikhathi eziningana noma iyiphi ingxenye yomzimba wayo. Yenza lokhu izikhathi eziningana, uthinta indawo efanayo ngokunyakaza okufanayo. Manje, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, uma udinga ukuqala imizwelo ethile, thinta ingxenye yomzimba owenze ukubopha. Ungaphonsa "ihange" elinjalo kwabanye abantu.
- Umbiko. Kwenzeka ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza ubungane nomuntu, awukwazi ukuthola indlela kuye. Kulolu cala, kufanele uzame ukungena naye ekuhlanganiseni, ulungise imigqi yakhe - lokhu kungaba ukuphefumula, ukuma noma ukukhuluma. Ngokuphefumula kanye nokuphefumula, konke kucacile, kodwa ngendlela yokukhuluma kubalulekile ukukhokha ngokukhethekile. Iqiniso liwukuthi abantu baqonda izwe elibazungezile ngezindlela ezahlukene: omunye umuntu ukholelwa ekuzwa, othile ubona, abanye bathinta noma abanolwazi. Ungayinquma lokhu ngokubheka ukuthi yimiphi imishwana umuntu ayisebenzisa ngaphezulu, ngabe ukhuluma ngesimo (umbala) wezinto, mayelana nemisindo, mayelana nokuzwa noma okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Bese sebenzisa imishwana kusuka kwibhande elifanayo, elivame ukusetshenziselwa i-interlocutor.
Lokhu akuyona engokwemvelo kuzo zonke izici ze-NLP, kodwa lezi yizindlela ezifanele "ama-dummies", okungukuthi, abaqalayo. Ngemuva kokuthi uzizwe ukhululekile ngamasu okuqala, ungasebenzisa amanye amacebo we-NLP ukuze uthuthukise impilo yakho.
Hamba NLP
Ekhuluma ngezindlela zokuxhaphaza ukwazi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungasho lokho okubizwa nge-NLP. Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa izinguqulo ezimbili zalo mqondo:
- izindlela zokuqala zendlela ezisetshenziselwa ukusiza abantu (amasosha nezombusazwe) emva kokuya endaweni yezempi
izenzo; - futhi eyesibili isetshenziselwa ukuchaza izindlela zokuvikelwa ngamazwi kusuka ekuziphatheni okunomthethelo we-interlocutor noma ukubeka ingcindezi kumphikisi.
Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi uhlobo lwesibili lokulwa lwe-NLP alukho futhi kusolakala ukuthi aluyisayensi. Kodwa uma siqaphela ukuthi kunezinhlelo zokuhlelwa kwezinhlelo ze-neurolinguistic ngenhloso ye-psychotherapy, kusho ukuthi kukhona enye ifomethi. Kodwa kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kuyadingeka ukusebenzisa lezi zindlela ngokuqonda okugcwele, uhlelo lokusebenza olungalawulwayo alukwazi ukuholela kulowo miphumela.