Lapho intombazane ihlangana emphilweni yakhe indoda efanayo ebona isiphetho sayo, kukhona ukwesaba okungokwemvelo kokumlahlekelwa, ngoba yonke imicabango igxila kuye kuphela. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kungukubonakaliswa kothando, okungaba imbangela yamaphupho okuhlukanisa nesoka lakho othandekayo. Akudingekile ukuba unamathisele ukubaluleka okhethekile kulolo phupho, ngoba kuwumsebenzi wokwazisa, lapho ukukhathazeka okufihliwe komuntu kungase kufezeke khona. Kodwa nokho, sincoma ukukhumbula kabusha iphupho kuyo yonke imininingwane bese uzama ukuyichaza.
Kungani bephupha ukuhlukaniswa nomfana osemusha?
Naphezu kobuhlungu besithombe, kubonakala ephusheni, ukuhumusha okuningi kwephupho kuthatha lokhu njengesibonakaliso esihle. Ngokuvamile, abameleli besigamu esihle sabantu bakholelwa ukuthi iphupho elinjalo lithinta ikhefu ebuhlotsheni, kodwa akunjalo. Lokhu kufakazela ukuthi maduzane ukuvumelana kuzoba khona ebuhlotsheni bomlingani, futhi ukwethemba nokuvumelanisa kuyoba okukhulu nakakhulu kunangaphambili. Uma ephusheni unesithombe lapho umfana eqala ukuhlukana kobudlelwane, kungathiwa yizixwayiso, kuthi mhlawumbe ekukhohliseni noma imizwa yakhe sehlile phansi. Ukuxazulula le nkinga, khuluma nomthandekayo wakho ngobuhlobo bakho.
Uma uphupha ukukopela nokuhlukanisa ngalesi simo, kufanele futhi ubuyekeze imizwa yakho. Mhlawumbe, kungekudala intombazane izohlangana nentsha eyobe ikhetho lokuwina kunomuntu oseduze naye okwamanje. Uma umbala oqinile ngokomzwelo ubangelwa ephusheni, ucela futhi ucele lowo muntu ukuba aqhubeke nobuhlobo - lokhu kubonisa ukuqonda okubili, ukwethembeka kumalingani omunye nomunye. Iphinde iqinisekise ubuqotho bemibono. Uma uphupha ukuhlukanisa nomfana, futhi uyakhala - noma yizinye izinyembezi zifanekisela indlela yenjabulo nemicimbi ejabulisayo. Igebe ongazizwa ngayo imizwa lingase lihunyushwe ngokuthi liphila impilo engathandeki lapho kungabi khona ushintsho olubalulekile esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.
Ukuze uhlanganyele nomfana ephusheni yincwadi yokuphupha
Iphupho lolu hlobo lihunyushwa ngokuhlukile kwezinye izincwadi zokuphupha, isibonelo, uma uphupha mayelana nephupho lapho uphule khona nomuntu owayengumfana, futhi ngesikhathi usuvele ukhona kwenye ubuhlobo, kubonisa ukuthi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze uzobhekana nenkinga yokukhetha . Futhi iphupho lolu hlobo ngentombazane luphawu lokukhathala kwakhe kusuka ebuhlotsheni. Uma empeleni ummeli wesigamu esihle somuntu engalindele ukuba ahlukane nabathandekayo bakhe, kodwa ephusheni isimo sihluke ngokuphelele, lokhu kubonisa indlela yokuphikisana. Uma izenzakalo ezenzeka ephusheni zazingokomzwelo, isibonelo, zihambisana nokulwa nokuhlukunyezwa, empeleni intombazane ilinde inkathazo, engayibhekana nayo ngaphandle kokubunzima okukhulu.
Igebe, elenzeke ngokuphawulekayo nangalindelekile, lifanekisela impumelelo ebusweni bomuntu siqu. Ezinye izimpendulo zephupho ziphatha izinyembezi nokuhlangenwe nakho ephusheni njengokuphumelela emsebenzini, ukukhuthazwa emkhakheni wezemisebenzi.
Izazi zengqondo zithi ngokuvamile amaphupho, lapho kuhlukaniswa khona, ukhuluma ngezinkathazo ezifihliwe zokulahlekelwa othandekayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umfana ungumngani, izihlobo. Kubalulekile ukuba unake ukuthi yiziphi imizwelo owavuka, uma ukuvuswa kwakuhambisana nezinkathazo, kufanele uthole, kunesizathu. Ngokuvamile amaphupho aveza okuhlangenwe nakho okufihliwe nokufihlekile. Uma ubuhlobo buphela ebuhlotsheni, iphupho lolu hlobo luyinto ezwakalayo, futhi intombazane iyazikhohlisa, ukuthi iyathandana.