Kukholelwa ukuthi umndeni usuphelele ngempela, lapho izingane ezimbili zigijima nxazonke zendlu. Yiqiniso, umehluko phakathi kwezingane emibhangqwana yokuqala izobonakala, futhi umama uzoba nzima. Kodwa ngemva kweminyaka embalwa, abantwana baqala ukwenza abangane futhi badlale ndawonye. Ngesikhathi uhlela ukukhulelwa okwesibili, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzinikela isikhathi esanele kumzali wokuqala futhi ulungiselele ukuvela kwamalungu omndeni omusha.
Uzoqala kuphi?
Kufanele uqonde ukuthi ukhokhele sonke isikhathi sakho kumntwana wokuqala futhi wazijwayele ngokwemvelo. Kuyoba nzima ukugwema izingxabano nokuphendula okubi, uma nje ubeka ngaphambi kweqiniso futhi uthi manje uzokwabelana nomama nobaba nomunye ingane.
Ngisho nasesikhathini sokuhlela, kungcono ukuqala ukutshela imvuthu ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uyoba nomfowenu noma udadewabo. Buza mayelana nesimo sakhe sengqondo kulokhu akukho mqondo, uma usuvele usesikhundleni. Futhi uma ngisho neyesibili imane isemapulani kuphela, ngempendulo ethi "cha" kuzodingeka wenze umzamo wokukholisa lokho. Futhi ngubani owazi ukuthi uzobona kanjani ukuthi ngisho nangempendulo yakhe engalungile usalokhu ubeletha. Kanjani ukungena? Zama ukunikeza imininingwane yengane ngokukhanya okuhle. Ungasho ngentshiseko ukuthi kuzoba kuhle kanjani ukudlala nomuntu othandekayo nokuthi uzoba kanjani nonke. Ngakho-ke, uzolungisa ingane yokuqala ibe nemicabango emihle nokulindela ingane ngokujabulisayo.
Iphuzu elibalulekile ukuthi cishe bonke abazali baphuthele, noma baphathe kabi ingane. Ungalokothi usho imishwana efana "ngeke sikuthande kancane". Uvele ufake engqondweni yezitshalo imicabango engadingekile. Gwema le mibuzo ngokwakho futhi ungazikhumbuli wena ngokwakho. Esinye iphutha evamile ukufaniswa. Ungalokothi utshele ingane yokuqala ukuthi inqubo yakhe yokuzalwa nentuthuko yayihlukile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, zama ukukhombisa ukuthi bafana kanjani nomzalwane nokuthi bazohlala kanjani ndawonye.
Imfundo emfushane kubazali
Uma ulungiselele umqondo wokuthi umntanakho wesibili emndenini ulungile, ungaqala ukumbandakanya ohlelweni lokulungiselela ukuvela kwelungu elisha lomndeni.
- Bonisa ingane yokuqala ukuthi umbono wakhe ubalulekile futhi umnike ithuba lokukhetha igama ngokwakho! Ngokuqinisekile usuvele uthatha abambalwa, kodwa awukwazi ukunquma. Amazibulo azojabula kakhulu ukukusiza ngalokhu.
- Ngokujwayelekile ku-ultrasound uhamba nomlingani noma omama, kodwa ingane endala ingabuye ibe mnandi kakhulu. Khombisa imidwebo ngomdwebo ngomfowabo noma udadewabo, ngokuqinisekile uzojabula ngokuphelele.
- Vumela umdala uthinte isisu bese ukhuluma nomncane. Lokhu ngeke nje kuqalise ukuxhumana okuqinile kwengqondo phakathi kwezingane, kodwa futhi kusize lo mdala ukuba ajwayele isihlobo sakhe esisha.
- Lungiselela umhlaba ukuvakashelwa kwezivakashi nezihlobo esikhathini esizayo. Masinyane bacele ukuba babonise kuphela bobabili abantwana, noma bathenge izipho ngokwabo. Umntwana okhulile akufanele azizwe enganakwa.
Kuseduze komzimba
Manje amazwi ambalwa mayelana nengxenye yomndeni wombuzo. Kumelwe ulungiselele ngokukhululekile ingqondo hhayi ngokwengqondo nangokwengqondo kuphela.
Khuthaza isikhuthazo ngazo zonke izindlela. Chaza ukuthi amacala ambalwa alula futhi ewusizo azosindisa isikhathi, futhi ungayisebenzisa kumageyimu noma ekukhulumisaneni. Ngesikhathi umama efihla omncinyane, umdala angathatha ngokushesha izinto ezingcolile ebhasikidi bese ephonsa insipho. Qinisekisa ukumbonga nganoma yikuphi usizo nokudumisa ngezihlobo nabangane, khona-ke lo mkhuba uzozizwa eyindoda ethandekayo futhi ebalulekile emndenini.