Akuyona into engafani ukusebenzisa igama elinjalo engxoxweni ngokuthi "ubulili." Kodwa ubulili obubonakalayo, njengomthetho, akukhulunywa kancane, ngoba abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi abantu kuphela abanokucabanga okungahambisani nawo noma abanempilo abangakwazi ukubhekana nayo. Njengoba kwakungeke kube khona, kodwa ubulili obukhona bukhona, makungabonwa kakhulu, kodwa omunye udinga. Uma usenqume ukuzama ucansi olungokoqobo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi luhlobo luni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili obubonakalayo efonini noma ngokobulili obubonakalayo kuma-sms, usadinga ukwazi imithetho ethile.
Ungayisebenzisa kanjani ubulili obubonakalayo?
- Ungalokothi uqale isiphakamiso sakho socansi ngokusho ngamazwi athi "Ngifuna ubulili obubonakalayo", ngoba lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esingalungile ekukhulumisaneni okunjalo. Ungazinikeli ngokuphelele futhi ngokushesha, ukuqala, kufanelekile ukukhuluma nomlingani ezindaweni ezikude, ezivamile, ukudala i-foreplay ekhethekile, bese uqhubekela phambili kubuntu. Okungukuthi, kuyadingeka ukuthi uhambe kusukela jikelele kuya kokunye.
- Lapho ukhuluma ngabantu ngabanye, udinga ukucacisa idatha yobudala, imingcele yangaphandle. Njengomthetho, ukugcizelela, ukudlulisa okuningi kubo. Lokhu akulungile noma akulungile, ngokuphambene nalokho kungaletha injabulo. Kodwa khumbula lokho akulona iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi.
- Okubaluleke kakhulu ngamazwi afanele wezocansi zangempela. Akufanele nanini unqume ukuncoma kumuntu , amagama "ashisayo," ngoba lokhu kuyisisekelo sobulili obubonakalayo. Kudingeka ukuchaza izingubo zakho, ukubukeka, ukulalelisisa imininingwane ekhethekile kanye nokunciphisa. Yisimiso se tempo esifanele namagama alungile angamjabulisa umlingani futhi amenze acabange. Ngokuvamile, le ndaba kufanele ibe nejubane elihlukile, ekuqaleni liphuze ngokusheshisa kancane kancane kuphela emva kokuphela kobulili obubonakalayo kufanele kube ukwehla kwayo.
- Isinyathelo esilandelayo emva kokuchaza ukubukeka yisenzo sothando ngokwayo. Naye, kumele ahambisane namazwi acacile kakhulu, achaza zonke izinyathelo, isinyathelo ngasinye, isenzo ngasinye, ngoba ngaphandle kokububula kanye ne-moov, abalandeli bezocansi ezingokoqobo bazi, kufanele ahlale ehambisana nazo zonke izinhlobo zokuphawula.
Ekupheleni kobulili obubonakalayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udlulisele ngempumelelo nomlingani wakho noma cha, kubalulekile ukumbonga, ukumncoma, ukumncoma. Imithetho yokuziphatha kobulili obubonakalayo, kusukela kwangempela, ayifani nhlobo, into esemqoka kuzo zombili izimo ukunikeza omunye nomunye injabulo.