Abanye abantu ngokwemvelo banomphakathi futhi bangathola ulimi oluvamile cishe nanoma yimuphi umuntu. Abanye bahlupheka ngenxa yokuthi abazithembi ngokwabo, abakwazi ukuqala ingxoxo nomfokazi futhi bahlale bethula emphakathini. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukhethe lezo zisebenzi, ezingenakukwenza ngokuxhumana. Kodwa-ke, ikhono lokuxhumana nokuqiniseka emphakathini akudingekile kuphela emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abantu abanjalo bathole impendulo efanele embuzweni wokuthi bangabeka amahloni, bangavikelekile futhi bahoxiswe. Izincomo zengqondo yezokwelapha futhi zisebenza kumlingiswa wazo kule ndlela ziletha izithelo ezifunwayo.
Ungakuyeka kanjani ukuvaliwe futhi unamahloni?
Ukuvala kanye namahloni akuzona izici ezingalungile zomlingisi , kodwa ukudala ubunzima abathile empilweni yomuntu. Ukusebenza ngenkinga yokuyeka ukuba umuntu onamahloni kuzodingeka ukuthi uhlale ulungisa umkhuba omusha. Kodwa ngesikhathi sokuzijwayeza nabantu abasha nokukhuluma nabo ngeke kubonise noma yikuphi ubunzima.
Ngakho-ke, izazi zengqondo zinikeza iseluleko esinjalo sokuyeka ukuba namahloni:
- Kubalulekile ukusebenza ngokukhulisa ukuzethemba komuntu. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungabhala phansi eshadini izimfanelo zakho ezinhle bese ulenga uhlu odongeni eduze kwedeskithophu.
- Kuwusizo ukugcina abantu abathokozisayo: yini ekuziphatheni kwabo, kungani bephumelela emphakathini.
- Kubalulekile ukuqhuba ukuxhumana nabantu nsuku zonke ekusebenzeni. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungasebenzisa noma yikuphi isimo lapho kunabanye abantu nethuba lokuxhumana. Lokhu kungaba umbuzo wezimpahla kumdayisi, umbuzo wesikhathi kumuntu odlula, isicelo kumshayeli webhasi.
- Kubalulekile ukukhiqiza izwi elizethemba. Kungcono ukwenza lokhu ekhaya, phambi kwesibuko. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma njengokuthi kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu akhombise noma aphoqe othile ukuba enze okuthile.
- Ukuze usebenze ngendlela yokuyeka ukuthobeka nokuziqhenya, ezinye izazi zengqondo zinikeza indlela ethakazelisayo, kodwa hhayi indlela elula. Ihlose ukunqoba umkhawulo wokwesaba umphakathi ngesikhathi esifushane. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukwenza okuthile bonke abantu abakunake ngakho. Ungamomotheka kubo bonke abadlula, ugqoke ngokungahambisani, uthwale into engavamile ezandleni zakho. Ngemuva kokuthi umuntu athole ukunakwa okukhulu kwabanye, uqala ukukhokha kancane imibono evela ngaphandle futhi uzizwa engakhululekile.