Kwabaningi, isehlukaniso sihlobene nesimo sokuphelelwa ithemba, ukucindezeleka. Abesifazane abaningi bayamesaba kakhulu kangangokuthi kuze kube sekugcineni abahluphekayo babo bazama ukugcina umndeni ojabulayo. Kodwa uma kwenzeka okuthile okwenzekayo ukuthi umgcini wezintambo uyesaba, umbuzo uvela ukuthi kukhona yini impilo emva kokuhlukanisa.
Ngokwenhlolovo yezibalo, ezimweni eziningi umsunguli wehlukaniso nguye owesifazane. Izizathu eziyinhloko ziwukuthi: ukunganeliseki ngokocansi, ukushada komshado , ukuphuza komyeni, ukushada okulula, ukungahambisani nabalingiswa, ukungazilungiseleli ngokwengqondo nangokwengqondo kwemithwalo yemindeni, "ukucindezela".
Ukuphila ngemva kokuhlukaniswa nomyeni wakhe
Noma yikuphi ukuphila komndeni, kusengumlando wokuphila kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Ngemuva kokuphenduka okunjalo emiphakathini yabangakashadile, izinto eziza kuqala, izindinganiso, izimiso zashintsha. Ukuze ubuyeke umuzwa wangaphambili wenjabulo kungenzeka ngasikhathi sinye kubambalwa. Futhi kulokhu, kunzima kakhulu abesifazane ukuba bathuthukise izimpilo zabo. Phela, ingqondo yabo ihlelwe ngendlela yokuthi bayibona umhlaba, okokuqala, ngokusebenzisa i-prism yemizwa.
Ukuphila kowesifazane emva kwesahlukaniso kungashintsha ngenye yezindlela ezimbili: noma bukhoma zonke izinsuku zodwa, noma uphinde uhambe ngendlela yokwakha isakhiwo, ubuhlobo bomndeni, kodwa nomunye umuntu.
Abaningi besifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi banezingane ezingalweni zabo noma bangabi nabantwana, bakhetha ukhetho lokuqala. Kulesi simo, bathola inkululeko, indlu ehlanzekile, igcwele induduzo, ukuthula-yilokho ababekufunayo kakhulu.
Idatha yezenhlalakahle ibonisa ukuthi impilo entsha yowesifazane emva kokuhlukanisa ngonyaka wokuqala igcwele umuzwa wokukhulula, ukujabula. Bathuthuke ngokuphawulekayo empilweni yabo. Ukulingana kwengqondo nokwengqondo kusekwa. Incazelo yalokhu yinye: emva kokuqeda imisebenzi ecindezelayo yansukuzonke yomfazi ovamile (ukuhlanza njalo, ukugcoba, ukuhlanza, njll), lo wesifazane uqala ukuzinikela isikhathi esiningi kubathandekayo bakhe, ukuvuselela ubudlelwane nabangane, ukuthuthuka ohlelweni lwezinto ezingokomoya. Abesifazane bafuna ukujabulisa abantu. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu empilweni emva kokuhlukanisa kungukunakekelwa kokubukeka kwakho.
Ukuphila ngemva kokuhlukanisa nomntwana
Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi injabulo yomndeni ayihlali isikhathi eside, ngisho noma abashadile benomntwana wabo, isithelo sothando lwabo. Uma ngemuva kwesahlukaniso uhlala nomntwana ezandleni zakho, ungadikibali. Ekuqaleni, kungadingeka ukuba uthembele kubazali bakho ngezindlela eziningi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungaqala ukuphila ngokugcwele futhi. Into esemqoka ukuthanda wena nomntanakho. Ungagxili ekutholeni umlingani omusha. Thuthukisa impilo yakho, izwe lakho langaphakathi. Uma uthanda ngempela omunye umuntu, khona-ke ingane yakho, uyakwamukela ngenjabulo, njengeyakhe.
Ukuqala kanjani ukuphila ngemva kwesahlukaniso?
- Ngokuvamile uzikhumbuze ukuthi isehlukaniso asiyona into kodwa impilo entsha. Ukuze ungangeni ekucindezelekeni, thola izinzuzo esimweni sakho. Ungangabazi ukuthi unezinto ezinhle kakhulu ukuthi uhlukanisile. Uma kusebenza kahle, bhala phansi ephepheni zonke izici ezinhle zesigaba samanje sokuphila.
- Kholelwa kuwe, esikhathini esizayo. Khumbula ukuthi imicabango yakho nezinkolelo zakho zihlela impilo yakho. Naka izenzo zakho. Yeka ukuzisola nokukhala.
- Qaphela izinto ozithandayo.
- Ukushintsha okuhle kusiza isimo. Qalisa uhambo. Sondelana nabantu abasha. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi kuzoba khona ukubonakala okusha. Ukuhamba akudingeki ukuba ukuphonse ube ipenny. Uhambo oluya emazaneni nalo luphelele. Into esemqoka ukuya endaweni ongakaze uyikho ngaphambili, ikakhulukazi - lapho ungazange uphumule nomuntu oshade naye.
Yiba ngowesifazane ohlala enjabulweni nenjabulo. Ngempela, kubantu abanjalo abanye abadonsa. Kungabesifazane abanjalo abafuna ukuhlangana nabo. Zithande futhi uhloniphe!