Ubuhlobo obunzima nomuntu, obandakanya ukudalwa komndeni oqinile - akukhona yini ukuthi wonke owesifazane wesifazane amaphupho ngawo? Ubudlelwano obusekelwe ekuthembeleni, othandweni, ukwamukelwa, ubungane kanye nomzwelo we "ngemuva" ngemuva kwazo umsebenzi owenziwa kancane kancane emaceleni omabili.
Kusho ukuthini "ubuhlobo obujulile"?
Ubuhlobo obukhulu - yilokhu? Zikhona yini izindlela umuntu angaziqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo buye baba yinto engathí sina futhi enenjongo? Yebo, izinqubo noma izimpawu ezinjalo ziyi:
- imizwa ejulile komunye nomunye, isimemezelo sothando;
- umbono ofanayo wabalingani bekusasa labo elihlangene, ukuhlela, ezingxoxweni ngokuvamile sizwa "thina", esikhundleni se "Mina";
- isifiso sokwakha umndeni oqinile, khuluma ngezingane;
- abalingani basuke bagxilwe ngokuphelele futhi bangabheki "izinketho" zokukhetha.
Indlela yokuthola indoda ngobuhlobo obungathí sina?
Kuphi ukuhlangana nendoda ngobuhlobo obunzima? Lo mbuzo ungazwakala kubantu besifazane, ukhathele isizungu, "ushiswe" ebuhlotsheni obudlule nalabo abesaba ukujwayela abantu nhlobo. Ayikho impendulo engaqondakali kulo mbuzo, kuncike kulokho owesifazane okholelwa kukho, lokho akuqondisayo. Kukhona umuntu okubalulekile ukusho ukuthi "isiphetho siyothola esitofu" - bahlala futhi balinde, futhi othile uthatha ikusasa labo ezandleni zabo futhi ehamba ngezenzakalo ezehlukene, enethemba lokuhlangabezana nalowo ofanayo.
Icala ngalinye lihlukile. Kodwa iphuzu elibalulekile lapha lizoba umbono ocacile wesifazane mayelana nokuthi kufanele abe kanjani, indoda yakhe ngobuhlobo obunzima? Ukucabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo obunzima besikhathi eside kuphela ekufuneni indoda kuyiphutha eliyisisekelo. Amantombazane, abesifazane abafuna ubudlelwane obunjalo, kufanele baveze ngokucacile ukuthi banganikeza abakhethiweyo lokho okuyokwenza khona. Ama-Esotericists akholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuqonda kuzoheha umuntu ofanele.
Noma kunjalo, lapho ungahlangana nomuntu omuhle ngobuhlobo obunzima:
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani, kungase kube yisikhathi sokubheka nxazonke, ngezinye izikhathi okudingayo kungokwamahlangothi (ukuhlala endlini eyodwa, umnyango, esiteshini esiseduze futhi ulindele ukuba aqaphele);
- Uma lokhu kungumzana omncane (idolobhana, idolobhana), lapho umuntu angafanele alinde "olwandle lwezulu", ukhetho olulodwa - ukushintsha indawo yokuhlala, kunzima futhi kuyingozi, kepha uma uthando olujulile luba phambili, ingozi iyadingeka.
- Amanethiwekhi omphakathi, izingosi ze-inthanethi - kunombono wokuthi i-Inthanethi iyazijwayeza kuphela ngokuzijabulisa, futhi ubuhlobo obunzima yiwona owenza imihlangano endaweni yangempela. Kodwa akuyona yonke into edabukisayo njengoba kubonakala, futhi ithuba lokuzijwayeza umuntu ofanelekayo kwi-platform yangempela alikho ithemba, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi umsebenzi wabantu abaningi uphakeme kakhulu, futhi i-Inthanethi iyindawo ephephile yokuzijwayeza: akekho ophuthumayo, ngesisindo somoya singakwazi njalo ukuqoka umhlangano ozophawula "i", abantu basondela noma cha.
- Owesifazane uvame ukudweba isithombe sezimfanelo zakhe zesikhathi esizayo. Abanye banomdlali wezemidlalo, umculi, umculi, abanye banomdlali weNobel, ososayensi. Lapha iseluleko esisodwa kufanele sibe semvelo lapho amadoda anjalo "ahlala": izingqungquthela, imibukiso, imicimbi yezemidlalo, amakhonsathi.
Insizakalo yokuqomisana ngobuhlobo obunzima
"Ukuthandana nobuhlobo obungathí sina nomshado" - namuhla izikhangiso ezinjalo azivamile, ama-ejensi womshado noma izinsizakalo zokuthandana, zidinga kakhulu phakathi kwabantu. Abalingani bezobuchwepheshe banamakhono ahlukahlukene avumela ukuba bakhethe indoda noma owesifazane ngobuhlobo obungathí sina nokuhambisana okuphezulu ngokusho kwezingqondo zengqondo kanye nemingcele yezinkanyezi. Lokhu kuyindlela enhle ngabantu abamatasa nalabo abesaba ukuzijwayeza.
Indlela yokujwayelana nomfokazi ngobuhlobo obungathí sina?
Ungathola kanjani umuntu ocebile ubuhlobo obunzima, ngisho nomfokazi? Ngokuvamile lo mbuzo ubuzwa ngamantombazane amancane anezimfuno eziphakeme nomgomo othize, abahlose ukufeza. Lokhu kungokoqobo kunokuba kubheka ukubuka okungokoqobo. Ezweni lanamuhla, lapho ukufinyelela kumazwe ahlukene, ukuhamba, ukuhamba kwebhizinisi, imfundo yezokushintshaniswa kwamanye amazwe ingatholakala ezweni lakini. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile intombazane noma owesifazane obeke lo mgomo ukufunda izilimi zakwamanye amazwe, isibonelo isiNgisi.
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Ungakha kanjani ubuhlobo obunzima nomuntu?
Ukudlana nomndeni kanye nobuhlobo obunzima ngumthwalo omkhulu. Amanye amathiphu wezazi zengqondo yokwakha ubuhlobo obunzima:
- omunye umuntu akakwazi ukuguqulwa, ungashintsha wena kuphela, ngakho ukufundisa indoda kungonakalisa ubuhlobo obunzima, wonke umuntu ufuna ukuhlala ngokwakhe;
- kubalulekile ukuthi owesifazane athathe isinyathelo sokuqala kuye;
- uma kukhona ukungqubuzana, akubandakanyi ebuhlotsheni babazali, abangane;
- Ukuzijabulisa okuhlangene kuqinisa ukuxhumana;
- ikhono lokulalela, ukuzwa lokho indoda efuna ukukusho nokukwazi ukuyilalela lapho egula;
- tshela le ndoda kaningi ukuthi uyathandwa futhi uyathandeka;
- okumangalisa, izinto ezijabulisayo - amadoda ayawuthanda ngendlela efanayo nabesifazane, kubalulekile ukumangala futhi ukuwubonga ngezikhathi ezithile;
- inhlonipho yisitsha esinikezela ukuthanda, ngaphandle kwenhlonipho, ubudlelwane obukhulu akunakwenzeka.
Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi indoda ifuna ubudlelwane obungathí sina?
Amantombazane angenalo ulwazi olujulile ekusebenzelaneni nobulili obuhlukile uvame ukuzibuza: kanjani ukuqonda ukuthi lo mfana ufuna ubuhlobo obunzima? Phakathi kwabantu abasha, bobabili banomthwalo wemfanelo nalabo abafuna nje ukuzijabulisa. Umfana noma indoda ekhulile kakade, ebhekisela ngokungathí sina kumuntu akhethiweyo uyabonisa kanje:
- zama ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabathandekayo bakho;
- ikhombisa ukukhathalela nokubekezela;
- uyathanda ukumbuka emehlweni;
- zama ukufunda okwengeziwe ngentombi;
- ukhuluma ngezinhlelo zakhe;
- uyazi izihlobo nabangane bakhe;
- silungele ukwenza ubuhlobo.
Indlela yokukhuluma nendoda mayelana nobuhlobo obunzima?
Ubuhlobo obunzima nomfana noma indoda - ngokuvamile lesi sifiso sibheka kuqala kowesifazane, ubulili obuqinile abukhiphi ukuzibophezela ngezibopho zesikhathi eside. Indlela yokukhuluma nomfana ngokujulile mayelana nobuhlobo:
- tshela iqiniso, yikuphi okulindelwe kulokhu buhlobo;
- mema ngobumnene ukuba ahlangane nabazali ezinhlangothini zombili;
- uma umuntu engakakulungeli ubuhlobo obungathí sina, mbuze ukuthi athi kungani, yini emvimbayo, uma esaba , ungabuyela emuva kule ngxoxo uma ekulungele.
Indlela yokudlulisa ubudlelwane behhala ebuhlotsheni obungathí sina?
Owesifazane uthandeke ukuba athembele ukuthi indoda izohlala phansi ngolunye usuku, kungathatha iminyaka eminingana, kodwa uzoyilinda. Indlela yokuhumusha ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezibopho zibe ezimbi? Uma lokhu kungenzekanga isikhathi esanele, cishe akunakwenzeka. Kodwa ungazama. Ukuze wenze lokhu, zama ukudala isikhala esinjalo uzungeze wena, ukuze umuntu abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyakwazisa futhi uyathandwa, akusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa konke kuyedwa.
Indoda ayifuni ubuhlobo obunzima, kufanele yenzeni?
Umfana akafuni ubuhlobo obunzima - kubalulekile ukuhlola ngobuhlobo ubudlelwane obunjalo, uma kuwufanele, khona-ke kufanele uthathe isinyathelo ezandleni zakho, ukhulume nendoda, uthole amapulani akhe, amathemba. Uma engaboni ebuhlotsheni obungathí sina, kufanelekile ukuyeka ukukhohliswa nokuhlukaniswa, ukuthola umuntu ofuna ukuhamba ngendlela eyodwa, ukuthi yiziphi izindinganiso zomndeni ezibalulekile. Kuwesifazane onamathele ebuhlotsheni mahhala futhi wesaba ukuba yedwa , udinga ukuzinakekela, ukubona kuwe umuntu omuhle ofanelekayo umngane omuhle, onakekelayo eceleni.
Kungani amadoda esaba ubuhlobo obungathí sina?
Indoda ayifuni ubuhlobo obunzima ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene:
- wakhulela ngaphandle kobaba, amadoda anjalo abesaba umthwalo wemfanelo wokuthi bangashiya umndeni nganoma isiphi isikhathi;
- lapho othandekayo wakhe emshiya;
- ukwesaba noma ukungathandi komuntu;
- ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela;
- abakwazi ukukhokhela ubuhlobo obunjalo ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuzinza kwezezimali.