Kuyini ukungabaza nokuziqeda?

Ukusola okwenyuka nokwenqaba ukukholelwa emandleni akho kungumthombo we-iceberg womzwelo, ochwepheshe bezengqondo ababiza ngokuthi "ukuziphendulela okuqinile." Lesi isimo esingokomzwelo esiyingozi esingathinta umsebenzi wakho, uzuze ukuvumelana empilweni yakho siqu futhi uxoxe nabangani bakho.

Kusho ukuthini ukungaqiniseki?

Inkimbinkimbi yokuzizwa komuntu siqu, lapho umuntu ezwa khona kuncike emibonweni yabanye futhi uzigxeka ngokweqile, yisisusa esivame kakhulu sokuthinta izikhala zengqondo. Ukuzethemba okuphansi nokuziphendulela-into eyinkimbinkimbi ehlanganisa izinto ezifana nalezi:

1. Izinkinga zomphakathi (ukunganaki enkulumweni yenkhulumiswano nezihlobo nabangane).
2. Ukuphulwa okucabangayo (okulindelekile okungalungile kuzo zonke izenzo, izimo zengqondo ezingalungile nemihlahlandlela, isimo sengqondo esanele ngokwalo).
3. Ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha (ukungabi namakhono ekuziphatheni komphakathi).
4. Izinguquko zemizwelo ( imizwa yokwesaba , ukukhathazeka okwandayo).

Ukunganaki - kwengqondo

I-Psychology ichaza le nkinga ngokuthi "ukungabikho kokungabaza ngokuqhubekayo emakhono abo, idatha yangaphandle, amakhono, amandla kanye nekhono lokufeza izinhlelo zabo" - njengoba ochwepheshe bale nkundla bembula umqondo "wokuziphendulela". Ezingxenyeni ezibucayi zokuthuthukiswa kwalesi sifo, lowo ogulayo angakwazi ngisho nokushiya noma yisiphi isinyathelo esisebenzayo futhi ahoxiswe kuye. Izazi zengqondo zinamaphuzu amabili okubuka kulokho ukuziphendulela:

1. Abasekeli be-theory yokuqala bayakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu, okwenza kube nokwephulwa komuntu we-psychosomatic. Umbono ongalungile weqiniso ngempela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ungadala ezinye izinkinga ezingqondweni.
2. Abameli bamanje bamanje babona ekungalondeki emandleni abo siqu kuphela izinzuzo. Babona emzabalazweni wansuku zonke nokwesaba ithuba lokuthuthukisa uhlamvu lomholi futhi bafunde ukulwa nokuhluleka.

Izimbangela zokungavikeleki

Ngokuba ukuvela kwenhlabathi ekuthuthukiseni lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi yinkathi yokuphila yabantwana, lapho kuhlanganiswa khona ubuntu. Amamodeli wokuziphatha umuntu akubona esemncane ashicilelwe emoyeni wengane futhi kancane kancane aphenduke isithombe sokubhekisela. Ukuziphendulela njalo kungabangelwa ukusabela okungalungile kunoma yisiphi isinyathelo esisebenzayo noma isibonelo somuntu siqu sabazali abahluleka ukuzenza amandla. Phakathi kwezinye izizathu eziveza ukuthi yikuphi ukungabaza okuyikho, kuthiwa:

• ukungazi nokwaziswa kwezwe lomuntu wangaphakathi;
• ukungabi nencazelo empilweni;
• ukungakwazi ukukhomba amanani kanye nezinto eziza kuqala;
• ukungakwazi ukuvikela imingcele yomuntu siqu;
• ukuvikelwa komsebenzi ophikisiwe.

Izimpawu zokungabaza

Ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki kubonakala ngokucacile ngaphambi kokusebenza, ukuhlolwa noma ukuxoxa. Futhi nakuba le mfanelo ingenayo izici ezithile zobulili noma ubudala, izimpawu zayo jikelele zingabonakala ohlwini oluncane:

• ukungabi namandla okuzwa ukuzithoba phakathi kwengxoxo;
• ukugwema imithwalo yemfanelo yomsebenzi kanye nomndeni;
• ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuqinisa ukubaluleka kokunikeza imibono yabangaphandle;
• umfanekiso wesibuko sokungaqiniseki - ukuziphatha okuzimelelayo okuzimelelayo;
• ukuzethemba ekucabangeni imibono yabo.

Ungasusa kanjani ukungabaza?

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imiphi indlela yokuziphatha umnikazi wenkimbinkimbi ekhethayo (phakathi kwefomu lokuphunyuka nokuhlasela), angakwazi futhi enze yonke imizamo yokulwa nale nkinga. Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuqeda ukukhathazeka kwengqondo ukuthola impendulo yombuzo othi kungani ukungaqiniseki kuvela. Ukugijima kusuka e-phobia akudingekile - kufanelekile ukujwayelana eduze, ukuqonda, ngenxa yalokho okubonakalayo, yiziphi izimo ezanda, futhi lapho kuhla khona. Ukuqonda ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani ukungaqiniseki kuwe, ungakha uhlelo lokulawula phezu kwezinkimbinkimbi:

1. Phuma endaweni yokududuza . Ukwenqaba izenzo nezenzo zomkhuba kuzoletha intsha ekuphileni futhi kuzophazamisa ukugxila ekukhathazeni.
2. Ukusungulwa koxhumana nomzimba . Abantu abanenkimbinkimbi bazozizwa bekhululekile uma beqala ukudlala imidlalo noma ukudansa.
3. Ukubukwa ngeso lengqondo . Ukudala imifanekiso emihle yengqondo, ukudlala izimo eziholela empumelelweni kusiza ukubeka isisombululo esiyimpumelelo script noma yisiphi isimo lapho ama-phobia abonakala khona.
4. Ukubonakaliswa kwesinyathelo . "Ukuqeqesha" ekukhulumisaneni ne-kakade ojwayele ukukhipha izithiyo lapho uqala ukuxhumana nabantu abangabazi.

Ukungavikeleki - I-Orthodoxy

Amakholwa afuna ukuthola izimpendulo zemibuzo yonke enkolweni ayibonisayo. Isonto likholelwa ukuthi ukuziqhenya, ukuzithiba njengezimfanelo zomuntu kufana nesono, ngoba bayamnciphisa umuntu injabulo yokuphila. IBhayibheli ngokuziphendulela likhuluma kancane, kodwa abapristi bayavuma ukuthi kuneziprofeshini eziyingozi - odokotela abahlinzayo, ososayensi, abagibeli bezindiza kanye nabaphathi bezindiza zomoya. Inkolo icebisa izindlela ezingavamile zokwelapha izinkimbinkimbi:

• imithandazo kwabangcwele - UNicholas the Wonderworker , i-Great Martyr Panteleimon noMama kaNkulunkulu;
• uthando nokusiza esontweni lesonto;
• izingxoxo nomeluleki ongokomoya.

Amabhuku ngokuziphendulela

Kubhalwe ngolimi olulula, umsebenzi wezazi ze-psychologists usiza ukubhekana nemiphumela yezinkinga zokuphila futhi ufunde ukuthi ungazihlola kanjani. Amabhuku anika ithuba engxenyeni yokubheka izinkinga abaningi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke besaba ngisho nokucabanga ngakho:

1. "Usizo lwezokwelapha ezihlotsheni" u-Irina Germanovna Malkina-Pykh. Umlobi uye waqoqa izincomo ezisebenzayo ekuhambeni kwezigaba eziyinkimbinkimbi ekuphileni nokuzithiba.
2. "Abantu bazokwenza njengoba ufisa." UJohn Robert Parkinson. Ayikho incwadi engcono ngokuziphendulela komuntu ofuna ukufunda ukuthi angayinqoba kanjani futhi adale ingaphakathi langaphakathi.
3. "Ubuciko bokuba ngokwakho" uVladimir Levi. Umdali wencwadi ufingqa ulwazi lwama-psychologists kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo kuze kube manje, ukuze unike amandla umfundi ngamunye ukuthola ukulinganisela komphefumulo.
4. "Ukuqeqeshwa ngokweqile " uManuel James Smith. Le ncwadi ikufundisa ukuba ube nomzwelo futhi utshele indlela yokuyeka ukwesaba ukugxeka ngaphandle.

Amabhayisikobho mayelana nokungabaza

Ama-movie mayelana nokunqoba ama-phobias awo awakhiwe ngezikhathi ezihlukene, kodwa awazange alahlekelwe ukuhambisana. Amafilimu mayelana nokungaqiniseki okuvela kulolu hlu adunyelwe ukubukwa ngabantu bazo zonke ubudala:

1. "I-Coyote Bar Enhle" . Ngokombiko, intombazane evela edolobheni lesifundazwe ifika eNew York, lapho ithola khona eminye imigoqo yedolobha. Ukuze afinyelele impumelelo ayephuphayo, kuzodingeka anqobe ukuthobeka nokuzikhethela kuye.
2. "Ladies kusukela Calendar / Calendar Girls" . Isithombe sisekelwe ezenzakalweni zangempela futhi sikhuluma ngabesifazane abafisa ukugcwalisa umhlangano wezinhlangano zomhlalaphansi we-hospice. Ukuheha ukunakwa komphakathi, bebengakwazi kuphela ukwehla ezindaweni zabo eziyinkimbinkimbi bese beqala ikhalenda ngenxa yemali.
3. "Izingxenye zeqiniso / izingxenye zeqiniso" . Umdwebi omncane onolwazi olunamakhono weLily Black uphahla kahle, kodwa wesaba ukuveza nokuthengisa umsebenzi wabo. Ukuze anqobe ama-phobias akhe, akanakwenzeka ngenxa yokuphila kwakhe nabazali bakhe: unina wentombazane uyisidakwa, kanti ubaba akaphume ngenxa yokwesaba amagciwane.
4. "The Incredible Life of Walter Mitty / Life Life of Walter Mitty . " UWalter Mitty wayephila ukuphila okuthobekile njengomthengisi wesitolo esincane, ephupha ngokuthi impilo yakhe izoshintsha kanjani. Lapho ekholelwa ezithandweni zakhe, kwenzeka kanjani izinto ezimangalisayo kuye.