Amaphupho ayamnandi futhi ayamnandi, ahlekisa futhi ayesabekayo. Ngezinye izikhathi usukuma ulindele okuthile okumnandi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ucindezeleke ngokuphelele. Kukhona iphupho elinjalo elimangazayo ofuna ukubamba ibhuku lephupho futhi ubone ukuthi lisho ukuthini lo mbono.
Iphupho ngothando
Phakathi kwamaphupho ahlobene nothando kungenziwa kuthiwe futhi ulale ngeholide . Ngempela, ngizibuza ukuthi kunjani ukugebha echibini, ikakhulukazi uma kuyiphupho lomuntu ongajabuli ukubhukuda nhlobo.
Ukubheka zonke izincwadi zokuphupha, imibono enjalo ihambisana nezocansi kanye nezinzwa ezimnandi. Lokhu, ngokujwayelekile, kuyisimo esihle, njalo sibikezela okuthile okuhle.
Isibonelo, ukulala echibini lokubhukuda ngamanzi ahlanzekile kubhekwa njengempumelelo enkulu. Ukhomba umuntu ojwayelene nendoda efana nephupho, futhi bangaba nobuhlobo obuseduze kakhulu.
Ngokusho kukaFreud, ngentombazane, ukulala echibini lokubhukuda kusho ukukhulelwa, njengoba ehumusha amaphupho echibini, echibini kanye nezinye izidumbu zamanzi. Ngokusho komdali wezimfundiso zokungaqondi, basho isibeletho. Ukuwela echibini kusho ukukhulelwa okungazelelwe.
Ngokusho kwamanye amabhuku okuphupha, ukubhukuda echibini, uma kubonakala ephusheni, kusho ukuthi akusilo lonke uthando , kodwa luthando kuphela futhi olungenangqondo. Umphuphi uyaphuthuma kuwo, njengokungathi uyisiphephelo, kepha ukuphela kuyobe kunzima. Uthando olunjalo luzophela ngesikhathi sokuphumula.
Okunye ukuhumusha
Kukhona nokuhumusha okungahlobene nokuthandana nokuzwa imizwa. Isibonelo, abanye abahumushi bakholelwa ukuthi ukubhukuda kungasho ukuphakanyiswa kwebhizinisi, ekuboneni kokuqala kubonakala kunenzuzo futhi kujabulise. Kodwa-ke, kungase kube ukukhwabanisa, ngakho-ke kufanele sihlole ngokucophelela izinzuzo nezingozi. Futhi uma umphuphi egibela echibini ngaphandle kokujabula,
Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu enesithakazelo kulokho amaphupho okubhukuda echibini elihlanzekile, izimpendulo zihlale zihle, futhi ukubikezela kuyamnandi. Kuyinto enye indaba uma amanzi engcolile. Khona-ke lo mphupho uzoba nezinkinga ngokugcwaliseka kwemibono yakhe.
Ngokufanayo, iphupho lihunyushwa, lapho ugijima khona echibini nomuntu ephusheni. Uma amanzi ehlanzekile, ebala, kungukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle noma izindaba ezimnandi. Kodwa uma amanzi engcolile, khona-ke okuphambene kuyiqiniso: ubuhlobo ngeke bujabule, futhi izindaba ziyadabukisa. Kodwa ungaphelelwa ithemba, ngoba ukulala njalo akusho into embi.