Njengamanje, akubona bonke abantu abaya esontweni futhi bavuma. Lokhu kungavinjelwa umuzwa wokuhlazeka noma ngisho nokuhlazeka ngenxa yokuthi kunabantu abaningi lapho. Ebandleni lobu-Orthodox , ukuvuma kuyinkimbinkimbi kunabo bonke umuntu, yingakho kunemibuzo mayelana nokuthi ungavuma kanjani. Abaningi abajwayele ukuvuma kusukela besencane, yingakho bezama ukususa lo mzuzu. Iminyaka idlule futhi kunzima kakhulu ukunquma ngesinyathelo esinzima kangaka. Ukuze ususe "itshe" emphefumulweni kubalulekile ukukhuluma noNkulunkulu nokwazi ukuthi ungathola kanjani ukuhlanganyela nokuvuma ngokufanele.
Ukuvuma kungumkhuba obaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu, ngoba umuntu kufanele aphenduke ezonweni zakhe.
Iminyaka emingaki nokuthi kanjani ngokufanele ukuvuma okokuqala?
Ukuvuma okokuqala kuyadingeka kumuntu oneminyaka eyisikhombisa, kusukela ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi zonke izono zengane zithethelelwe. Iminyaka eyisikhombisa iyinkulungwane lapho ingane iqala ukubona lokho akwenzayo futhi inesibopho samagama nezenzo zakhe. Kule minyaka yobudala ingane iba umfana.
Ngaphambi kokuvuma kwengane, umpristi kufanele axwayiswe ukuthi uyavuma okokuqala empilweni yakhe. Lesi seluleko asisebenzi kuphela ezincane, kodwa nakubantu abadala. Kubantu abadala, ukuvuma kuyinto enzima kakhulu, yingakho kudingekile ukuthi ufunde mayelana nokuthi ungavuma kanjani esontweni.
Kungani kufanele sivume?
Ngaphambi kokuvuma kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuvuma nokwenza indima ekuphileni komuntu ngamunye:
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi wonke umuntu afunde ukukhuluma noNkulunkulu. Ukuvuma kungase kube khona phambi kwesithonjana, nasesontweni. Kodwa uhambo oluya esontweni lubizwa ngokuthi ukuvuma kweqiniso. Kulapha ukuthi uzokwazi ukukhuluma noNkulunkulu, uphenduke ezonweni zakho futhi umpristi uzoba umqondisi. Umpristi uzokwazi ukukhulula zonke izono zakho.
- Uma utshela umpristi wakho mayelana nezono zakho, ungakuvumela kanjani ukuhamba ngokuziqhenya kwakho. Ekuvumeni akukho lutho oluhlazozayo futhi olungakhululekile. Izono zakho ziyanyamalala empeleni uma uvula umphefumulo wakho, tshela konke ngaphandle kokucasha.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvuma ukuphenduka. Akudingeki ucabange ukuthi akulungile. Ngenxa yokuthi uyavuma amaphutha akho futhi uphenduka ngokujulile, kuyoba lula emphefumulweni wakho.
Ukulungiselela ukuvuma, noma ukuvuma ngokulungile?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungiselela kahle ukuvuma. Ngaphambi kwalokhu, kuyadingeka ukuba uxoxisane noNkulunkulu futhi ukhulume ngobuqotho nompristi. Nakhu okumele ukwenze ngalokhu:
- Ukuze uthole izono ezifanele, udinga ukugxila. Kumele kube ngaphambi kokuba uhlale ekhaya endaweni ekhululekile futhi ugxile emcabangweni wokuthi leli ibhizinisi elibheke kakhulu.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthandaza okuningi ngaphambi kokuvuma. Kubalulekile ukufunda imithandazo kaJohn Chrysostom.
- Kumele kubhalwe phansi ephepheni ukuze ubhale phansi izono zabo, ngakho-ke kuyoba lula ukuwakhumbula ngokuvuma.
Inqubo yokuvuma
AmaKristu amaningi anombuzo wokuthi ungavuma kanjani ukuthi kufanele uthini futhi kuvela ngisho nalabo abavuma njalo futhi hhayi okokuqala. Imithetho evamile yokuvuma:
- Lapho uvuma, owesifazane kufanele abuke kahle, kufanele abe nesiketi eside, ijaji elivaliwe, ne-carcarf kufanele iboshwe ekhanda lakhe.
- Okokuqala, kufanele uhlanganyele ekuvumeleni okuvamile. Kukhona wonke umuntu okhona, futhi umpristi ubiza zonke izono ezikhona.
- Ungasheshi futhi utshele izono zakho masinyane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphenduka ngobuqotho.
- Ukuvuma kufanele kulandelwe njalo, ngoba manje kukhona izilingo eziningi kangaka, futhi ukuvuma kuyayinikeza indlela yokulungisa futhi kubonise indlela efanele ekuphileni.