Mayelana nendlela yokuphulukisa ukuhlukumezeka, sicabanga ngesikhatsi thina noma izihlobo zethu sigula kakhulu ngenxa yengozi noma inkinga enkulu. Ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo kungavela ngenxa yokuthuthela edolobheni elisha, ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukushintsha imisebenzi, ukugula, izinkinga zezezimali, ukukhwabanisa, ukuhlubuka .
Ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo kuvimbela ukuphila okuqhubekayo, ukwakha ubudlelwane bomuntu ngokugcwele, ukuphishekela ukukhula komuntu siqu, ukwakha izinhlelo nokuzisebenzisa. Ngisho noma engabonakali evulekile, angakwazi ukufaka izinga lokuphila nokukhetha umuntu.
Ungasinda kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa?
Ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo kudingeke kusetshenziswe ukuze ayeke ukulawula okwamanje futhi aphelile. Kulungile, uma ungakwenza kanye nesazi sengqondo noma isazi sengqondo. Kodwa uma kungenjalo kungenzeka, ungasebenzisa lezi zincomo:
- Ukwamukela ukulimala . Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi isimo esithile sizwise ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo, futhi hhayi ukuzitshela ukuthi akukho lutho olubi olwenzekile.
- Siphelelwa ngokomzwelo kulesi sigameko . Ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo kungafaniswa nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngemva kwalokho umuntu ovame ukuphendula ngokomzwelo: ukukhala, ukukhala, ukufunga. Ngakho kubalulekile ukukwenza kanye nokuhlukumezeka kwengqondo: kufanele kube nesimo sengqondo. Nikeza imizwa yakho, uzisole, ushise.
- Yabelana nosizi lwakho . Ubuhlungu obutshelwe komunye buba buncane futhi bube lula. Uyeka ukuhlala eshaweni, ngoba uya ngaphandle.
- Bona ubuhlungu bomunye umuntu . Ezikhathini ezibuhlungu zokuphila kunconywa ukuthi uthole umuntu obi nakakhulu futhi amsize.
- Akukho okusha . Ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi amakhulu ezinkulungwane zabantu abhekene nalolu hlobo lobuhlungu futhi bakwazi ukubhekana nalo.
Ukuphulukiswa kwemizwa yomphefumulo akukwenzeka ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Ngezinye izikhathi kuthatha cishe unyaka ukuze ubuhlungu bufinyeleleke futhi buyeke ukuhlukumeza ingqondo. Isifiso sokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo yisinyathelo sokuqala sokususa.