Indlela yokunciphisa ubaba?

Lapho indoda nowesifazane bebazali abajabulayo, bambalwa abantu bacabanga ukuthi impilo yabo yomndeni, egcwaliswe ngomuntu omusha, iyojabula. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ayifeze imisebenzi yakhe kumntanakhe futhi umama uqala ukuzibuza ukuthi anganciphisa kanjani uyise kayise wengane.

Ngokuvamile, owesifazane uhambisa imibhalo emva kokuhlukanisa ukuze asuse lo muntu empilweni, ikakhulukazi uma ehamba ekufezeni izibopho zakhe zomzali. Ngaphambi kokulahla ububaba bomyeni wangaphambili, kubalulekile ukuqoqa zonke izinhlobo zobufakazi obhaliwe mayelana nokuhluleka kwakhe ukuhlala uyise wengane.

Indlela yokunciphisa ubaba emva kwesahlukaniso?

Esikhundleni seSoviet post kwamazwe e-CIS, inqubo efanayo yokunqotshwa kwamalungelo kayise yamukelwa. Nazi izizathu ezicatshangelwa yinkantolo:

1. Ukwelashwa okubi / okunonya kwengane. Lokhu akubandakanyi ubudlova kuphela emzimbeni, kodwa futhi ukuziphatha noma ukucabangela ingxenye kayise lapho ekwazi ngobudlova ukusuka komunye umuntu, kodwa akazange athathe isinyathelo.
2. Ukugwema okuhleliwe ekukhulisweni kwengane, kungenakwenzeka empilweni yakhe.
3. Ukudakwa ngokweqile nokudakwa kwezidakamizwa.
4. Ukusebenza (ngokomzimba, ngokobulili) ngokuphathelene nomntwana wakhe.
5. Shiya ngaphandle kokulindelwe isikhathi eside, okwaholela emiphumeleni emibi.

Okokuqala, owesifazane kufanele afake isicelo kummeli oyokutshela ukuthi yimaphi amadokhumenti okumele akuqoqe, futhi usize ubhale isitatimende sesimangalo. Kubalulekile futhi ukucela ukusekelwa kwezenhlalakahle, okubeka ngokusemthethweni iqiniso lokuhlukunyezwa komzali emisebenzini yakhe.

Ngaphambi kokuba ulahlekelwe ngumzali, uma kungekho ukukhokhwa okuvela kuye, kufanele ufake isikhalazo ehhovisi le-umshushisi ukuze uphinde uthole isikweletu kumntwana wengane. Uma ibhizinisi lingasuki esikhungweni sokufa phakathi nezinyanga eziyisithupha, ngokuvamile inkantolo yenza isinqumo esihle futhi kukhona ukunqotshwa kwamalungelo omzali, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyoba khona enkantolo noma cha.

Akuwona wonke umuntu owaziyo ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuphuca ububaba bomyeni womuntu nokuthi ungayenza kanjani. Inqubo ifana neyomshado osemthethweni. Umama kumele akhombise ukuthi ubaba wezinto eziphilayo, ezilotshwe kwisitifiketi sokuzalwa, akasithathi ngokuhlanganyela ngokomzimba nasekuphatheni ingane yakhe.