Izinhlobo zothando lomzali
"Akuthandi ngenxa yesizathu esithile
Ngoba ungumzukulu.
Ngoba uyindodana ... "
Le nkondlo ayiyona into nje yenkcazelo yothando lwangempela olungenamthetho (olungenamthetho) lomzali. Ngokuvamile le mzwa iyingqayizivele kunomama, bathanda izingane zabo ngobuqotho nangothando. Kule ndaba, ubuntu bomuntu obonakalayo abubonakali ngokuziphatha kwakhe, okungukuthi, umama uthanda ingane njalo, kanti ezinye zezenzo zakhe zingase zingavunyelwe ngokusobala. Lolu hlobo lwemizwelo aluveli ngokuzalwa komntwana, kodwa luyakhelwe ekukhuliseni nasekusebenzisaneni kwakhe. Uthando olungenalutho oluhle lungcono kumntwana, ngoba lunikeza umuzwa wokulondeka, ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwakhe, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ubeka ikhono lokuhlola ngokulinganayo izenzo zakhe namathuba.
Kwenzeka futhi ukuthi uthando olungathandabuzwayo "lukhula" lube ngumuntu ongenabugovu, olubonakaliswa ukunakekelwa ngokweqile kanye nesifiso sokuvikela ingane kunoma yibuphi ubunzima nobunzima. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwenzeka lapho ingane ijwayele uhlobo oluthile lwesifo. Ngokwengqondo, lesi simo sengqondo enganeni asibhekwa njengesijwayelekile, ngoba sethula ukungezwani phakathi kobubele nomntwana futhi kuvimbela ukwakheka komuntu ovuthiwe, ozimele nokuzethemba kwakhe. Ngaphezu kokugcinwa ngokweqile, kunezinye izinhlobo ezingavamile zezimo zengqondo ezinganeni:
- Umgomo. Ukuziphatha kwengane ngokuqondile kuxhomeke ekuziphatheni nasezenzo zakhe.
- Ambivalent. Imizwa yomzali kuleso simo iyamangalisa - uyamthanda futhi uyayiphika ngesikhathi esifanayo.
Okungafani noma okungenamkhawulo. Ngokuvame ukutholakala emindenini lapho abazali basesemncane kakhulu futhi bengakapheli, bayiphatha ingane ngokunganaki nangenandaba. - Ukulahlwa okungokomzwelo kwamuva. Amacucu abangela ukucasuka kubazali, ngakho bazama ukungayinaki.
- Vula ukulahlwa. Ukuhluka okuvame ukuholela ekusungulweni kobuntu obungavamile kwengane, ngoba abazali abanamahloni ekuboniseni isimo sabo sengqondo esibi ngomntwana.