Yonke imindeni isistimu yezenhlalakahle, ehlala njalo ekusebenzisaneni nezwe elizungezile. Umndeni uzoqhubeka nokusebenza uma uhambelana nemithetho eyisisekelo, engaxhunyiwe ngokungaxhunyiwe: umthetho ohlose ukulondoloza ukuzinza komndeni kanye nomthetho wokuthuthukiswa kwawo. Ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukuphawula ukuthi umjikelezo wokuphila komndeni uhambisana nokuguquka ngezikhathi ezithile nokuqhubekayo ezinyathelweni zalo.
Njengoba wazi, umqondo womndeni osanda kudalwa kanye nabashadile abaye bahlala ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, uhlukile ngendlela efanayo nomjikelezo wokuphila komndeni.
Imicimbi ehlose kanye nezinguquko-yobudala ezingokwenyama kubalingani emndenini kunganquma ukuthuthukiswa kwezigaba zokuphila zomndeni ngamunye.
Izinyathelo zomjikelezo wokuphila komndeni
Ngokwengqondo eminyakeni engama-40, i-20 cent. umbono wavela ngezigaba zomjikelezo wokuphila komndeni. Ekuqaleni, kwakungaba ngu-24. Okwamanje, ngesimo sehlukaniswe ngezigaba ezilandelayo:
- Isiteji sokuthandana.
- Ukuphila ngaphandle kwezingane.
- Isiteji sesithathu (ukubukeka kwezingane).
- Umshado ovuthiwe.
- Isigaba lapho izingane ziphuma khona endlini.
- "I-Nest engenalutho".
- Isigaba sokugcina lapho omunye womshado ohlala khona yedwa emva kokufa komlingani.
Isigaba ngasinye ngaphambi kokuba abashade babeke imisebenzi ethile. Ngakho-ke, umndeni ophumelela ngempumelelo izinkinga ezikhulayo, usethe imisebenzi yangaphakathi nangaphandle, kuthiwa isebenzayo. Uma kungenjalo - kungasebenzi. Isinqumo esifanele somndeni ongasebenziyo kuyoba ukufuna usizo ku-psychologist. Umjikelezo wokuphila komndeni uqala ushintsho olubucayi kusukela kwesinye isigaba kuya kwesinye futhi hhayi njalo abalingani bakwazi ukubona ithuba lokuvumelanisa nesimo esisha empilweni yomndeni.
Izigaba eziyinhloko zomjikelezo wokuphila komndeni
Izigaba zomjikelezo wokuphila komndeni zinenkinga yabo nezinkinga zabo, sizozicubungula ngokuningiliziwe.
- Esikhathini sokuthandana ngaphambi komshado, umgomo oyinhloko yisifiso sokufeza ukuzimela kwezinto ezibonakalayo nezingokwengqondo kusuka ekuchazeni komndeni komzali ngokukhetha komyeni wesikhathi esizayo, ibhizinisi kanye nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo naye.
- Kukhona imibhangqwana emisha engasheshe ikwazi ukunqoba le nkathi. Isizathu salokhu - ukwesaba kufihlwe ngaphakathi komndeni wabo (umzali). Futhi abanye ngokuphambene nokuzama ukudala umndeni wabo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ngaleyo ndlela bazikhulula ebuhlotsheni obuseduze babazali nezingane. Abanye abakwazi ukushada ngenxa yokuhlukaniswa kwezezimali nezomnotho.
- Esikhathini lapho umbhangqwana oshadile uhlala engenabantwana, izinguquko zenziwa, ezihlobene nesimo sabo senhlalakahle. Imingcele yemindeni yangaphakathi nangaphandle ichazwa, noma ngabe ukuphazanyiswa emkhayeni womndeni wezihlobo kuvunyelwe. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abalingani bachitha isikhathi esiningi baqala izingxoxo omunye nomunye ezindabeni ezihlukahlukene. Akukhipha eceleni ukuvela kwemizwelo, ngokocansi nezinye izinkinga.
- Ngesikhathi kubonakala izingane ezincane emndenini, abashadile bahlukaniswe yizindima. Lokhu kubangelwa ukuzalwa komama kanye nomama, ukuvumelanisa nokucindezeleka kwengqondo, umthwalo okwanele wokuba wedwa. Uma kwenzeka ingane ifunekile ivela, kunezinkinga ezihlotshaniswa nobunzima bezemfundo nokuqonda kwabashadile, ukuthi ukwehlukana kuyoba nzima ngenxa yokuvela kwengane.
- Inkinga yempilo yomndeni iwela ngesikhathi abantwana beshiya "isidleke" sabazali. Emikhayeni ephelele ngalesi sikhathi
kunenani elikhulu lehlukaniso. Lesi sigaba sibonakala ngezinga eliphezulu lokukhathazeka. Abashadile kudingeka banqume ngezinjongo ezintsha, izinto eziza kuqala, njll. - Esigabeni sokugcina somjikelezo wokuphila, ukuhlelwa kabusha kwesakhiwo somsebenzi emndenini kwenzeka ngokuya kwesinqumo sokugcina impilo, ukudala izinga lokuphila eliwanelisayo ngenhlalakahle yabo bobabili bomshado.
Ngakho-ke, umndeni udlula umjikelezo othile wokuphila phakathi nokuthuthukiswa kwawo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kule nkathi ukunqoba ubunzima, ukugijima umlenze ngesinyathelo nomlingani wakho.