Ephusheni, umuntu uchitha isikhathi esiningi ezwa imizwelo nemizwa efana neqiniso. Izazi zengqondo zithi amaphupho ahlobene phakathi kokuqonda kanye nokungaqondi, futhi ngokuhunyushwa okulungile omunye angafunda izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo. Abesifazane bavame ukuthemba abahumushi bephupho, ngoba banomzwelo. Iphupho lapho umuntu othandekayo ekhona ezandleni zomunye wesifazane kungaholela ekuqhumeni futhi kubangele ukwesaba. Ungethuki kusengaphambili, udinga ukuzidonsa ndawonye futhi ufunde ngokuzenzekile okwenzekile. Okungasho nakanjani ukuthi ngemuva kwephupho elinjalo kuyadingeka ukuba uhlolisise ubuhlobo obuseduze nomuntu wakho othandekayo.
Kungani bephupha ngokukhaphela umyeni wakhe?
Iphupho lokuhlubuka lingamane libonise imizwelo yakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho empeleni, mhlawumbe usuvele usolwa ngokuthi umyeni "uhamba" ngakwesobunxele "noma umhawu owedlulele ukwenze kuwe nakwephupho. Ngokuvamile, ukuhlukunyezwa kuwuphawu lokuhlambalaza nokungqubuzana, hhayi kuphela nomlingani, kodwa nezihlobo, ozakwabo nabangani. Zama ngalesi sikhathi ukuzola futhi uxazulule ngokucophelela zonke izinkinga ngaphandle kokuholela ezihlakalweni ezinzima.
Ngisho nobusuku obunjalo obusuku bangakutshela ukuthi empilweni yangempela kukhona izinguquko, eziqaliswe ngumyeni wakho. Cishe, awufuni ukwamukela futhi uphambene nentando yakho. Enye incazelo yokuthi kungani ephupha ukuthi umyeni wakhe ukukopela uzokutshela ukuthi okwamanje usuqale ukusebenzisa lolu hlelo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uzikhumbuza, futhi ungacabangi imininingwane ebalulekile, futhi lokhu kungathinta umphumela.
Enye yezincwadi zokuphupha kunolwazi lokuthi iphupho lokuhlukumezeka liwuphawu lokuthi maduzane uzobekwa icala lokuphula umthetho, kodwa le ndaba ngeke ibe yinto ebalulekile, kodwa ukuhlala okungajabulisi kusasele. Uma ubona ukuthi indoda ikhohlisa nomngane ibonisa ukubhujiswa kwezinethemba zakho. Umxhumanisi wephupho uyeluleka ukushintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo kumlingani wakhe kancane, abe nomusa futhi athethelele amaphutha akhe amancane, lokhu kuzomsiza ukuba abhekane nezinkinga futhi ajabule. Uma kuwe, amaphupho, ukuthi umyeni uguquka njalo, mhlawumbe, uyazi ukuthi ungathanda ukuthola noma ukuqala isimo sengqondo noma ubudlelwano phakathi kweqembu noma ohlangothini futhi ucabange njalo ngalokhu noma lokhu.
Ungathola futhi ulwazi lokuthi iphupho lokuhlubuka libangelwa isimo sakho sokukhathazeka, esicasulwa ngomuzwa wecala ngenxa yesenzo. Lokhu kungase kungasebenzi ekungathembeki nhlobo, kodwa umyeni angasabela ngokungafanele kulokho okwenzekile. Iphupho lokuhlubuka lingase libe nencazelo ehlukile, mhlawumbe esikhathini esizayo esiseduze phakathi kwakho nomngane wakho womshado ubuhlobo buyofudumala futhi buqotho nakakhulu.
Uma uvuka ekuseni, ungabuyisa lokho okubonayo, kumininingwane encane kakhulu - kuyisixwayiso sokuthi empilweni yangempela kufanele uqaphele abantu abaseduze, ngoba bangakuhlazisa. Ngesikhathi umyeni wami efuna ukushintsha, kodwa ngesinye isikhathi washintsha ingqondo yakhe, isibonakaliso sokuthi zonke izinkinga zizodlula.
Kungani kufanele uphuphe indodakazi yomyeni wakhe?
Uma umthandi womthandayo engumngani osondelene naye, incwadi yephupho ikhuthaza ukuthi unakekele umyeni wakhe, kodwa kuye.
Kungani ukhumbula ngalokho umyeni wakhe amshiyile?
Uma ephusheni umlingani wakho wavuma ukuthi ushintshile wena futhi uzoshiya - lokhu okungaqondakali kukunika inkomba ukuthi inhlekelele ifike ebuhlotsheni futhi iphupho lingagcwaliseka. Ungakhathazeki, usenalo ithuba lokulungisa konke nokubeka ubuhlobo, konke kusezandleni zakho.