Izinto zangempela zezwe lanamuhla zivame ukushintsha abantu hhayi ngcono. Lokhu kubonakala ngokukhethekile ekukhuleni , lapho intombazanyana encane enhle yelanga, i-tit, ngokuzumayo iba yintombazane ehlambalaza e-skirt, kanti umfana ozolile ezibubukweni uyisihlubuki nomhlukumezi. Intsha enzima iyinhlangano evamile kunehlukile. Ungasiza kanjani intsha enzima isinde enkingeni ? Ukubekezela, ukuhlakanipha, ukuhlakanipha neseluleko sethu - konke lokhu kungaletha ukuthula ebuhlotsheni bakho nezingane ezisencane.
Sonke sasiyizingane ezisencane, futhi mhlawumbe, nabazali bethu nabo kwakungenandaba nathi. Izinkinga zezingane ezinzima zijwayele cishe bonke abazali. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ingane yakho iyaphila ngalesi sikhathi, udinga ukuxhumana naye oseduze kwengqondo naye. Izingane zakho manje azidingi ukuphawula kanye nezeluleko kuphela, kodwa nokuqonda kwakho, ukuxhumana nawe. Konke lokhu kuzosiza ukusetha ithoni yezinqumo zokulondoloza ukuphila.
Intombazane enzima - yini okufanele uyenze?
Ungasiza kanjani intsha enzima? Ngezansi sinikeze iseluleko sabangqondo bezengqondo abacelwa ukuba basize abazali ukuba basebenzise ukuxhumana nabantwana abakhulayo, ukwenza abangane nabo futhi:
- Ukuxhumana - ukuxhumana nsuku zonke, kuphela lokhu kungagcina ibhuloho elibuthakathaka lokuqonda kwakho okubili! Ukuthembela kusekelwe ekusebenzeni, futhi kungakhiwa kuphela ebuhlotsheni obuningi. Zama ukuchitha isikhathi sokuxhumana ngaphandle kwezeluleko nokuphawula, thola umbono womntwana, ukuthanda kwakhe, ukuthanda kwakhe. Funda ukubeka endaweni yendodana noma indodakazi, ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda kangcono izisusa zakhe, ukuziphatha esimweni esithile. Lesi sici kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba intsha izwa ukhululekile kakhulu kubazali ababandakanyeka empilweni yabo. Uma kungenjalo, uma kungekho othintana naye, iseluleko bazoya kumbuzo ongabazekayo (ngezinye izikhathi). Khumbula, ukuba umzali omuhle, udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungumngane omuhle nje.
- Ibhizinisi elivamile kanye nezithakazelo. Ngisho noma uhlukile kakhulu, uma izintshisekelo zakho nezithakazelo zakho ziyi-polar (uthanda ama-classics, indodana - idwala, ufunda izincwadi, ingane ihlezi ngemuva kwekhompyutha ephathekayo), zama ukuthola okungenani into ongayithanda kokubili. Masibe bethenga, ukupheka amaqebelengwane, ngebhayisikili. Ngisho noma ungumuntu omatasa kakhulu, thatha isikhathi sokwenza okuthile ndawonye. Kuzokubuyisela ezikhathini ezijabulisayo lapho ingane isengane, ifunde kuwe, ithembekile futhi ilalele. Mhlawumbe kukhona into eyenziwa indodana yakho ukuthi ingcono kanjani kunakho. Kulokhu, ungacela indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho ikufundise.
- Ubukhulu, futhi, ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza. I-psychology yengane enzima ukuthi uyomelana nanoma imiphi imingcele nemithetho. Kodwa-ke, imingcele ethile iyadingeka ngisho nangomntwana osemusha ozimele. Yenza kucace ukuthi uzokwenzela ukuthanda okuningi, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo umthwalo omkhulu uzowela emahlombe akhe. Kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi usize ingane, imfundise indlela yokuhlela, isebenze yedwa. Ezimweni ezinzima, uxoxisane, wenze ukuvuma - ukuyekethisa njalo kusize.
- Indlela yokubhekana nengane encane? Ukubekezela kanye nokubekezela! Ukuba nesineke kuhlale kunzima, kodwa kuyadingeka. Uma ingane yakho ingumntwana ongalawuleki, awukwazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, mhlawumbe kufanele ufune usizo kunokwazi kwengqondo, futhi uhlaziye lesi simo naye.
- Yenza kuphela ndawonye! Abazali abaningi abavumelani ngezinqumo ezimweni ezithile mayelana nezinkinga zokuphila kwentsha. Ungatshele ingane ngalokhu, kufanele ucabange ukuthi usebenza ndawonye, yiqembu. Akufanele kube nomuzwa wokuthi ungakwazi "ukugijima" ngaphansi kwephiko lomunye wabazali.
Yithanda ingane yakho, naphezu kwazo zonke izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi kanye nezinguquko ekuziphatheni, imvelo. Bonisa ukuhlakanipha nokubekezela, ngoba manje udinga usizo lwakho, njengalapha ngaphambili.