Kukholelwa ukuthi abesifazane banesibopho sokugcina umshado wabo wonke amandla abo, kodwa akunakwenzeka njalo ukwenza lokhu. Ngokuvamile konke kuphelela ngemva kokuhlukanisa , kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokuhlukanisa okusemthethweni akusizi, bese umbuzo uvela mayelana nendlela yokushayela umyeni wangaphambili ngaphandle kwendlu. Ngokushesha kufanelekile ukuthi lolu daba luzosebenza kuphela uma ekugcineni unquma "ukushisa wonke amabhuloho" futhi ungacabangi ngekusasa elihlangene.
Ungamshayela kanjani umyeni wangaphambili endlini?
Ngokwemvelo, ukuthatha isinyathelo esinqunyiwe kungenzeka kuphela uma izinkolelo eziningi zingezange zilethe umphumela, kanti umuntu ongamazi manje uqhubeka enobuthi bakho ngokuphila kwakhe.
- Okokuqala, udinga ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga zomthetho, ngoba ukushayela umuntu ngaphandle kwendlu lapho unelungelo lokungabi namthetho elingenalutho. Ngokuzimela ngokwezinkinga zemithetho yethu kungaba nzima ukuyiqonda, ngakho-ke unganqikazi ukufaka isicelo sezincomo kumchwepheshe uma kukhona ukungabaza ngokufaneleka kokuhlala nomuntu oshade naye endlini yakho. Futhi, akunandaba, ucabanga ukuthi ungaxoshwa kanjani umyeni ovumelekile noma ovela ekhaya, izinhloso zakho kunoma yikuphi okufanele kube ngokomthetho.
- Ngemuva kokuba usuqinisekise ukuthi ilungelo lokusebenzisa isikhala esiphila kulo myeni wangaphambili akekho, ungakwazi ukuqoqa izinto zakhe ngokuphepha futhi ushintshe ukukhiya endlini. Uma uzama ukungena endlini ngokubamba, shayela amaphoyisa, izenzo zakho zilungile nakanjani. Futhi ubhale phansi zonke izinsongo kumrekhoda.
- Uma ungafuni izinyathelo eziningi zokuzikhandla, ungazama ukusinda umyeni wangaphambili. Ungenzi ibhizinisi elifanayo naye, uhlukanise ngisho namashalofu esiqandisini. Letha ekhaya indoda entsha noma uqale ukuhlangana njalo nabangani abajabule ukugeza ama-ossicles akho ku-ex yakho, ungangabazi ukuthi ukhona. Ungayenza kakhudlwana - hit the lock on the door yokugezela, okwenza izihluthulelo ngokwakho.
Ngamxosha indoda yami endlini, indlela yokuphila?
Ngokuvamile inkinga ayikho ukuhluleka ukuqeda oshade naye wangaphambili, kodwa ukuntuleka komqondo wokuphila kwakhe esikhathini esizayo. Ukuhlukanisa kuba ukucindezeleka okukhulu kwabaningi, okuphela ngokucindezeleka isikhathi eside. Ngakho ngisinde kanjani igebe nokuthi ngizokwenzenjani uma ngixosha umyeni wami ngaphandle kwendlu, kodwa ubunzima emphefumulweni wami?
Okokuqala udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ngeke kube khona ukubuyela emuva, futhi manje unokuphila okuhlukile. Zama ukuxhumana nomuntu owakwakho kuqala ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi ungafuni induduzo ngomunye umuntu, izinguquko ezinzima kangaka zizokwenza ngcono isimo sakho. Ungabuyiseli injabulo nomzamo wokuziphindiselela, bheka ezinye izindlela zokuphuma ngentukuthelo nokufutheka. Futhi, ungazitshele ukuthi kwenzekani nje kuphela, umyeni naye uhlanganyele ekuphumeni kwakho, ngakho-ke uyeke ukucabanga ukuthi nguwe ongazange uzame. Zama ukuthi ungahlali nezikhalo zakho kuphela - uxhumane nabangane nezihlobo, futhi uma ungakwazi ukuphatha ukucindezeleka ngokwakho, xhumana nochwepheshe.