Ngokuqinisekile, uqaphele ukuthi lo mcimbi, ovame ukucabanga ngakho ngokuhle, ekugcineni kwenzeka. Ngokusobala imicabango ingokoqobo, ngakho kufanele uqaphele kakhulu nabo.
Ubuchopho bomuntu buhlelwe ngokumangalisayo - ngeke kube nemicabango ejabulisayo yokukhumbula! Lapho-ke, sithuthuka kakhulu emithambekeni enhle ekhanda lami. Hhayi, kuthiwani uma imicabango emibi ihamba ekhanda, ukuthi ungayilahla kanjani? Eqinisweni, kunezindlela eziningana zokuphazamiseka emicabangweni emibi, kodwa ngabe uzophatha yedwa noma ngabe kuzomele uzame konke kuxhomeke kuwe.
Indlela yokubhekana nemicabango emibi?
Inketho eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ukuzitshela ukuthi "lokhu ngeke kwenzeke kimi" futhi uyeke ukucabanga ngokubi. Kodwa le ndlela ayifanele wonke umuntu, ngoba akuwona wonke umuntu onamandla okwanele okulahla imicabango embi ngesifo esisodwa.
2. Uma imicabango emibi ekhanda lakho ekhanda liqinile, ungazama ukuyixosha ngokusebenzisa le nqubo elandelayo:
- Hlala phansi endaweni ekhululekile, ungahambi izingalo nemilenze yakho. Vala amehlo akho, phumula futhi uthathe ukuphefumula okujulile nokuphefumula;
- umele lokho ongaphumuli njengesikhumba somnyama esifubeni sakho;
- cabanga ngokujulile, ucabange ukuthi le nsima emnyama ibalekela kanjani kuwe kanye nomoya. Hlanganisa imicabango yakho embi, uzizungeze ngokukhanya okumhlophe bese uzibamba kule nkomo ukuze ziphele ngokuphelele.
3. Indlela yokubukeka ngokujwayelekile iyasebenza kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma udinga ukuqeda imicabango emibi. Kunconywa izazi ze-psychologists, izakhi zokuphila eziphilayo kanye nezengqondo. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo kuphela batusa ukwenza ukubukeka kwakho kube kuhle, ngoba ukuhleka kuwumuthi omuhle wazo zonke izinhlobo zokwesaba. Isibonelo, zama ukuzicabangela ngesimo sebhola elikhulu elivuthayo, futhi imicabango emibi idlula eduze nawe ngamachashazi amnyama amnyama. Kuzojabulisa nakakhulu, kuzoba ngcono. Ukuhleka ukwesaba kwakho, uzobasusa.
4. Ungabuye uzame ukubhala noma ukudweba ephepheni, into engakunikeli ukuthula. Emva kokuvala amehlo akho, sidlala yonke into, vula amehlo akho, udlale futhi, njengokungathi ubeka zonke izinkinga ephepheni. Cabanga ukuthi ukuqonda kwakho akuphelelanga ngalezi zinsuku, konke kudluliselwa ephepheni. Futhi manje leli qabunga lidinga ukushiswa noma lokuqothulwa, lithi - Ngizobhubhisa zonke izinto ezimbi, ngizibhubhise, ngishise.
Ungakugwema kanjani imicabango emibi?
Ungasusa kanjani izimpikiswano ezimbi? Yebo, ukuze nje uphazamiseke kubo uma kungekho isikhathi sokucabanga, imicabango emibi iyoyeka ukunamathela ekhanda lakho. Ngakho-ke sizoba yini ukuphazamisa thina?
- Yenza okuthile okuthakazelisayo, okudinga ukunakwa okukhudlwana nokugxila. Uke waphawula ukuthi uma usuhambile ngokuphelele ebhizinisini, ucabanga ukuthi imicabango engavamile ingena ekhanda lakho? Ngakho kuyoba lapha, into esemqoka ukuthola isifundo esithakazelisayo.
- Hit the negative nge positive! Okuhle njalo kunqoba ububi, ngakho-ke kuyoba njalo kithi. Udinga ukukhumbula ukuthi uvamise ukuhleka usulu, ukuletha isimo sengqondo esihle - incwadi eyintandokazi, ifilimu, amaminithi amancane.
Kukhunjulwa? Kanjalo, phambili, ukhokhiswe ngemicabango emihle, emibi yenombolo enjalo ngokuqinisekile iyokwesaba futhi ushiye ikhanda lakho. - Funda ukucabanga ngendlela enhle. Ukunqoba noma yimuphi umcabango omubi ngokuhle. Isibonelo, "ngaqala ukuvula, kepha angizange ngithathe isambulela, ngizogwinya futhi ngizobamba umkhuhlane". Shintsha ukuze "uqale ukuvula, anginaso isambulela, kepha ekupheleni kosuku imvula izophela, kuyoba kuhle ukuya ekhaya ebusuku, ukuphefumula umoya omnandi onomoya omuhle." Zama ukudlulisela yonke imicabango yakho embi ngale ndlela, ngokuvamile uzibuze wena "izinto ezinhle kuphela ezizokwenzeka kimi" nethi "konke okwenzeka kimi, kube ngcono."