Umbuthano awuqali noma uqede, ngakho-ke ukhonza njengesiginiso sokuhlala njalo futhi ukhethwa ukukhumbula ukuthembeka emshadweni. Ngayiphi umunwe isandatho somshado womfelokazi sigqoke, imibono yendabuko ihlukile ngokwembono.
Ngokufa komyeni wakhe, owesifazane anganquma ukuthi ukugqoka indandatho ayinangqondo, ngoba into engokomfanekiso ikhuluma ngesimo somshado, futhi ubuhlobo phakathi kwalabo abashadile bujulile. Kodwa uma "ulimi lwamasongo", okukhona kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo, kubalulekile kowesifazane, isiko sinquma indlela yokugqoka indandatho yomshado kumfelokazi, yize izinkomba zihluka.
Iziphi izindandatho ezithweswa abafelokazi?
Umkhosi awuhlinzeki ngemigomo eqinile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthwala indandatho nokuthi kungakanani. Owesifazane kuphela owazi ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nosizi . Ingabe wayefuna ukuba nomkhumbuzo oqhubekayo wenjabulo elahlekile? Uma inkumbulo yowesifazane inika umfelokazi amandla okuphila, khona-ke kunezindlela eziningana zokugqoka amasongo:
- Zombili izindandatho zisezintweni.
- Ngakwesokudla kunomuntu siqu, nomlingani kulolu chungechunge.
- Bobabili ngomunwe owodwa wesokunxele.
- Iso ngakwesokunene, nomyeni ngakwesobunxele.
Uma izandla zithathwa ukugqoka izindandatho, izindandatho zivame ukugqoka ngomunwe, kanti ngezinye izikhathi zibizwa ngokuthi umunwe. Izinkolelo zasendulo zithi kule ndawo kulele umvuthwandaba oholela enhliziyweni.
Futhi, ukukhetha indlela yokugqoka kuzosithinta ubukhulu bendandatho, ngoba owesilisa uthanda kakhulu futhi udinga ukucindezeleka. Indandatho eguqulwe ngokuqinile ayikwazi ukubonwa njengento yangempela. Lesi simo asinandaba uma sigqoke uketshezi.
Ngaphambili, izindandatho zazivame ukukhethwa ngobuso obushelelezi, futhi zingacindezelwa kalula, kodwa izinhlobonhlobo zanamuhla zingaba nezakhiwo ezahlukene. Izindandatho zemishado zomfelokazi, ezinomdwebo oqoshiwe, oboshwe noma ovulekile, kunzima ukulungisa. Ukuze ungaguquki kakhulu indandatho, ukhetho lukhethwa ku-ribbon noma ngochungechunge.