Kubonakala sengathi esikhathini sethu, izinkinga zocansi ngokobulili, imibhangqwana engqingili, kanye nabantu abazibona bayizixuku zonke zizwakala futhi zifundiswa ososayensi kanye naphesheya. Kodwa kusekhona ukubonakaliswa okukodwa okungenakulinganiswa kwesifiso sobulili, noma kunalokho, ukungabi khona kwe "ubuhlanga". Ngaphambi kokuqhubeka nokucubungulwa kombuzo wokucwaswa kwabantu, kuyadingeka ukwembulula okubalulekile kwalomqondo. Ubungqingili ukungabikho kocansi kwabanye abantu abadala. Ososayensi abavela e-United States bebelokhu befunda lo mcimbi kusukela ngawo-1950. Namuhla kuyaziwa ukuthi ama-asexuals awunawo amaphutha ekuthuthukiseni kwabo ngokomzimba, bamane abanesithakazelo kocansi.
Ukuhlolwa kwe-Asexualality
Uma unesibindi mayelana nezintandokazi zocansi noma zomlingani wakho, uzonikezwa ngokuhlolwa okuncane kwemibandela engu-8 elula, uphendule ukuthi uzokwazi ukuthola ukuthi ngabe kufanele uzibophe wena noma othandekayo wakho ngokocansi. Imibuzo elandelayo kufanele iphendulwe ngokuthi "yebo" noma "cha", "akekho".
- Ingabe ucansi ngawe uhlobo oluthile lomqondo "ongcolisayo" noma owenziwe ngamathambo?
- Ingabe udinga, ngezikhathi ezithile, ukwaneliseka ngocansi kwezidingo zakho?
- Ucabanga ukuthi ubudlelwane obugcwele phakathi kobambiswano kungenzeka kuphela uma kukhona ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo?
- Uke wazibonela, lapho bekungekho isifiso sokwenza umlingani wakho, ukuhlangana nayo ndawonye?
- Ingabe ukungabikho okuphelele kokuphila okusondelene nakho kukudidliza wena?
- Ubuhlobo bobulili, lokhu kuyisici esibalulekile futhi esibaluleke kakhulu ebuhlotsheni "obufanele" phakathi kozakwethu?
- Ingabe uvame ukubhekana nesifiso esinamandla kumuntu onesihawu kuwe?
- Ingabe kukhona okungahambi kahle emigameni engokomzimba nengokwengqondo yokuntuleka kocansi isikhathi eside?
Uma kuzo zonke imibuzo 2 kuya kwezingu-8, impendulo yakho yayingu "cha" noma "akekho", khona-ke kufanele ucabange ukuthi yini ebangela lesi simo. Impendulo yombuzo wenombolo 1 ingabonisa ukuthi ukukhuliswa kwakho ngokuphila kobulili kwakuthonywe kanjani ngokukhuliselwa. Uma impendulo yakho kuyoba ngu "yebo" cishe cishe ukucwaswa okungenzeka kungenzeka kuhlotshaniswa nesithiyo sengqondo ekusebenzeni ngokobulili okwakusuka ngenxa ye "Soviet development".
Ubungqingili - izimbangela kanye nokwelapha
Njengoba sekuvele kwaziwa, ama-asexuals abantu abangafuni nje ngamabomu ukuthi bahlanganyele ocansini, kodwa futhi abatholi ukukhangwa ngokocansi. Abakwa-Sexologists benqaba ukubhekisela kokucwaswa kwe-asexualality, naphezu kokuthi ukubonakala kwalo kungabangelwa ukuhlukumeza kwangempela kwengqondo. Intombazane ingaba yilungu le-asexual emphakathini ngemuva kokudlwengula noma elibuhlungu kakhulu ekuncipheni ubuntombi. Indoda ingaguqula ibe yi-asexual ngemuva kokuqala ukudumazeka ngocansi.
Ngokombono ongokwenyama, ubulili buyingcosana yemvelo yezitho zomzimba, kanti ukungabi khona kwayo isikhathi eside kuholela ezinkambisweni eziqhubekayo, ezinomthelela omubi kakhulu empilweni yabesifazane.
Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, ukungabi nalutho ukwaneliseka ngokocansi futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukukhululwa kwe-hormone yenjabulo egazini, kuholela ekuguqulweni kwezakhiwo zesimiso sezinzwa. Kungenxa yalokhu kuxhumano ukuthi abesifazane abanokungahlali isikhathi eside kwe-orgasm baba ne-nervous and whiny.
Ukwelashwa kwalesi sifo ngokuqondile kuncike ekutheni i-asexual ngokwayo ihlangabezana nanoma yikuphi ukungathandeki okuhambisana nemibono yayo ngezocansi. Uma kungekho izinkinga eziphakama futhi impilo yakho igcwele ukubonakala futhi ngaphandle kocansi, khona-ke udokotela akudingeki ahlangane nhlobo. Uma kwenzeka ungakhululekile ukuhlala kulesi simo, kodwa awukwazi ukunqoba isimo sakho sengqondo, udinga ukuphendukela kwesazi sengqondo noma isazi sezocansi.