Abantu abaningi baphikisa ukuthi amaphupho lapho othandekayo ashintshile khona, hhayi nje ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, kodwa futhi yenza ucabange, mhlawumbe ingxenye yesibili impela ithengisa njalo. Ukuqonda incazelo yokulala, kubalulekile ukuyihumusha kahle. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kubalulekile ukucabangela ngangokunokwenzeka kwemininingwane ebonwayo, futhi ukuqhathanisa ulwazi olutholiwe kanye nemicimbi yangempela.
Kungani amaphupho othando lomthandekayo?
Ngokuyinhloko, iphupho elifanayo, ngokuphambene nalokho, lubonisa ukuthi othandekayo empeleni uyinyaniso. Okunye ukuphikisana kungathathwa ukuze uthole iseluleko, ukuthi umuntu kufanele aqaphele, ngoba abantu abaseduze bangasebenzisa ngokuzethemba kwakho. Iphupho okumele libone ukuthengiswa komuntu othandekayo kusho ukuthi uhlamvu lomphuphi lungabangela ukungqubuzana nezitha. Enye yezincwadi zokuphupha, yimaphi amaphupho othandekayo ashintshayo, ahunyushwa njengesixwayiso mayelana nokuvela kwezinkinga eziningi ezingasetshenziswa kuphela ngenxa yokusizwa kwabantu abaseduze. Uma ephusheni kwakungenzeka ukuthi ufunde ngokuhlukumezeka, kodwa lo mphupha akazange abone, khona-ke kukhona izinkinga ezingaphenduliwe kulesi sibini esizoxoxa ngaso.
Bona ukuthi le nxenye ingashintsha kanjani nomuntu ojwayele, ngakho-ke, maduze zonke izinhlelo zibhujiswa. Incazelo efanayo inephupho, lapho abangane baye bashintsha khona. Sizokwazi ukuthi yini iphupho lokuzonda othandekayo intombazane ibonisa ukuthi le nkosikazi ayifuni ukushintsha nokulandela iseluleko sabanye. Amaphupho mayelana nokuhlukumezeka ngokuvamile ayisixwayiso mayelana nokuba khona kwenhlebo noma mayelana nokukhonjwa komuntu othandekayo. Enye incazelo evelele yephupho lokuhlubuka kuyisimanga esibi esithembisa ukwehluleka kwezindawo zokuphila ezahlukene.
Kuyoba okuthakazelisayo ukwazi ukuthi yilophi amaphupho, ukuthi othandekayo uyashintsha ngenxa yokuphindiselela - lokhu kuyimpawu enhle ebikezela impilo ejabulisayo neyomndeni isikhathi eside. Umbono ebusuku, lapho othandekayo ashintsha nomuntu ongamazi, kubonisa ukuthi kukhona ukucasuka, okuyiyona imbangela yezingxabano eziningi. U-Dreambook uncoma ngokuthula ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga zokuphila ngokujabula nangothando. Ukuthola ukuthi kungani uthando lomuntu othandekayo luphupha, kufanelekile ukuthi ngokuvamile amaphupho anjalo akhombisa ukungathembeki nokungaqiniseki okukhona empilweni yangempela. Umhumushi wephupho uthi ngokuvamile okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo akusikho isizathu.
Uma othandekayo ezoshintsha, kodwa ngomzuzwana wokugcina wazi ukuthi ubujamo bebucayi babuyele emuva - lesi sibonakaliso esihle esithembisa ukufika inhlanhla empilweni. Uma kwenzeka ukukhwabanzeka kwenzeka, futhi ubulili nomuntu othandekayo babenomngani omkhulu, bese kuthi empilweni yangempela ebuhlotsheni kufanelekile ukulinda ukupholisa. Umbono ebusuku, lapho kwakudingeka ukubuka ukuthi othandekayo udukisa kanjani omunye owesifazane futhi ufuna ukushintsha, ubikezela ukuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside, futhi lokhu kungase kube yinkinga yezinkinga ezizohlangana nezihlobo ngakwesokunene.
Kungani owesifazane oshadile ephupha ngokukhashelwa komuntu othandekayo?
Iphupho elinjalo lixwayisa ukuthi imisebenzi eminingi yasekhaya izothatha isikhathi eside, okusho ukuthi abantu abaseduze bazohlushwa ukungabi nalutho. Uma umuntu ebona ukukhashelwa komkakhe, khona-ke ukuguqulwa kuzokwenzeka esikhathini esizayo empilweni, futhi ngisho nalephupho ingabonisa ukuthi kukhona ukungabaza ngobuqotho bomlingani.
Kuyini umhawu womuntu othandekayo?
Ngokuvamile iphupho elinjalo lifanekisela ukukhona kwezinkinga ebuhlotsheni. Kutuswa ukunciphisa nokuxazulula zonke izinkinga ezikhona. Enye yezincwadi zokuphupha, umhawu wabathandekayo ubonisa ukwethembeka kwakhe empilweni yangempela.