Ekuphileni kwethu, kunezinhlobonhlobo ezahlukene, izinhlobo nezinhlobo zokuthembela, eziningi zazo ezingadingi ukwelashwa okukhethekile.
Kodwa-ke, ukuthembela kwengqondo kuyisifo ukuthi, ngokuqina kwethonya layo elibhubhisayo kumuntu, kufana nokuxhomeka kwendakamizwa, utshwala, ukudlala nokudla.
Ukuthembela kwengqondo komunye umuntu, futhi ikakhulukazi ukuthembela othandweni - isimo somuntu lapho yonke imicabango yakhe ibhekene nezidingo, imizwelo nezinkinga zomunye.
Uhlobo oluvame kakhulu lokuxhomeka kwengqondo kuthinta ubudlelwane. Isibonelo, ukuthembela kumyeni noma othandekayo.
Ubudlelwane obuncike ekuziphatheni kwengqondo kumyeni ezikhathini eziningi bunzima kakhulu, bunzima futhi bavame ukuxabana nomhawu . Ngenxa yokuthi umuntu othembekile akatholi ukuveza intukuthelo yakhe nobuhlungu, lobu buhlobo buvame ukuhambisana namacala okulwa nomuntu othandekayo. Umlingani obuthakathaka uhlushwa konke futhi intukuthelo iqoqa. Inhlalakahle, kanye nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwalowo muntu kuncike ngokuphelele engxenyeni yesibili.
Okubalulekile kulobu buhlobo ukuthi umuntu oyedwa (umlutha) uzizwa engaphelele, udinga ukugcwalisa yena nomunye, lokhu kuyindaba yakhe nje yendaba yokuphila nokufa. Umuntu onjalo ulungele ukubekezelela noma yikuphi ubuhlobo kuye, uma nje engenqatshiwe futhi engahlali yedwa.
Ubuhlobo obunjalo buphelile, bavame ukuphazanyiswa, kepha ukuthembela kuhlala. Awunakusiza ukucabanga ngomuntu, ukukhathazeka ngaye, nokuqoqa ulwazi ngaye ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Indlela yokubhekana nokuthembela kwengqondo?
Ngeke ukwazi ukuphuma ekuxhomekeni kwengqondo ngokushesha. Okokuqala, zama ukuthola ukuzimela okusha, futhi uqale ukwakha impilo yakho ngokwakho. Musa ukufihla kubangane nabathandekayo ukuthi uncike ekuziphatheni kwengqondo kumuntu (umyeni, umkakhe, abazali). Bacele usizo futhi bacele ukuthi ulalele. Kodwa-ke, akufanele uzisole futhi uzihlambalaze, kodwa okufanayo, kufanelekile ukuhlaziya amaphutha akho ebuhlotsheni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungalayisha usuku lwakho ngokwenza izinto ezizokusiza ukuthi uphazamiseke ekucabangeni ngothandekayo wakho. Esimweni esithile esikhethekile, lapho abangane nezihlobo bengenakusiza, udinga ukuphendukela kwesazi sengqondo.
Futhi-ke, ukuchitha ukuthembela okudingayo ukuthola okusha noma ukuqinisa, okuwumsebenzi, futhi kufanele ushintshe ukukhulumisana kubangani noma kubantu abasha.