Umbhali wencwadi ethi "Ukuhlakanipha Ebusweni Bakho" UJean Haner uphawula ukuthi izindebe zingatshela okuningi ngomuntu womuntu nokuziphatha kwakhe ebuhlotsheni, isibonelo. Ngombono wakhe, zonke izici zomzimba womuntu azinikezwa ngengozi, okusho ukuthi zingacutshungulwa futhi zihlolwe.
1. Incazelo yegolide.
Izindebe azizona ezincane futhi azizinzima. Imvelo yabanikazi babo, njengomthetho, ngokulinganisela. Abashisekeli futhi ngeke babangele abahlaziyi abangenangqondo emashumini abo. Kodwa ngeke bazilahle ngokuphelele ebuhlotsheni. Ekuphileni kwabantu abanjalo, konke kufanele kube ngokulinganisela.
2. Lipomo eliphezulu eliphakeme.
Isayensi yaseShayina yokufunda ngabanye iqinisekisiwe: uma umuntu eshintsha ubuso bakhe ngobuciko, wenza izinguquko ekugcineni kwakhe. Okusho ukuthi, uma wenze okuthile ebusweni bakho, wehla endleleni ohlele ngayo.
U-Haner ukholelwa ukuthi umuntu owenze okuthile ngezindebe zakhe eba nzima ngokwengeziwe, egoqela, eyeka ukulawula imizwelo yakhe futhi ngokuvamile uba iphayona lezinyathelo eziphawulekayo.
Uma i-lip engenhla ingaphezu kokuphansi kwezemvelo, khona-ke umnikazi wayo kufanele abe umuntu ovulekile nozwela, obani izinkinga zabanye abantu abakhathazeka kakhulu kunabo.
3. Lipomo eliphansi elivulekile.
Ngokuvamile, abantu abafuna ukuzitholela, kanye nabashumayeli beqiniso kanye nalabo abafuna ukuthola injabulo eyengeziwe ekuphileni, ngokuvamile baqhubeka nokusebenza ukuze bandise umlomo ophansi.
4. Zombili izindebe ezincibilikile ezivela emvelweni.
Cishe isimo esihle. Abanikazi bakhe ngaphezu kwanoma yini emhlabeni bayakujabulela umama. Banakekela kuqala futhi babaluleke kakhulu ngabanye futhi bathole injabulo yangempela kuyo. Bakhetha ngokucophelela abangane futhi bavele beguqule nabantu abasha. Futhi abantu abanjalo bayakwazisa ubuhlobo.
5. Izindebe eziphezulu nezingaphansi.
Abanikazi bamakhemikhali abo, okuwukuphela kwabo abazizwa bekhululekile. Cha, lokhu akusho ukuthi abantu abanjalo babi ebuhlotsheni. Abaningi babo badala izinyunyana ezingezansi ezinamandla kunabaningi "abahloniphekile". Ngesikhathi nje lapho bekhululekile kakhulu bodwa.
6. Umgogodla ophezulu we-lip ufana namaphiko aphikisiwe.
Abanikazi bale fomu yezindebe bangokukhulumisana okuhle. Ziyi-savvy nokudala. Ngenxa yokuzikhandla kwabo, ngokuvamile bathi, ngaphambi kokucabanga, ngaleyo ndlela kucasula abanye.
7. Amathiphu amaningi aselebeni eliphezulu.
Bachaza umuntu njengomusa kakhulu futhi ohloniphekile, onesihawu nozwela.
8. Cishe ilungile ephezulu.
Lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuntuleka kwemingcele engokomzwelo. Abantu abanezindebe ezinjalo abazenzi lutho. Inkinga yabo enkulu ukuthi bazama ukuzibamba isixazululo kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga, ngezinye izikhathi hhayi ngisho nezabo. Futhi lokhu akusiyo njalo isinqumo esifanele.
9. Izindebe zemvelo ezinezikhukhula phezulu nangaphansi.
Abanikazi bezindebe ezinjalo banamathele ukuba babe yimbangela yokunakwa futhi abakhuthazelele isizungu. Ebudlelwaneni, bajwayele ukulinganisa kanye nobugovu. Kodwa isimo esijabulisayo nesimo sengqondo ezimweni eziningi kuncike kulezi zinkinga.
10. Umlomo omncane ngezindebe ezincane.
Ebudlelwaneni, abanikazi balokhu kuqala bacabanga ngabo. Kodwa empeleni akuzona zobugovu kangaka. Ngemva kokuthola ingxenye edingekayo yokunakwa kusukela engxenyeni yesibili, ngokushesha bayashesha ukukhokha imali efanele. Lapho usemusha, laba bantu bangase bahlupheke ngesidingo sokuba nokuxhumana ohlangothini. Kodwa uma bekhula banamafutha amaningi.
11. I-lip engenayo engapheli futhi ephansi.
Abanikazi bezindebe ezinjalo basebenza kuqala. Ngenxa yalokhu, kunezinkinga kaningi ebuhlotsheni. Bajwayele ukusheshisa ngandlela-thile endaweni ethile ngakho-ke abazi kahle ukuthi bangaphumule kanjani. Ngokwezibalo, uHaner, izindebe ezinjalo zinamadoda angu-60%.
12. Umlomo omkhulu kanye nezindebe ezikhukhulayo.
Umuntu onomlomo onjalo unika futhi uhlale ecabanga ngalokho angasiza khona kwabanye. Ngokuphambene nalokho, abantu abanemilomo emikhulu nezindebe ezincane bafihlekile futhi bazikhukhumeza.
UHaner uyaqiniseka ukuthi okwenzekayo ngomlomo phakathi nosuku kuthinta ubuhlobo. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, uma udinga izindebe zakho kakhulu, ubuhlobo bungase buqale ukuba nezinkinga.